But like the overthinking is more to do with her than you, tbh, and she needs to do her own work. It’s because of her own insecurities that she feels this way, so beyond being reassuring or honest, there’s nothing YOU can do.
We are friends who just started to show affeftion towards each other and hangout more. Like she took me out for my birthday got me drunk and i cuddled with her for 3 hours just talking and laughing about the past. Were she admitted to be mad when she found out i got another girl number. I don't talk about other girls to her. She bring up the names to me or she'll go talk to them to see how cool we are. Everytime i reassured her it only got worse. She started to compare her friends (me) to the guys she's talking to or dated in the past. She shut dowm communicating and talking our problems out. But she'll talk to guys who lie to her and tell her what she want to hear. So i just gave up om talking to her on a deeper level. But that only made her jealousy worse. Almost like she likes me or something
I actually mean friends. I did some affectionate things to her like forehesd kisses, hugs, cuddling and actualky telling her the truth, i love her (i actually do). But last year she became interested in my type of girl. She even said we are friends. But a few weeks after this i met a young lady (who she think is my type of girl) and she hated it when i got her number. She hated whem she found out thst we are close friends. She got mad again when she found out we are still friends and we still talk.She is jealous of every woman i tslk to. At first she would say i'm trying to replace her with these other women. Now she is saying i like those other women and not her that's why the other women are my bff. It's like her jealousy come out of no where and she's talking to another man as friends with benefits but still jealous of what i have going on. I tried talkimg to her. It took her a year to admit she was mad when i got the other girl number
I known her for over 4 years we been close. I been the most consistent guy in her life. I let her meet the other side of me the affectionate/romantic guy and things went left. Even though we sre both tslking to someone she feel as though i don't talk to her enough. I have to text and talk to her more than other women. She even told me i don't make her feel special any more.
You young people don't realize that you're taking intimate things that used to mean something and trying to make them like their just casual things:"forehesd kisses, hugs, cuddling and actualky telling her the truth, i love her (i actually do). " those are things you shouldn't do with just anybody and it can send mixed messages to people.. And "you love her"? Prior these days don't know what that means but throw it out there way too randomly, casually... You love her? Hope? As a friend? As more than a friend? And you make that clear exactly how you feel? Or you play games with her feelings like some people seem to do...You need to be honest, about the real dynamics of your feelings, your relationship, how the jealousy makes you feel... But sounds like some of your actions could be causing some of the jealousy... If you see her as a friend and nothing more, you wouldn't be cuddling and so that other stuff, if you see her as more than a friend, love her as more than a friend, why would you be getting other females numbers?
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