Girls how would it make you feel and what would you do if a guy who initially rejected you, later asked you out?

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Answer 1

Cynicaldreamer | 630 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

I'd think he realized, "Okay, maybe I should give her a chance..." Or he's desperate and is dating me out of pity, for sex, or no other available options.

In other words, I wouldn't be interested. If I wasn't good enough for him the first time, why did he suddenly decide I was worth giving another chance?

The only exception to that would be if he rejected me due to him being taken or seeing someone, but he later became single and wanted to get to know me- obviously that's different. But if he shot me down due to him not wanting me the first time? That just seems wishy-washy to me.

Asker

21 d
I told her that I had always liked her from day one and that I only held back as I was with someone (who I’m not with now). Despite this she seems very pissed off and doesn’t take me seriously. What is she possibly thinking here?
NorthShoreCalling

20 d
She may not think you’re that serious and are only seeing her as a back up option, which to be fair would feel insulting.
Cynicaldreamer

20 d
@NorthShoreCalling Exactly. I couldn't have said it better myself. You always liked her, yet you didn't approach her before you were in a relationship or say so sooner, why?

That would make me think you like me, but not enough to commit to me, which yes, is insulting. You probably didn't mean it that way, but that's how she sees it
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Asker

20 d
I absolutely never meant it that way, it was actually harder for me to distance myself than go all in when I was taken; really! But it’s very helpful to know how I’m coming across.

Answer 2

Asker

I told her that I had always liked her from day one and that I only held back as I was with someone (who I’m not with now). Despite this she seems very pissed off and doesn’t take me seriously. What is she possibly thinking here?

Answer 3

NorthShoreCalling

She may not think you’re that serious and are only seeing her as a back up option, which to be fair would feel insulting.

Answer 4

Cynicaldreamer

@NorthShoreCalling Exactly. I couldn't have said it better myself. You always liked her, yet you didn't approach her before you were in a relationship or say so sooner, why?

That would make me think you like me, but not enough to commit to me, which yes, is insulting. You probably didn't mean it that way, but that's how she sees it

Answer 5

Asker

I absolutely never meant it that way, it was actually harder for me to distance myself than go all in when I was taken; really! But it’s very helpful to know how I’m coming across.

Answer 6

btbc92 | 2K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

Like I'm his pity option. I had plenty done that to me because they didn't like the fact that wasn't interested in dating them because I wasn't ready, couldn't date, and wanted to be friends first to see compatibility. If a guy suddenly came to me because he didn't like me anymore because I stick to my standards and morals that God has given me, then it's his problem. They usually want what they once had avaliable. It's best to leave the past in the past and move forward. And God had to show me that. Sometimes he protects us from the person because they wouldn't be good for the future.

Answer 7

ItsDre

Xper 1

Definitely not a girl, but I want to give props to my cousin on this question.
When she started high school she was overweight, quite a bit. There was a guy she liked but he acted like she didn't even exist.
She spent the rest of her high school career doing "tae Bo", the old exercise tapes, and got in great shape.
One day this same guy asked her if she'd like to go out some time. She quickly reminded him that he treated her like she didn't exist before so he could just keep doing that instead.

Answer 8

perfectchaos

Xper 7

Did it kind of to a girl. I told her I was going to date her I just have to do my move first. She laughed and said ok. My move is to pick them up with flowers in the seat blaring hootie and the blowfish only want to be with you. She laughed and said I was the first guy to ever give her flowers.

Answer 9

PinkMichae | 245 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

I've been there. I was so in love with this guy. We were together all the time for 5 years like we were a sexless couple. Best friends. But I fell in love and he was apparently in love with someone else that was unavailable. I finally had to break away to get over him if I ever wanted to heal my broken heart

10 years later out of the blue I get a call from him. It didn't take him long to tell me I was the one that got away and he wish he would have married me. At first it was everything I ever wanted to hear him say because I couldn't understand how my heart was so wrong back then feeling there was something there. But the more I thought about it I couldn't allow my heart to trust him again because of how much he broke it.

Eventually when I told him that he disappeared again.

Answer 10

psychoticanimallover

Xper 5

First I’d be like uhhhhm and then I’d be like weeeellllllll and then I’d be a bit like oohhhhh and then I’d get a bit sort of ughhhh and then we’d all live happily ever after.

Asker

19 d
I’ve got her to the uhhhhm stage, let’s hope for my sake that she continues to progress the emotional pathway you outlined.
psychoticanimallover

19 d
☺️ .

Answer 11

Asker

I’ve got her to the uhhhhm stage, let’s hope for my sake that she continues to progress the emotional pathway you outlined.

Answer 12

psychoticanimallover

☺️ .

