Bothered by my boyfriend's gaming - am I overreacting?

We're in a long distance relationship so the only way we can really communicate is via Skype. We call each other almost every day. But 80% of the time when we're on a call, he's already gaming which takes away a lot of his attention from talking to me. It bothers me because he constantly talks about the game whilst he's playing, and the conversation is literally one-way, there's not exactly much I can respond with. The game also involves talking with other players so there's some times where he'll just talk to other players and it confuses me because I think he's talking to me. I've already brought it up to him as an issue, and he should only call when he's not too caught up in the game. But nothing's really changed. Am I overreacting? How do I confront him about it again?

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  • I would say this is a fair reaction. Your BF has every right to game, but he should devote time to just you, otherwise he's not worth your time. The key to sorting this is talking to him. Tell him that it really bothers you. If that doesn't work, you could try doing something similar when he calls you and isn't gaming. This just might make him see how you feel.

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  • I dated a guy like this about a year ago. This sounds like him and you're probably the girl he was with before me and then ended up dumping me to get back with her. Does he suffer from bipolar? Is your name Kate?

    No honestly. He clearly has an addiction. If you phone him or he phones you he shouldn't be gaming. If you're spending time with each other he shouldn't be either.

    It's not gonna get any better. You're demanding more attention from him but he's just not going to give it to you. You could try asking him if he could call when he finishes the game or you call at a certain time when he won't be on. Problem is, gaming is not only addictive but concept of time is thrown out of the window. I get it's his hobby but if he's willing to throw away a relationship for the sake of an hour spent talking to you away from paying video games, then he's never going to put you first.

    Get out whilst you can.

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What Guys Said 3

  • Well we should give importance to humans. You should 'request' him to please focus on you when on call. But I can understand what is the importance of the games is. They're as important as oxygen for gamers.
    If problem persists, you know what to do.

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  • I wouldn't even waste my time trying to talk to someone who isn't giving me the basic respect of their attention, especially over a bloody computer game. If he wants to be a kid, so be it. Where's your self respect though?

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  • Play with him

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What Girls Said 2

  • Hmm well I used to do that with my boyfriend:) he's good at multitasking tho so it didn't bother me:) I'd say ur overreacting but if the conversations one way then I guess try bring it to his attention again and point out he wouldn't like it if the situation was reversed

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  • Your BF is a douche.

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