I came to the realization this morning that the way I’m communicating with women is turning them off. My game sucks. Given that I’m getting older I can’t away with saying the same things I used to say at 25. I know that.
But I also am very careful to show I’m interested in more than friends. I want to set proper expectations and make it clear I’m not interested in the friendzone if I’m interested.
I don’t make sexually overt comments but if I think a girl is cute I’ll tell her. That’s what I did with the last girl I talked to. No direct sexual comments (to avoid sounding creepy) but I made it clear I was interested. And it didn’t work.
But this got me to thinking. The lockdown, where I live and just my lack of female extended interaction for the last 1.5 years (since I broke up with my ex) has fucked up my mind a bit. Yes I’m more aware of what I say. But still female intuition is very strong and when compounded with negative emotion (paranoia) I’m always just one misstep away from being labeled something I’m not.
I need to get used to talking to a girl every day. A true friend but not someone I’m attracted to or vice versa. Is it possible to find this?
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