My ex girlfriend have around a month posting stuff related to me on Instagram, songs about missing me, places that we used to go, quotes about her changing her behavior... But also post stuff about her actual boyfriend being the love of her life.
About a week ago was her bday, i didn't congratulate her BC about 4 months she asked me to cut contact with her as she has a boyfriend (wich she dumped me for) and she wanted to move on... so i walked away, no texts, no calls, nothing.
The thing is that she's mad at me for no wishing her a hbd, posting stuff about that everything is over between us, that i never loved her.. etc
Does she love me, she's playing with me or she's confused?
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SteveSmith1985 | 114 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.
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I know this isn't what you're hoping to hear...
This is actually a very clear situation to somebody looking at it from the outside.
This girl is not one you want to get involved with again. You gave enough information for me to be able to say that. It's a matter of being able to identify the TYPE of girl (or more like her type of thinking). She's selfish, essentially. Like at her core.
So, if she dumped you for another guy. Then everything else you wrote about (the birthday thing, caring what you post, all of it) shows that she has no real idea of what's appropriate given the fact that you have feelings. She also apparently doesn't care about her current boyfriend's feelings either. Although I'm sure it's not obvious on the surface she's referencing you.
So in a way she's maybe "playing games" but not like in a conscious malicious way. She genuinely DOES feel some nostalgia for some of the good times you and her shared... before she decided to leave you for this other dude. So she's not like 'making up' the 'i miss you' type stuff. She just has no thought for your feelings really.
So I think she's not like... sitting there and maliciously hoping to hurt and confuse you. But it makes her feel good to know that you're still attracted to her... still have feelings for her... that she could get back with you if she wanted to... even if she doesn't intend to.
So maybe it's best to say she's 'confused'... kinda.
She's not confused like "do I want my current boyfriend or would I rather get back with my ex"... that's not where her thoughts are. That's shown by the "love of her life" posts about her current boyfriend. Those posts are actually for him (and the world too I guess). But I don't think she is AIMING them at you... she just doesn't care that you'll be hit too. She is really only aiming the "i miss you" bullshit AT you.
She's confused in the sense that... for her, in an ideal world, she could just have both of you. She doesn't want to have to sacrifice anything.
She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
She feels she deserves more than anyone should reasonably have any right to expect.
My advice is 100% to cut her out of your life. Delete her. Fully walk away. No good can come of this particular ex.
You need to block her and move on. She seems like she doesn't know what she wants and is hanging everyone by a thread. I suggest on not being someone's salad, but rather be the main course. In this situation, you are a salad.. move on and don't be.
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