Yes, we went on a date and we kissed, but the next day i told him we should remain friends and he said he felt the same but he stopped talking to me. after a few weeks he texted me again and we were on talking terms again he didn't text as often as before though but kept the conversation going. he also asked me if i was seeing anyone indirectly and then asked to hang out a couple of days ago. However, today he cancelled. I don't get it, is he trying to get back at me?
There is a lot of social pressure on a guy when this kind of situations happen, especially if he still likes you, which I think he does. I don't think he is trying to get back at you. If he is doing so, you are not going to lose much by ignoring him. What I personally think is that he still has a crush on you and he is conflicted on whether he should see you or not. On one side he does enjoy your company. You seem like a nice person, after all. On the other side, he is afraid that by seeing you he is going to fuel his own hopes and, ultimately hurt himself. Either that or he is just an insecure asshole, in that case... well... there's around 7kkk people in the world, just find someone else to text.
I actually didn't want to hang out with him in the first place thinking it would be awkward but i didn't refuse because he'd have felt rejected. oh well people are hard to understand these days. Many thanks for your input by the way :)
I feel like you're kind of lying to yourself there :P If you didn't want to hang out with him at all you wouldn't be worried about his behavior. In any case, I live by a general rule: talking to people solves problems. If I were in your situation, I would find a way to talk it out. And no problem, hope it helped.
lol the reason i'm concerned about his behaviour is that he's my friend and i'll be seeing him at Uni soon. the main point of hanging out with him now was to talk things through and make everything normal between us again. But i totally understand why you'd think so, I would think the same if i were you. :) You mean I should ask him why he cancelled?
NO! NO! for the love of God do anything but DON'T ask him that directly. He would feel cornered and probably would retreat behind his mask of insecurities and tell you jack shit. Try indirectly getting to talk about it... It doesn't have to happen in the course of one single texting section, as long as it happens. Just remember, it might sound dramatic but IF he still has a crush on you, he is nothing more than a cornered animal. One wrong move and he will either attack you, probably insulting you or run away and you'll never see him again.
hahah you're funny! alright... i'll take your advice :) thanks again!
Hey, I'm hugging a tree in my picture and the original caption said something like "Adopt a Metalhead, a campaign for the re-qualification of Norwegian Forests and Metalheads" so not really the most socially sober person ever :P But I'm glad you enjoy my advice, best of luck!
hahah that's a very cool photo and caption actually. All the best to you too!
He just made up a silly excuse that's not believable.
do you still like him?If yes, then try to ask him out again and see what he say.if he continue to make silly excuse, then move on from him.
I only like him as a friend what i don't get is why make plans and then cancel. I'm straight forward and don't like people who play games. Thanks for your input by the way :)
yes i don't like people who play games.if he isn't sincere. then drop him.i always believe sincerity is very important in making friends, if people lack it, then i won't want anything to do with them. you are most welcome
I couldn't agree more! (y)
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Well that or he still likes you a lot, and wants to appear that he has a lot on his plate, and won't be able to hang out with you whenever you can/he's still not over you and can't hang out as friends. If you disbelieve what I'd have to say, why'd you ask for opinions in the first place?
i wasn't disagreeing with you. you said maybe he doesn't care for you and i said maybe not. :) Thanks for your input.
Ohh okay. I thought you were saying "maybe not" as in "maybe you're not right..". You're welcome. Hope you get your shin dig figured out.