Answer 13

Anonymous

I wouldn’t care and say no. This dude I dated had a crush on me , I gave him a chance, later started losing feelings for me and cheated, was mean as hel to me, then broke up with me and left me in pieces, but after some time he wanted me back and even if he changed I still said NO and now I’m happy without him in my life and with someone els😌

Answer 14

Alyssa11 | 110 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Explorer

This has happened to me and I just feel very very confused.

Asker

19 d
As you were understandably confused, did you eventually take steps to clarify the situation with the guy?
Alyssa11

17 d
I didn't want him again lol. I'm a changed person now.

Answer 15

Asker

As you were understandably confused, did you eventually take steps to clarify the situation with the guy?

Answer 16

Alyssa11

I didn't want him again lol. I'm a changed person now.

Answer 17

Anonymous

Personally depending on the person I would possibly give them a shot but most likely I wouldn’t for me after being rejected I honestly just lose feelings for that person and move on life is life and I’m not gonna live it waiting around for someone to like me back or for them just to move onto me because they couldn’t get with some other girl.

Answer 18

Yads_Is_Back

Guru

I wouldn’t care because when they say no you just move on. I wouldn’t give him a second chance, if that’s what you’re asking. He said no for a reason, whatever it might have been, so no is no.

Answer 19

Youryeodongsaeng

Xper 6

I'd ask why and if it's reasonable and logical, then I'll say yes. If it's illogical and doesn't make any sense after breaking it down, I'm the one who is going to be rejecting.

Answer 20

Connie2011

Xper 2

I would wonder why this guy rejected me initially. I would probably not give him a second chance, because this guy could change it back and then dump you just because. Why do you want her now and didn't at first though?

SilverRose10

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@Grubhub your rude
Asker

20 d
@Grubhub this is a serious discussion and people are giving up their own time to help. No need for this.
Asker

20 d
I liked her from day one but I was taken. Because I liked her and there was potential for me to cheat I had to help her feel like there was no chance between us for my own survival as she was quite keen. I’ve since broken up and am in a position to act on my feelings.
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Grubhub

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@ silverrose! You’re *
Connie2011

20 d
I see. I think you should open up and make your feelings known so she knows it. I wouldn't put all my expectations on it because maybe since she could've moved on, but I would still let her know. If she accepts your confession or not is her decision. You should be ready for whatever the outcome is.
SilverRose10

19 d
@Grubhub your right my bad, you're rude. Not being sarcastic, thanks for the correction.
Grubhub

18 d
@ asked! She was rude on my question so I returned the favor

Answer 21

SilverRose10

@Grubhub your rude

Answer 22

Asker

@Grubhub this is a serious discussion and people are giving up their own time to help. No need for this.

Answer 23

Asker

I liked her from day one but I was taken. Because I liked her and there was potential for me to cheat I had to help her feel like there was no chance between us for my own survival as she was quite keen. I’ve since broken up and am in a position to act on my feelings.

Answer 24

Grubhub

@ silverrose! You’re *

Answer 25

Connie2011

I see. I think you should open up and make your feelings known so she knows it. I wouldn't put all my expectations on it because maybe since she could've moved on, but I would still let her know. If she accepts your confession or not is her decision. You should be ready for whatever the outcome is.

Answer 26

SilverRose10

@Grubhub your right my bad, you're rude. Not being sarcastic, thanks for the correction.

Answer 27

Grubhub

@ asked! She was rude on my question so I returned the favor

Answer 28

Newhead

Xper 6

Tell him to hit the road Jack and don't come back no more. Why the hell would he even come back? no take-backsies.

Answer 29

Account | 5.9K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

Nothing. I wouldn't feel anything.
I'd just have to reject them because it wouldn't work for me anymore.

Answer 30

Galian84

Xper 5

No... because I’d feel like the girl (s) he really wanted, rejected him and that’s why he’s coming back to me.

Answer 31

cth96190 | 477 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

It is rare for a female younger than 30 to make the initial approach, so few women would experience rejection.

Answer 32

alexxehellz

Xper 1

Petty asf like so what changed? Realized u was missing out?

Asker

20 d
I’ve come out of my previous relationship, after doing everything I could to make it work.

Answer 33

Asker

I’ve come out of my previous relationship, after doing everything I could to make it work.

Answer 34

Anonymous

I wouldn't go out with him. I wouldn't be able to trust his sincerity

Answer 35

DiscomfortZone | 136 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

Lol their egos would sky rocket enough to dump whoever it is their dating and go for it. Happens all the time.

Answer 36

Bee-Hatch | 106 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

Best be a really good an believable reason. Otherwise it'd be a hard pass on that opportunity.

