Should I continue pursuing her?

Question

So I've been talking to this girl long distance for years. Finally got a chance to fly her here in March. We talked all the time and stuff. She wants to come and party and go on dates. She even states that she can't wait for future dates. She also want to wear matching outfits on st patricks day. As I try to figure out the dates for her to come. She stop replying.

Seen her post on fb, but she doesn't have the time to answer the question I asked. So three days later, I message her went back and forth couple of messages. Then I asked if she still coming to visit so I can set the dates. She said, "I have to make sure I can get the time off and I got to work out my vacation days". I just told her I'll get back with her to get an update. Is this a way for her to blow me off and should I move on?

Answer 1

CelticCrusader

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Too me this sounds like #real life problems. I would hang in there for at least a couple months probably more cause let's face it working is a total b$#&@ and it sound like real life is messing with her plans to see you. Of course a good thing to do might just be to outright ask her. Communication, communication, communication.

Asker

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Yeah. You're right. As making plans, she wanted to come during st patricks day weekend even go to another state for a vacation. Some days she be hot and cold with me. Thinking about scaling back communication.
CelticCrusader

12 d
I wouldn't recommend that. Don't be needy but remind her your there maybe message her once a day to see if she replies and if she does than chat her up as she is available day to day
Asker

12 d
She's available to talk everyday. Sometimes she be into it. Saying we should do things together and set things up. The next she be dry af with one or two words reply.
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CelticCrusader

12 d
That sounds normal just keep up with what you're doing there's nothing going wrong it's just life being life. She's still into you
Asker

12 d
She messaged me around midnight asking for help with a something for her job.
CelticCrusader

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That's a sign of trust which is good news hang in there dude there's nothing wrong in your relationship this just sounds like growing pains from life messing with things

Answer 2

Asker

Yeah. You're right. As making plans, she wanted to come during st patricks day weekend even go to another state for a vacation. Some days she be hot and cold with me. Thinking about scaling back communication.

Answer 3

CelticCrusader

I wouldn't recommend that. Don't be needy but remind her your there maybe message her once a day to see if she replies and if she does than chat her up as she is available day to day

Answer 4

Asker

She's available to talk everyday. Sometimes she be into it. Saying we should do things together and set things up. The next she be dry af with one or two words reply.

Answer 5

CelticCrusader

That sounds normal just keep up with what you're doing there's nothing going wrong it's just life being life. She's still into you

Answer 6

Asker

She messaged me around midnight asking for help with a something for her job.

Answer 7

CelticCrusader

That's a sign of trust which is good news hang in there dude there's nothing wrong in your relationship this just sounds like growing pains from life messing with things

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