Why Do Some Girls Have Hoe Tendencies (Read Below!)?

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I am not slut shaming anybody TO EACH THEIR OWN.

I had a certain family member who would hit on every moving being with a di** on it. This included trying to sleep with my boyfriends, my best friend's dad (YES!) and just overall humiliating me to a point where I had to cut her off.

I came across a YouTube StoryTime Series, where someone had a similar experience with a step-sister.

These situations are horrendous because when you are related to a girl who has tried to sleep with everyone, you are automatically associated with her. I had to cut this certain family member off because she started causing me some reallllllly big issues.

I am just wondering why do some people feel the need to behave this way?
She's always been around her family so I can't really see a direct cause in her home life.

Answer 1

Jonn123

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If you've read psychology or know the basics, you'd know that most behavior and behavioral patterns are formed during the early stages of a persons life.

A lot of girls have a good libido but don't sleep around with everything on two legs. That's because they have a healthy relationship towards sex, and also because they have their morals in check. These are signs of a good childhood.

But the girls who sleep around with everything that has two legs, are most likely trying to fill some sort of void. Might be attention issues, or reassurance through sex, or just feeling in power. All of these are things that most likely have been created during childhood. Attention issues arise when parents don't give you attention, reassurance issues can arise when you don't get appreciated by your parents, and feeling in power can be if you generally felt very powerless in your childhood.

"I am just wondering why do some people feel the need to behave in this way?" Again, there's most likely more beneath the surface. And even though she's with her family all the time, that doesn't mean that everything's been a dance on red roses. Aditionally, issues in school or other places can also cause issues with the same outcome you're asking about.

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Alyssa11

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Thank you for sharing - these are the kind of answers I'm looking for! I really do wonder what it is because her behaviour is definitely not normal, it goes beyond a high sex drive. And like you've mentioned, many girls including myself and some of my friends have a good libido but it doesn't dictate our decisions.
Jonn123

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No problem.

I mean, by our and society's standards, no it's definitely not normal or "okay". However, what we perceive as wrong might just be her realitr. It might be that she feels like this is normal. I don't know if you're planning on confronting her or anything, but either way, a psychologist might be a good idea.
Alyssa11

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You are right but I do think that it becomes abnormal when it starts to cause problems for herself, for me, and for the people surrounding her. I've tried to confront her and she would respond by crying and promising that she would stop. And then she goes back to her old habits. It's a cycle and a psychologist would be a good idea.
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Jonn123

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Reality*

And definitely something wrong with her, that's for sure. Also the crying response is often utilized (especially by girls) when they want pity and to get out of a situation. She probably felt confronted and took the easy way out with empty promises and no action behind her words.

A psychologist is most likely the best way to remedy this quickly and effectively. Habits are a difficult beast to get rid of, and it sounds like she might've tried but failed.

Answer 2

Alyssa11

Thank you for sharing - these are the kind of answers I'm looking for! I really do wonder what it is because her behaviour is definitely not normal, it goes beyond a high sex drive. And like you've mentioned, many girls including myself and some of my friends have a good libido but it doesn't dictate our decisions.

Answer 3

Jonn123

No problem.

I mean, by our and society's standards, no it's definitely not normal or "okay". However, what we perceive as wrong might just be her realitr. It might be that she feels like this is normal. I don't know if you're planning on confronting her or anything, but either way, a psychologist might be a good idea.

Answer 4

Alyssa11

You are right but I do think that it becomes abnormal when it starts to cause problems for herself, for me, and for the people surrounding her. I've tried to confront her and she would respond by crying and promising that she would stop. And then she goes back to her old habits. It's a cycle and a psychologist would be a good idea.

Answer 5

Jonn123

Reality*

And definitely something wrong with her, that's for sure. Also the crying response is often utilized (especially by girls) when they want pity and to get out of a situation. She probably felt confronted and took the easy way out with empty promises and no action behind her words.

A psychologist is most likely the best way to remedy this quickly and effectively. Habits are a difficult beast to get rid of, and it sounds like she might've tried but failed.

Answer 6

Xavier16

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Hoe phase. A lot of women go through a phase where they justt want to have (fun) before settling down.

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Alyssa11

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I mean I understand but I've never felt the need to hit on my cousin's best friend's dad in front of everyone. Guess we're all different! :)
Xavier16

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Yeah now that's out of pocket
Alyssa11

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I know right! I was humiliated!! :/

Answer 7

Alyssa11

I mean I understand but I've never felt the need to hit on my cousin's best friend's dad in front of everyone. Guess we're all different! :)

Answer 8

Xavier16

Yeah now that's out of pocket

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Alyssa11

I know right! I was humiliated!! :/

Answer 10

iseekpinetrees | 385 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

Depends on the persons past. If she was sexually abused that can make a person feel like their a piece of trash so they think that's all they are worth and seek out being used by others as said trash. Can also be from being oppressed by a religious family being told no makes you really want to do the forbidden thing your told not to do. Can also be. Can be from drug use as a way to get money for more drugs. Can be from a sex addiction. Can be just from someone who's into that kink. Can be a narcissist who knows how to use men to get what she wants. Most men want sex from a young hot thing.

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Answer 11

laurieluvsit | 310 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

You can't only look at external forces.

Most of it is internal and is just the natural proclivities she was born with. Many learn to control it without much problem, but others... not so much.

