Girls how would it make you feel and what would you do if a guy who initially rejected you, later asked you out?

- I'd think he realized, "Okay, maybe I should give her a chance..." Or he's desperate and is dating me out of pity, for sex, or no other available options.
In other words, I wouldn't be interested. If I wasn't good enough for him the first time, why did he suddenly decide I was worth giving another chance?
The only exception to that would be if he rejected me due to him being taken or seeing someone, but he later became single and wanted to get to know me- obviously that's different. But if he shot me down due to him not wanting me the first time? That just seems wishy-washy to me.3|10|0Is this still revelant?She may not think you’re that serious and are only seeing her as a back up option, which to be fair would feel insulting.
@NorthShoreCalling Exactly. I couldn't have said it better myself. You always liked her, yet you didn't approach her before you were in a relationship or say so sooner, why?
That would make me think you like me, but not enough to commit to me, which yes, is insulting. You probably didn't mean it that way, but that's how she sees it- Show All Show Less
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- Like I'm his pity option. I had plenty done that to me because they didn't like the fact that wasn't interested in dating them because I wasn't ready, couldn't date, and wanted to be friends first to see compatibility. If a guy suddenly came to me because he didn't like me anymore because I stick to my standards and morals that God has given me, then it's his problem. They usually want what they once had avaliable. It's best to leave the past in the past and move forward. And God had to show me that. Sometimes he protects us from the person because they wouldn't be good for the future.2|10|0Is this still revelant?
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- Definitely not a girl, but I want to give props to my cousin on this question.
When she started high school she was overweight, quite a bit. There was a guy she liked but he acted like she didn't even exist.
She spent the rest of her high school career doing "tae Bo", the old exercise tapes, and got in great shape.
One day this same guy asked her if she'd like to go out some time. She quickly reminded him that he treated her like she didn't exist before so he could just keep doing that instead.0|10|0Is this still revelant? - Did it kind of to a girl. I told her I was going to date her I just have to do my move first. She laughed and said ok. My move is to pick them up with flowers in the seat blaring hootie and the blowfish only want to be with you. She laughed and said I was the first guy to ever give her flowers.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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303- I've been there. I was so in love with this guy. We were together all the time for 5 years like we were a sexless couple. Best friends. But I fell in love and he was apparently in love with someone else that was unavailable. I finally had to break away to get over him if I ever wanted to heal my broken heart
10 years later out of the blue I get a call from him. It didn't take him long to tell me I was the one that got away and he wish he would have married me. At first it was everything I ever wanted to hear him say because I couldn't understand how my heart was so wrong back then feeling there was something there. But the more I thought about it I couldn't allow my heart to trust him again because of how much he broke it.
Eventually when I told him that he disappeared again.1|10|0 - First I’d be like uhhhhm and then I’d be like weeeellllllll and then I’d be a bit like oohhhhh and then I’d get a bit sort of ughhhh and then we’d all live happily ever after.0|10|0
- Anonymous20 dI wouldn’t care and say no. This dude I dated had a crush on me , I gave him a chance, later started losing feelings for me and cheated, was mean as hel to me, then broke up with me and left me in pieces, but after some time he wanted me back and even if he changed I still said NO and now I’m happy without him in my life and with someone els😌1|10|0
- This has happened to me and I just feel very very confused.0|10|0
- Anonymous19 dPersonally depending on the person I would possibly give them a shot but most likely I wouldn’t for me after being rejected I honestly just lose feelings for that person and move on life is life and I’m not gonna live it waiting around for someone to like me back or for them just to move onto me because they couldn’t get with some other girl.0|10|0
- I wouldn’t care because when they say no you just move on. I wouldn’t give him a second chance, if that’s what you’re asking. He said no for a reason, whatever it might have been, so no is no.1|10|0
- I'd ask why and if it's reasonable and logical, then I'll say yes. If it's illogical and doesn't make any sense after breaking it down, I'm the one who is going to be rejecting.1|10|0
- I would wonder why this guy rejected me initially. I would probably not give him a second chance, because this guy could change it back and then dump you just because. Why do you want her now and didn't at first though?1|11|1
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I see. I think you should open up and make your feelings known so she knows it. I wouldn't put all my expectations on it because maybe since she could've moved on, but I would still let her know. If she accepts your confession or not is her decision. You should be ready for whatever the outcome is.
@Grubhub your right my bad, you're rude. Not being sarcastic, thanks for the correction.
- Tell him to hit the road Jack and don't come back no more. Why the hell would he even come back? no take-backsies.0|00|0
- Nothing. I wouldn't feel anything.
I'd just have to reject them because it wouldn't work for me anymore.2|10|0 - No... because I’d feel like the girl (s) he really wanted, rejected him and that’s why he’s coming back to me.1|10|0
- It is rare for a female younger than 30 to make the initial approach, so few women would experience rejection.0|00|0
- Petty asf like so what changed? Realized u was missing out?0|20|0
- Anonymous21 dI wouldn't go out with him. I wouldn't be able to trust his sincerity4|10|0
- Lol their egos would sky rocket enough to dump whoever it is their dating and go for it. Happens all the time.0|00|0
- Best be a really good an believable reason. Otherwise it'd be a hard pass on that opportunity.0|10|0
- No second thoughts on that... the moment is already gone.. would feel like a second option because obviously i wasn't good enough in the first place. So.. no0|10|0
- Anonymous20 dI’d be suspicious of his motives so unless he explained with something that felt like the truth I’m not sure I’d go there.2|11|0
- I would feel upset and annoyed because how can you reject someone and then change your mind?1|10|0
- Well, I've never been rejected by a guy but if this happened I'd be open to it.0|10|0
- Either reject them back or make them suffer for some time before accepting it1|10|0
- I've had this happen before , a guy didn't think I was pretty and weird. So after I hit the gym and fixed myself up he won't leave my social media tf alone1|00|0
- Anonymous19 dSince I've started dating, no guy has ever rejected me.0|00|0
- Anonymous20 dI'd need time to think about it. Ask for the reason he changed his mind and go off of that1|10|0
- Who? Nah... I'm good.. F them...0|00|0
That's how they help.. By relentlessly trying to ruin and destroy your life and murder you for the past 20 years right.. Lol.. Fu people...
What a selfish bitch right.. I am so tired of you peoplr practically dedicaring ylur lives to fucking up mine.. Leace me the f alone already. You ain't welocmed and ylur opinions..
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- That ship would have already sailed for me.1|10|0
- Depends on what I feel about him0|10|0
- I wouldn’t care. I won’t date him.0|10|0
- Anonymous20 dPeople change over time. I'd give it a shot 🤷♀️0|10|0
- Anonymous20 dDid you feel this way about a girl?0|00|1
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- Asker19 d
Sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I know what you mean but this is why I never made my feelings known before because my intention was to try my very honest best to make it work with my ex. It’s only once the situation with my ex’s became very bad that I decided to leave her and am now in a place to act on my feelings. Hopefully that comes across slightly different to your ex’s behaviour. Because if it doesn’t, it’s probably another reason why she’s doubting my credibility.
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