First line and I knew it right away. Greenday is awesome I love you anonymous lady
Right back at ya little dude!
Lol sorry I didn't know that. I'm not trying to be like self centered or something, I just wanted the question to have some personal attachment to myself, I don't know
I'm not bitter or rotten or a neckbeard, but I'm lonely and I can't get laid.
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@girlscoutsrevenge I am just as surprised as you are! :D:DBut hey, this will motivate me to keep myself from being antagonistic, haha.
That presumes of course that you read, take note of, and understand, behavioral cues.I have always had difficulty with this. Consequently, I take the safe route and assume that no one has any interest in me or what I have to say.Kinda hard to build a relationship on those foundations. My solution was to use online dating via eHarmony. No behavioral cues to miss or misinterprete if there are no cues to see.
@gray_sailor I take an interesting route, which is that I assume that others give cues similarly to how I do - this way, I can use myself as a basis for my predictions of others. It actually tends to work pretty well!
By way of example, let me tell you this:The idea that it would be practical to pursue a woman who first shows interest in me, is something I learned in the last 4 months here on GaG.I say this as the 48 year old, twice married, father of three children. It's a wonder I ever got anywhere with any woman at all.
I don't give cues to others myself. I don't even try to communicate in that way.If my own code book is blank, difficult to decode messages from others.
GaG thinks voicing an opinion is antagonistic. Or asking a question relative to the topic. Or just not agreeing with the mod who happens to be looking at the reported comment. It's all so elitist :P
@gray_sailor you are correct! I read books about empathy and social psychology to understand what it is that I am missing. I was told by a friend (crush) of mine that they try to read how I feel, but I just don't show ANY signals of ANY kind! It's because I learned that "being emotionless" is expected of a male... but that just makes you unable to understand others.I reconnected with my emotional responses and can make sense of them, and using that data I can process the estimation of the feelings of others. It's magic! I'm pretty sure it has to do with mirror neurons: seeing their expressions, hearing the way their voice changes - you can sense the emotion that would cause you to create these signals.Or at least, that's kinda how it goes for me. It's not conscious, I cannot really put it to words. All I learned was how to use it, not how to conceptualize it.
Good notes on my third comment, any thoughts on my second?My experience of being a "nice guy" has no manipulative component to it. For that to have not been the case, I would actually have had to talk to a girl.My point stated simply is that for many guys, incompetence more than adequately explains their (my) behavior. No need to seek malice at the heart of what they do.
Uh... don't be surprised if you're still finishing last when they're "looking desperately".
I always finish last. It's only polite to let the girl have hers first.
Good to know, I'll never call myself that again
It's awesome haha xD
I know right, Im singing it for the talent show, if we have one this year.
Haha, that'd be cool :P