Should I let my boyfriend ask his best friend to prom?

Question

I am a freshman dating a junior and prom is coming up.. he said he would take me but one of his best friends probably won't get a date so he was womdering if I would let him go with her.. I don't know how other people look at this but I don't want MY guy slow dancing with another girl or taking pictures together or doing stuff like that. I don't mean to sound selfish but it's kinda like he is choosing her over me. I feel like he would be pretty much taking another girl on a date for the night.. how would that not affect me? plus they hang out a lot as it is and go get dinner together etc... I don't need them doing everything together. Plus she drinks a lot and I'm scared for him falling into her actions. what do you think?

Answer 1

KeepcalmandLARPon

Xper 6

lol I wouldn't worry about it. I went to my Senior prom with a guy friend when he was dating someone. If they are best friends don't worry, not all girls are going to fall for their best guy friend. Honestly I understand what it is like to be a girl without a date for Junior prom and trust me it made me feel unwanted. Even if it was just with a friend, it is a good feeling. And don't worry about slow dances, if they are just friends it doesn't matter and the photos are a formality. It is not like they are going to kiss or something. And Drinking? I don't know a lot of people do that at after parties so it doesn't matter as long as they are not driving. And you sound WAY to protective for a freshman. I'm sorry but you have a lot more chances to go to prom, including your own. give the poor girl a chance to enjoy her's. I know what it is like to go by yourself and I kinda resented the freshmen who came to my prom strickly because no one asked me to my own prom and yet 13 & 14 years olds got asked to go. Does that sound fair to you? I'm just showing another perspective. Also how about you make a deal that if he takes his friend this year, you get to go to Senior Ball/ Prom with him next year?

Answer 2

shadowlegend

Guru

No. He should take you. His priority should be you. If his friend doesn't have a date, well that sucks but his loyalty is to you and not to him making sure she has a date. I'd be hurt if he chose her over me.

Noelwilson23

+1 y
should I call him out on it? like if he does choose her over me should I let it go or show him I'm upset & hurt?
shadowlegend

+1 y
Speak to him about it and express that you would love to go with him and that if he chose to take his friend instead of you, you would feel very upset as you would feel that he valued her over you and that he preferred to share such a special occasion with her instead of you, his gf.

Answer 3

Noelwilson23

should I call him out on it? like if he does choose her over me should I let it go or show him I'm upset & hurt?

Answer 4

shadowlegend

Speak to him about it and express that you would love to go with him and that if he chose to take his friend instead of you, you would feel very upset as you would feel that he valued her over you and that he preferred to share such a special occasion with her instead of you, his gf.

Answer 5

Pinkbeauty

Yoda

no he should take u to prom and he should have one of his friends take the other girl to prom

Answer 6

BlueCoyote

Guru

I think it depends on how much you actually trust your boyfriend. Personally, I would probably allow my girlfriend to do something like that because I know I can trust her 100%. However, one thing that would bother me a bit apart from the boyfriend/girlfriend being on a date with another person is that I might just end up having as much fun as I would with my partner. So to make things fair, I would probably allow my girlfriend to do this - under the condition that we have to make up for it and have a really cool date together that we perhaps wouldn't otherwise. As for him having tons of fun with her... I wouldn't worry too much about that. Prom usually ends up being less fun that you imagine it to be. I went to Prom with a girl who I thought was really cool and sweet. She ended up walking away all the time and dancing with other people while I was just sitting in a corner, feeling awkward and wishing I had lots of friends too. It was really not that special.

Answer 7

FreeLeave

Xper 5

Same thing happened to me... I was a sophomore dating a freshman. We had just gotten together and I didn't know she was going to snow daze with another guy. When she told me I tried to act like it didn't bother me, but I hated it. I guess I didn't want to ruin the experience for her. Before she went I saw her change into her dress and get her hair done and then I went home mad about it. For about a week I didn't want to talk to her and then we broke up because it was getting awkward.

Answer 8

Tdieseler | 1.9K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Tricky situation. It would be awesome for you to be trusting and kindhearted enough to let your bf take someone out to make their night. But you are worried that the person you are being nice to could take advantage of the situation.
here's a possible solution. Have your bf, set her up with one of his buddies or some random dateless guy (there is always one). I've done it a few times for people...

Answer 9

Klaatu51

Master

please don't feel jealous... it'sjust a prom... nothing important...:-)

Answer 10

verd12w

Xper 4

Why don't all three of you go together, get really drunk, and have a threesome? It could be a bonding experience. :P

Why don't you just communicate your feelings honestly with him?

Answer 11

Anonymous

Don't do it. These things never end well.

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