If you feel sexual tension with a girl, is it likely she’s oblivious to it and only sees you as a friend?

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Yes it’s likely

No it’s not likely

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Answer 1

Bella9191 | 90 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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People can tell when someone likes them. I have acted intentionally oblivious when I did not feel a mutual return of the feelings but kept wanting to be friends. Rejecting a man isn’t great for the friendship as it hurts his ego. So I usually tried avoiding rejecting but pretending I wasn’t aware. My male friends always thought I had no idea how much they wanted me. I always knew.

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But then they might ask you out anyway and you’ll have to reject them?
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And as a man how can he know if it’s reciprocated or not?
Bella9191

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You know If it’s not returned. Because unless she is a nervous 18 year old she will make it very very very possible to do so. If you aren’t sure it usually means no.
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What do you mean by very very very possible to do so?
Bella9191

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Women when they like a guy. They want him to ask her out. They are going to give him opportunities.
For example. Let’s say I’m standing at a traffic light waiting to cross. And a guy also is standing there right next to me. If I am interested, I would remove my headphones out of my ears and move closer. Hence giving an opportunity. If I leave my headphones in. Clearly I am not interested. The point is an interested woman doesn’t give the man obstacles. The obstacles in this situation would be the headphones. I removed the headphones to rid any obstacles. When women are keen there will be no obstacles per se. It will be easy.
Bella9191

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Women actually are the ones who choose if they want a person or not. I know men think they are by initiating things. But it’s women who decide if they want it to be initiated or not. If they do, they will do everything it make initiation easy. For example the old classic of dropping a handkerchief so he picks it up and starts a conversation with her, he thinks he initiated but she gave him the opportunity. Women actually still do this in society. Just not the handkerchief.
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What if it’s someone you’re already good friends with? Then how can you tell?
Bella9191

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you could just ask her.
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Then it could ruin the friendship?
Bella9191

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There’s not going to be a friendship long term anyway if one person feels something for the other. So worth trying.
Bella9191

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Friendships are platonic. People can’t go nah nah I want to be friends so I am going to pretend I feel platanoic to keep the friendship. If it’s not truly platonic it will end. So might as well not suppress true feelings.
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In what way will it end?

Answer 2

Asker

But then they might ask you out anyway and you’ll have to reject them?

Answer 3

Asker

And as a man how can he know if it’s reciprocated or not?

Answer 4

Bella9191

You know If it’s not returned. Because unless she is a nervous 18 year old she will make it very very very possible to do so. If you aren’t sure it usually means no.

Answer 5

Asker

What do you mean by very very very possible to do so?

Answer 6

Bella9191

Women when they like a guy. They want him to ask her out. They are going to give him opportunities.
For example. Let’s say I’m standing at a traffic light waiting to cross. And a guy also is standing there right next to me. If I am interested, I would remove my headphones out of my ears and move closer. Hence giving an opportunity. If I leave my headphones in. Clearly I am not interested. The point is an interested woman doesn’t give the man obstacles. The obstacles in this situation would be the headphones. I removed the headphones to rid any obstacles. When women are keen there will be no obstacles per se. It will be easy.

Answer 7

Bella9191

Women actually are the ones who choose if they want a person or not. I know men think they are by initiating things. But it’s women who decide if they want it to be initiated or not. If they do, they will do everything it make initiation easy. For example the old classic of dropping a handkerchief so he picks it up and starts a conversation with her, he thinks he initiated but she gave him the opportunity. Women actually still do this in society. Just not the handkerchief.

Answer 8

Asker

What if it’s someone you’re already good friends with? Then how can you tell?

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Bella9191

you could just ask her.

Answer 10

Asker

Then it could ruin the friendship?

Answer 11

Bella9191

There’s not going to be a friendship long term anyway if one person feels something for the other. So worth trying.

Answer 12

Bella9191

Friendships are platonic. People can’t go nah nah I want to be friends so I am going to pretend I feel platanoic to keep the friendship. If it’s not truly platonic it will end. So might as well not suppress true feelings.

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In what way will it end?

Answer 14

Brainsbeforebeauty | 261 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

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I would think it would depend on how obvious the sexual tension is. I think that's different in different cases. It may be less obvious if someone is better at masking it or people that are less observant of signs and signals than others.

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