Have you ever rejected someone only for them to tell you that they were never interested and they were only looking for a friendship?

Question

My friend introduced me to this girl who has just moved to the area and tried to set me up with her. We hung out a few times and had dinner and lunch together over the course of a five days. Once my friends speculated that she liked me, I realized that I didn’t feel the same way. I finally let her down gently by telling her that I liked her, but I didn’t want to break her heart. She then said that, she only thought of my as a friend and thought that everything had been platonic. She also said that the entire time, she had been pining after one of my guy friends and asked if he was single.

Why would a girl hang out with me all the time, if she wasn’t interested in being more than friends? Everyone was convinced that she liked me. No one understands how this happened or why she’s not into me or why she likes him over me. I believe that it’s because my friend has way more money than I do. The general consensus is that I’m better looking.

How do I deal with this moving forward? Her face lights up when she sees my friend and she gushed over him.

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1 y

Okay. So the general consensus is that she did like me and she is just embarrassed that I rejected her and she is just backpedaling to save face. Thanks everyone! 🙏🏾

Answer 1

bobalife | 100 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Explorer

Nope. But I don’t think it matters. Why does it matter so much if you’re not interested and rejected her? Is it your pride? Rather she really did like you or not is her business. Does it make you feel better if she did like you and her feelings got hurt? Or it’s better that you guys were mutual on being friends? I would select option B as no one got hurt and yalls can be awesome friends unless you low key want her to like you.. while you may or may not like her. It’s not cool when you already rejected her though. The friends “speculated” she liked you doesn’t always mean she really did have feelings for you. I think you should be respectful of the girl with her response and nicely let it go since you also think it was just platonic. I wouldn’t ponder so much on it unless I was interested in a guy.

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Answer 2

Hangry22

Guru

She could have lied to you to save the embarrassment of being rejected
Or she could have said the truth and was with you to get closer to him or get his details
The main thing is WHY DO YOU CARE? You don't like her romantically. Let she like whoever she wants

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So, which one is it?
Hangry22

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"Oh Danny you know i love you and not your friend☺️"
OR
"Danny seems approachable. I should use him to know what Sam is like. If he has a girlfriend or not😗"

How would i know it correctly if i am not that girl? And your ego is hurt. You just felt humiliated when she rejected you
Asker

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So, she’s not into me? I keep telling her that everyone thought that she was into me and I’m trying to figure out what she doesn’t see in me but she ignores it or changes the subject.
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Hangry22

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Has she ever asked you or your friends about Sam?
Asker

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Before or after I rejected her?
Hangry22

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Before when you used to hangout
Also have you ever found her staring at Sam before you rejected her?
Asker

1 y
According to “Sam” she’d been staring when we hung out as a group. I didn’t notice anything.
Hangry22

1 y
Of course you wouldn't. Yk what? You should set up Sam with her and see her reaction.

"I’m trying to figure out what she doesn’t see in me"- This line is said by guys who got rejected by a girl HE LIKES
Asker

1 y
Sam has a long distance girlfriend. I can’t.
Hangry22

1 y
Oh damn. Well did you tell her that?
Asker

1 y
Yeah, and she’s bummed out. She still keeps hanging out with us, though. So, is she into me?
Hangry22

1 y
Not sure. You should start commenting other girls when with her and see her reaction or better yet ask her the details of one of her girlfriends
by the way do you like her?
Asker

1 y
My friends are watching her interact with other guys and she seems to be giggly and friendly with most guys (gay or straight). I’ve asked her if she likes these guys and she says no.
Asker

1 y
A girl sat with me and she asked who she was. Is she jealous?
Hangry22

1 y
Ya she is probably jealous. Maybe she's like you too. Thinks she's so good looking and so want to have the attention of every guy

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Asker

So, which one is it?

Answer 4

Hangry22

"Oh Danny you know i love you and not your friend☺️"
OR
"Danny seems approachable. I should use him to know what Sam is like. If he has a girlfriend or not😗"

How would i know it correctly if i am not that girl? And your ego is hurt. You just felt humiliated when she rejected you

Answer 5

Asker

So, she’s not into me? I keep telling her that everyone thought that she was into me and I’m trying to figure out what she doesn’t see in me but she ignores it or changes the subject.

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Hangry22

Has she ever asked you or your friends about Sam?

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Asker

Before or after I rejected her?

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Hangry22

Before when you used to hangout
Also have you ever found her staring at Sam before you rejected her?

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Asker

According to “Sam” she’d been staring when we hung out as a group. I didn’t notice anything.

Answer 10

Hangry22

Of course you wouldn't. Yk what? You should set up Sam with her and see her reaction.

"I’m trying to figure out what she doesn’t see in me"- This line is said by guys who got rejected by a girl HE LIKES

Answer 11

Asker

Sam has a long distance girlfriend. I can’t.

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Hangry22

Oh damn. Well did you tell her that?

Answer 13

Asker

Yeah, and she’s bummed out. She still keeps hanging out with us, though. So, is she into me?