Answer 37

GoldenTulip

Xper 4

No second thoughts on that... the moment is already gone.. would feel like a second option because obviously i wasn't good enough in the first place. So.. no

Answer 38

Anonymous

I’d be suspicious of his motives so unless he explained with something that felt like the truth I’m not sure I’d go there.

Answer 39

Cookiecakeday

Xper 1

I would feel upset and annoyed because how can you reject someone and then change your mind?

Answer 40

SaraSmithishere | 57 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

Well, I've never been rejected by a guy but if this happened I'd be open to it.

Answer 41

Nazgol

Xper 4

Either reject them back or make them suffer for some time before accepting it

Answer 42

Janessa2021

Xper 2

I've had this happen before , a guy didn't think I was pretty and weird. So after I hit the gym and fixed myself up he won't leave my social media tf alone

Answer 43

Anonymous

Since I've started dating, no guy has ever rejected me.

Answer 44

Anonymous

I'd need time to think about it. Ask for the reason he changed his mind and go off of that

Answer 45

TheReturnOfTheGrump

Xper 5

Who? Nah... I'm good.. F them...

TheReturnOfTheGrump

20 d
Id reject that bitch right back.. Dont even worry about what im doing.
TheReturnOfTheGrump

20 d
That's how they help.. By relentlessly trying to ruin and destroy your life and murder you for the past 20 years right.. Lol.. Fu people...
TheReturnOfTheGrump

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What a selfish bitch right.. I am so tired of you peoplr practically dedicaring ylur lives to fucking up mine.. Leace me the f alone already. You ain't welocmed and ylur opinions..
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TheReturnOfTheGrump

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Are you fucking kidding me? Id leace that bitch no problem.

Answer 46

TheReturnOfTheGrump

Id reject that bitch right back.. Dont even worry about what im doing.

Answer 47

TheReturnOfTheGrump

That's how they help.. By relentlessly trying to ruin and destroy your life and murder you for the past 20 years right.. Lol.. Fu people...

Answer 48

TheReturnOfTheGrump

What a selfish bitch right.. I am so tired of you peoplr practically dedicaring ylur lives to fucking up mine.. Leace me the f alone already. You ain't welocmed and ylur opinions..

Answer 49

TheReturnOfTheGrump

Are you fucking kidding me? Id leace that bitch no problem.

Answer 50

likelyOK | 133 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Explorer

That ship would have already sailed for me.

Answer 51

dandiecandie | 159 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Explorer

Depends on what I feel about him

Answer 52

Agape93 | 664 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

I wouldn’t care. I won’t date him.

Answer 53

aestheticcxx

Xper 2

Feel like he’s trying to use me for something

Answer 54

Anonymous

People change over time. I'd give it a shot 🤷‍♀️

Answer 55

Manduh

Xper 5

I'd say boi bye

Answer 56

Anonymous

Did you feel this way about a girl?

Asker

20 d
Yes I did
Opinion Owner

20 d
Why did you decide to go back to her?
Asker

20 d
I liked her from day one but I was taken. Because I liked her and there was potential for me to cheat I had to help her feel like there was no chance between us for my own survival as she was quite keen. I’ve since broken up and am in a position to act on my feelings.
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Opinion Owner

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I see. How did you meet her?
Asker

20 d
We met at work and we have worked together for 11 months (I approached her after 11 months).
Opinion Owner

19 d
Oh man. Your ex will feel bad though?

Kinda harsh tbh. My ex left me for his coworker and its something I still feel sour about years later
Asker

19 d
Sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I know what you mean but this is why I never made my feelings known before because my intention was to try my very honest best to make it work with my ex. It’s only once the situation with my ex’s became very bad that I decided to leave her and am now in a place to act on my feelings. Hopefully that comes across slightly different to your ex’s behaviour. Because if it doesn’t, it’s probably another reason why she’s doubting my credibility.

Answer 57

Asker

Yes I did

Answer 58

Opinion Owner

Why did you decide to go back to her?

Answer 59

Asker

I liked her from day one but I was taken. Because I liked her and there was potential for me to cheat I had to help her feel like there was no chance between us for my own survival as she was quite keen. I’ve since broken up and am in a position to act on my feelings.

Answer 60

Opinion Owner

I see. How did you meet her?

Answer 61

Asker

We met at work and we have worked together for 11 months (I approached her after 11 months).

Answer 62

Opinion Owner

Oh man. Your ex will feel bad though?

Kinda harsh tbh. My ex left me for his coworker and its something I still feel sour about years later

Answer 63

Asker

Sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I know what you mean but this is why I never made my feelings known before because my intention was to try my very honest best to make it work with my ex. It’s only once the situation with my ex’s became very bad that I decided to leave her and am now in a place to act on my feelings. Hopefully that comes across slightly different to your ex’s behaviour. Because if it doesn’t, it’s probably another reason why she’s doubting my credibility.