Why do my parents and friends tell me I should at some point find a woman when I clearly do not want to?

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I keep telling them i never want to find a girlfriend cause I know I am unattractive , as many women told me that and I have been rejected countless times. So I have decided not to participate in all of that. Why is that bad?

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btbc92

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Here is what you have to understand. If you judge your worth based on that, your only making yourself unhappy. It's not about just finding a girlfriend. It's about believing your the right person called for that life. For not everybody is, but it's not because of physical attractiveness. Your approaching women for something that comes off shallow. Shallow people do that and thus emotional or sensitive people like myself get hurt. Either way, if you don't want to, you don't have to. Most people get uncomfortable with people who prefer celibate lives. While it's lonely at times because people make it that way deliberately, singleness is not a bad thing. And the Bible shows us that it's not. But that being with another person can be very fulfilling when you have a life partner, with families.

I say it depends on your culture, family, and community. Most people today put the focus on procreation and physical attraction is nearly 9/10 important. If you're not sexually attractive to a person for sex, nobody wants sex or kids with a person less than that. I find that while I do not know you or your loved ones, if they are pushing just because, you need to be more aggressive and tell them NO. And any more questions will go on death ears or just stay away from them and curve the discussion elsewhere. If you personally want to be with a person, have rational reasons why and understand what it takes, because it's tougher than being alone. But it doesn't guarantee you'll be any happier. I've been single all my life. And after how I've been treated, seeing everyone around me, read the crap you read on here, etc, do you really want to be with a person? Only 1950, it's not worth the risk for 2021. For me, I've been so tired. I can't with people.

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I do not know what u have come through or how u have been treated , but I am sorry to hear that it made u so much hurt !! People are really mean , I know that firsthand !!
I am not shallow and I am not approaching women just because people push me too. I really want a genuine relationship amd i do that out of sincere interest. But as I said I am unattractive and yes relationships take a lot of effort , time , energy and they r perplex. So yeah maube that was not meant for me. They r difficult indeed.
btbc92

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You just need to be with the right kind of people with a like-minded mentality. I never said you were, but we're taught to do wrong as supposed to what is right. I get what you're saying and as a believer in Christ, I know first hand of the impurity of the world. As I said, it's not so much because you are physically unattractive, you have to first learn to love yourself as a person and remember that God loves you also. Not for you to have self-love, but to remember that you are worthy of love and you just may have to go out away from where you are find that way. You may be looking in the wrong places.

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I do not know what u have come through or how u have been treated , but I am sorry to hear that it made u so much hurt !! People are really mean , I know that firsthand !!
I am not shallow and I am not approaching women just because people push me too. I really want a genuine relationship amd i do that out of sincere interest. But as I said I am unattractive and yes relationships take a lot of effort , time , energy and they r perplex. So yeah maube that was not meant for me. They r difficult indeed.

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btbc92

You just need to be with the right kind of people with a like-minded mentality. I never said you were, but we're taught to do wrong as supposed to what is right. I get what you're saying and as a believer in Christ, I know first hand of the impurity of the world. As I said, it's not so much because you are physically unattractive, you have to first learn to love yourself as a person and remember that God loves you also. Not for you to have self-love, but to remember that you are worthy of love and you just may have to go out away from where you are find that way. You may be looking in the wrong places.

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G3tAClue

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Because it’s the “normal” thing to do. When people live their life differently, if makes people uncomfortable

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Anonymous

Tell them that girls nowadays they only wants big dicks and money!! I'm 35, still single and I never dated! Each time I find someone she ends up finding someone else who is better then me then she settles Downs with them.

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Why do my parents and friends tell me I should at some point find a woman when I clearly do not want to?

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