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Hangry22

Not sure. You should start commenting other girls when with her and see her reaction or better yet ask her the details of one of her girlfriends
by the way do you like her?

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Asker

My friends are watching her interact with other guys and she seems to be giggly and friendly with most guys (gay or straight). I’ve asked her if she likes these guys and she says no.

Answer 16

Asker

A girl sat with me and she asked who she was. Is she jealous?

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Hangry22

Ya she is probably jealous. Maybe she's like you too. Thinks she's so good looking and so want to have the attention of every guy

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boggboss | 2.1K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

You and tour friends where clowns lol she hanged around with u to be closer to him or to ask about him without asking him himself even if the group thinks your better looking that means nothing as looks are subjective when it comes to attraction lol has nothing to do with his money and how u deal with this I dont see what there is too deal with

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Is she just lying about not liking me because I rejected her?
boggboss

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Most likely no as she has shown to off liked him and the evidence off her liking u was flimsy the word of a person who provided no reason but opinion and u thinking because she was hanging with u at no point did she show she was actually attracted to u
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But everyone in our friend group thought that she liked me.
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boggboss

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And the reasons where what more likely then not one person said it started telling others and people catched onto it again there was no indercation that she liked u mate
Asker

1 y
Then why would she hang out with me (and continue to hang out with me) and my friends if she’s not into me?
Asker

1 y
When I keep asking her why she keeps hanging out with me, she says that she likes me as a person.
boggboss

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So the only people u hang out with are people u are attracted too?
Asker

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But I’m a man and she’s a woman.
boggboss

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Whats your point have u never had female friends im so confused how I'm having to ask this
Asker

1 y
Well, everyone else who has answered so far thinks that she is just backpedaling and really likes me and is just pretending to like my friend.
Asker

1 y
Yes, I have female friends, but she hangs out with me a lot more than they do.
boggboss

1 y
No one other person thinks that lol again what actual evidence do u have that she liked u apart from her spending time with u which is normal for friends
Asker

1 y
Are you not seeing the other answers on this post? Literally everyone on my friends group (even the girls) thought that she was into me.
boggboss

1 y
U keep stating that yet noone has shown where or when she showed she was attracted to you meh think what u want it dont matter at tgis point as she has shown to like your friend so meh

Answer 19

Asker

Is she just lying about not liking me because I rejected her?

Answer 20

boggboss

Most likely no as she has shown to off liked him and the evidence off her liking u was flimsy the word of a person who provided no reason but opinion and u thinking because she was hanging with u at no point did she show she was actually attracted to u

Answer 21

Asker

But everyone in our friend group thought that she liked me.

Answer 22

boggboss

And the reasons where what more likely then not one person said it started telling others and people catched onto it again there was no indercation that she liked u mate

Answer 23

Asker

Then why would she hang out with me (and continue to hang out with me) and my friends if she’s not into me?

Answer 24

Asker

When I keep asking her why she keeps hanging out with me, she says that she likes me as a person.

Answer 25

boggboss

So the only people u hang out with are people u are attracted too?

Answer 26

Asker

But I’m a man and she’s a woman.

Answer 27

boggboss

Whats your point have u never had female friends im so confused how I'm having to ask this

Answer 28

Asker

Well, everyone else who has answered so far thinks that she is just backpedaling and really likes me and is just pretending to like my friend.

Answer 29

Asker

Yes, I have female friends, but she hangs out with me a lot more than they do.

Answer 30

boggboss

No one other person thinks that lol again what actual evidence do u have that she liked u apart from her spending time with u which is normal for friends

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Asker

Are you not seeing the other answers on this post? Literally everyone on my friends group (even the girls) thought that she was into me.

Answer 32

boggboss

U keep stating that yet noone has shown where or when she showed she was attracted to you meh think what u want it dont matter at tgis point as she has shown to like your friend so meh

Answer 33

Jean-Marie_Céline

Master

She backepedaled.
She didn't like the other guy, she liked you.

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Asker

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She seems really into him, though?
Jean-Marie_Céline

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She's faking it.
Asker

1 y
So, she’s been faking this for six months?
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Jean-Marie_Céline

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You'd be surprised how long some people keep up the act.
Or maybe it's a rebound.
Asker

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Keep bringing up the fact that everyone thought that she liked me and asking her why doesn’t she like me and she just ignores it and changes the subject.

Answer 34

Asker

She seems really into him, though?

Answer 35

Jean-Marie_Céline

She's faking it.

Answer 36

Asker

So, she’s been faking this for six months?

Answer 37

Jean-Marie_Céline

You'd be surprised how long some people keep up the act.
Or maybe it's a rebound.

Answer 38

Asker

Keep bringing up the fact that everyone thought that she liked me and asking her why doesn’t she like me and she just ignores it and changes the subject.

Answer 39

Quackthulu

Guru

Sure, guys backpedal all the time.

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What do you mean?
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Is that what’s happening here?

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Asker

What do you mean?

Answer 41

Asker

Is that what’s happening here?

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Cherokeehp | 908 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Guru

Nope.

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