After a while he stopped coming by or if he did we didn't hook up we just hung out for HOURS. Then I get a call form a girl who says im messing with her man. I ask him and he tells me that he was only hooking up with me when they had broken up. I continued "hanging" out with him sometimes. After some months I get a phone call from her again telling me she is having his baby. I decided to excuse myself out of their situation.
Half a year later he contacts me and asked me to come to his place, a change in dynamics. He then starts in to tell me that his baby was premature cause his girl was young and dumb and smoked while she was pregnant. I was thrown of cause I was thinking I was gonna get to hook up but instead I had to be there to console him not what I was expecting cause he never shares his feelings. We stopped talking again then a year later he contacts me and tells me he found out the baby wasn't his. He was hurt I could tell. After a while we start hooking up again.
Eventually I moved outta town, about 2 hours away to finish school and start my career. When I went to visit we still hooked up. Eventually I asked him what was up between us, then he said "Don't ruin what we have."
At some point I blocked his number and he sought me out via FB from a friends account. I let him back in my life, each time I saw him he pointed out what he had done like he was looking for my admiration. I feel for him more, and asked him what we "Have" he never answered. I cut him off again, but 2 months later he contacts me again and tells me of his plans to move to the city im in after his is done with school.
I wanna confront him in person next time I see him to ask what his intentions are with me. Why 6 years of back and forth? Any suggestions how to approach it, or comments why he behaves this way?
- You think he feels something?
- Am I just his fall back?
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Fallback. He could've committed to you a long time ago but he chose someone else over you... consistently. "Don't ruin what we have" = "Don't ask for more because I'm not willing to give that to you" in guy speak. He's comfortable and you're not. He's the only one benefitting on a physical, ego, and emotional level you are literally getting nothing but drained.
I am proud that you leave and show you can live on without him instead of chasing behind him begging. You do have a strong sense of self-worth in there but its still shaky because you still let him in for an opportunity to continue.