There was a guy that had a huge crush on me and his friends were always talking about it. One day when I was walking home, one of his friends that I knew followed me home and told me that if I wanted to go out with the guy that I would have to ask him out myself because he was 'too intimidated'. His friend also told me that if I didn't ask him out, we were never going to date.
I ended up not asking him out because I have always believed that it was a guys job. What do you guys think?
- I would rather ask her out
- I would rather have her ask me out
- It really doesn't matter to me
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It really doesn't matter. Some guys will see being asked out as either an ego-boost (since girls don't typically do it) while others may feel ego-bruised cause they want to be the one taking initiative. Similarly, some girls prefer to be asked out by a guy confident enough to approach her, whereas others don't wait for their 'shining knight' they go out and meet that mofo half way!
In my opinion, don't refuse to ask someone out because 'that's not the way it works/meant to be.' If you like someone, and they're too nervous to ask you out, go for it. Don't play chicken to see who decides to give in and do it and don't let gender roles hold you back. You want him? Go get him! Only rarely does a tiger not have to work for its meal ;)