Don't stop loving her because that is what she is searching for the most

Be sure she knows that when the day finally arrives when she realizes that she isn't going to get that love from strangers, that you will still be there for her regardless. ... that is what you can do. Why Do Some Girls Have Hoe Tendencies (Read Below!)?

Why Do Some Girls Have Hoe Tendencies (Read Below!)?

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Alyssa11

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This is very heartwarming. I've tried my best to love her through everything and I stuck by her through it all, but it gets to a point where it's ruining my life too. I hope one day as we get older, she matures and learns that there is a time and place for everything.
laurieluvsit

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Yes, I understand you and you are correct to distance yourself from any activities that are unacceptable to you, without question.

My point is just to say that..."Many of us don't know how far just a simple hug will go when needed and will be remembered over time" :)
Alyssa11

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You are right, I will remember this :)

Answer 12

Alyssa11

This is very heartwarming. I've tried my best to love her through everything and I stuck by her through it all, but it gets to a point where it's ruining my life too. I hope one day as we get older, she matures and learns that there is a time and place for everything.

Answer 13

laurieluvsit

Yes, I understand you and you are correct to distance yourself from any activities that are unacceptable to you, without question.

My point is just to say that..."Many of us don't know how far just a simple hug will go when needed and will be remembered over time" :)

Answer 14

Alyssa11

You are right, I will remember this :)

Answer 15

Anonymous

Low self esteem. No identity. Some kind of trauma. May have even been sexually abused. Its quite sad, but there is usually a dark reason why. They don't just hoe to be a hoe. I knew the biggest hoe, it came to be that she was raped when she was 7.

When you are sexually abused your body feels like it is not your own and you don't respect your body. It can go both ways, either an abused person completely shuts sex and relationships down completely or "hoes" around

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Alyssa11

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Now that is interesting!

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Alyssa11

Now that is interesting!

Answer 17

Anonymous

Look up nymphomaniacs.
There really are women that have that disorder and they need sex a lot, everyday, it's an addiction.
They have trouble keeping relationships because their boyfriends can't keep up and she can't stay loyal.

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Alyssa11

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Oh my goodness.

Answer 18

Alyssa11

Oh my goodness.

Answer 19

Brownbored

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Unpopular opinion: since we have tons of guys who behave that way.. its refreshing to hear that a girl has the guts to act as such too

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Alyssa11

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Lol there definitely is!!
Brownbored

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Introduce me!!! Lol 🤣
Alyssa11

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Don't know if that's a good idea haha! But the person I've mentioned in my Q definitely is.
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Brownbored

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Oh its an idea on the level of general relativity!!! Such is its greatness :)

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Alyssa11

Lol there definitely is!!

Answer 21

Brownbored

Introduce me!!! Lol 🤣

Answer 22

Alyssa11

Don't know if that's a good idea haha! But the person I've mentioned in my Q definitely is.

Answer 23

Brownbored

Oh its an idea on the level of general relativity!!! Such is its greatness :)

Answer 24

Gedaria

Master

Some people love sex the physical act, maybe it's need. You have a hitch you have to scratch it.
But it takes two?

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Answer 25

Liam_Hayden

Guru

Some people have high sex drives. Some people crave a lot of attention from the opposite sex. Some people have both.

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Answer 26

Hangry22

Guru

They feel empowered and like a winner when they snatch someone else's man

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Answer 27

Hmmmbetternothere

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I think it is a phase in life. Some grow out of it others don't.

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Answer 28

Anonymous

Did you ever considered she may be a nympho? Some women are born with that and it is a very hard hunger to control.

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Alyssa11

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Oh wow
Opinion Owner

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I had 2 nympho girlfriends they are hard to control almost got raped by one several times
Alyssa11

1 y
I mean this is something I definitely want to look more into because I had no idea it was a thing! For the most part, I know some women have higher libidos than others but didn't know about this.
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Opinion Owner

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Ohh well you should look up into it you may find it interesting. Some women are wet all the time and want it even more.. such a woman can cum to ten times a day at least.

Answer 29

Alyssa11

Oh wow

Answer 30

Opinion Owner

I had 2 nympho girlfriends they are hard to control almost got raped by one several times

Answer 31

Alyssa11

I mean this is something I definitely want to look more into because I had no idea it was a thing! For the most part, I know some women have higher libidos than others but didn't know about this.

Answer 32

Opinion Owner

Ohh well you should look up into it you may find it interesting. Some women are wet all the time and want it even more.. such a woman can cum to ten times a day at least.

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bklynbadboy1 | 408 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

Low self-esteem and looking for exceptance and validation

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chriscdi

Master

what a toxic human being

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Alyssa11

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Haha, very, very toxic...

Answer 35

Alyssa11

Haha, very, very toxic...

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MsLivy

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Might just be going through a hoe phase

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Answer 37

Anonymous

attention seeking and desperate and daddy issues

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msc545 | 593 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

Need for attention and affection.

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Answer 39

Kelly6 | 383 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

I’m a proud slut

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Alyssa11

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I know... I remember when you privately messaged me LOL
Alex_988_2

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@Kelly6 what makes you feel proud.
I would like to know this psychology
Kelly6

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@Alex_988_2 can tell in private
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Alex_988_2

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Ok P M me
And foll ow me too by the way