Why would he be mad or care if he has a girlfriend now?

Question

I was dressed in these nice heels (because i felt like dressing up to feel better) and he thought it was nice and we made out. I told him i didn't want to take it further when he asked if i would give him head , I said I didn't do that (not in a place in my life to be that intimate) and he said that if there wasn't anything else then i could go and I told him good bye and left... After he was mean and dismissive and not much of a friend or anything and i just told him not to talk to me because there doesn't seem to be a point (I was hurting too)

So now school has started and I wore those heels only because it was raining and he actually looked pissed off at me. His friend was checking me out, and he dostracted him from looking sort of. he even glanced at me angrily when he was walking with this girl. His girlfriend (who i didn't know) was a mean to me out of no where when i was nice to her but kept trying to sit next to me... I had no idea who she was (I guess he started dating her soon after) but I dont understand his behaviour. Not like he wanted to date me or anything or tried to get to know me.
In fact i gave him opportunites to ahng out with me where he didn't have to pay but he just said he wanted me to do well in school and stuff and wanted to keep talking to me and saying hi to me... wtf

He's that mad that he didn't screw you

He liked you, but not enough to date tyou and is that mad you didn't give him head

HHe doesn't want anyone else to screw you because he didn't

he's a jerk who is jealouse but doesn't even want to date you

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GirlGuy

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+1 y

Oh and I haven't talked to him for almost a year now! why does he care and why is his girlfriend after me its so umcomfortable!

+1 y

Wow but is it that serious? I haven't had sex with anyone, its freaking scary how this thought didn't occur to him and he wouldn't care to ask. Men, is it that serious?

Answer 1

Jdiddy12

Xper 3

If a guy wants a platter of pussy and you don't give it to him, he moves on to the next best thing. The fact that he became jealous of the guy who was checking you out is obvious that he's into, just not man enough to approach you on a sophisticated level. Plus he needs some classes on respecting ladies.

Answer 2

SilenRose | 148 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

He'said mad you wouldn't give it up immediately. He probably expected you to come crawling back to him. Most likely he'said been talking junk about you to his girlfriend or the girlfriend see'some you as a threat.

Answer 3

LittleSally | 780 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

ALL of the above, girl! Haha
You go girl! :P

He's a child, and you have the right to live your life - if he feels bad because of it - not your problem.

Answer 4

Cookies_AndMilk

Xper 7

I wish there was an all of the above option. That is what I would've selected lol. Instead I voted for A. :p

Asker

+1 y
But what I dont get is why I am not worth dating to him? I wouldn't date him now, but still I dont understand it makes me super depressed and stressed out, and he has his girlfriend after me too i dont understand
Cookies_AndMilk

+1 y
Can I ask you a question, do you like this boy? When you think about it honestly do you like him?
Asker

+1 y
Well... maybe not really... he didn't let me get to know him and i wasn't sooo physically attracted to him (he's conventionally attractive though) but not my personal attractive type i guess
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Cookies_AndMilk

+1 y
I think you might like this boy a little more than you'd like to admit but since he's in a relationship he's off limits so I wouldn't entertain those thoughts too much. Do some thinking for a little bit. You dressed up nicely, he thought it was sexy, you made out and he asked you to suck his thing. You said no and from that point he's been a jerk. Your whole encounter with this guy was purely sexual. You had no emotional connection nor did he get to know you any more than that encounter. Now he sees you again in some sexy heels and his friend takes notice and he's jealous. This guy only wants sex from people if he was half way decent he wouldn't even notice you now that he's got a girlfriend. He probably think you were a tease and honestly who cares. He just wanted a chance to do something sexual and he didn't have the opportunity. Don't stress over this man, he's just seeing you as an object and not a soul.
Asker

+1 y
I see but I assure you, I like the idea of a relationship more than him... And honestly, I tried talking to him and getting to know him from the begginning but he seemed to objectify me and i ddidnt see the signe (asking me to hang out when school started the year before that, when i was talking about working asking me if i worked at a hooters (?) it seemed out of no where and I thought he was joking, I didn't post sexy pictures online on anything either... I also started a group at school as well that he wanted to be a part of and helped me with in the beginning. And it was more of a human rights thing and I took it seriously, so I think thats why i found it strang that he wasn't trying to get to know me. Also at a school party, he sort of followed me around because i looked nice. I guess he felt I was THAT attractive on te outside but not on the inside. So if i think far back i was trying to get to know him but he kept trying to make out with me, and a guy i liked turned me down so i did
Cookies_AndMilk

+1 y
I think you've just answered your own question. Don't let the fact that you liked this guy blind you from what was so obvious. He only wanted to use you for sex. If someone is only after sex and they think it's easy to get from somebody then sure they'll pretend to take an interest in some of the things you like so they could get into your pants. If you mattered to him anymore than being a vagina he wouldn't have gotten mad and mistreated you after you told him know, if he liked you he would be understanding and patient with you not mean and pressuring. Men show their love and appreciation for a woman threw their actions and his actions only show he wanted to use you as a living sex doll. He has a girlfriend, why does it seem as though you're entertaining the possibility of a relationship with this guy? Your feelings doesn't provide leeway to intrude on that regardless of what their relationship is like. Honestly he sounds like he sucks as a person. Just avoid him and find a sweetheart
Asker

+1 y
Ok I see and um, I told him to neer speak to e again so I dont know how that intervines with his relationship? I only bought this up because the girlfriend is very mean to me when I had NO IDEA who she was and had not talked to this guy in a year... I found it weird that he was still mad and that his girlfriend was talking about be when id never met her before and just started having classes with her. I dont care about them, especially her becaus ei nerver met her and she's just rude, I just wanted to know what made it OK for him to talk negatively about me to her and her friends so they treat me weirdly when I've never had anything to do with them AND cut ties with him... I completely forgot about him but all this negative energy and him paying attention to me was weird is all.
Cookies_AndMilk

+1 y
Okay I didn't realize all of that. You probably bruised his ego and because of this he said some things to his current girlfriend and of course she'll believe it and be petty toward you. It honestly is all very childish but I wouldn't even worry about them. People only have so much power over you as you allow them to and if you remain unphased by both him and his girlfriend eventually the people around them will realize how childish they're being. Keep being happy on your own and honestly any bit of rudeness they present toward you you can just laugh it off, because from the girlfriend it's misguided jealousy and insecurity and from the guy it's his shattered ego and narcissistic attitude.
Asker

+1 y
Thanks I won't allow then, but I do have a silly question, so do guys only date the girls who have sex with them when they want? I haven't had a boyfriend yet which hurts my ego, and I also have not had sex so i dont know if they are related... do the girls ask for a relationship with the boy after sex and tat is how it works, im just clueless on these things and i think thats why i was confused by this. And you know I actually hung out with him and his guy friends once, and I think one of the guys slighly said they thought i was atteactive in a rude way (like i'd do that) and i was so naive (a year ago) that i didn't know what he was saying. I don't know.
Cookies_AndMilk

+1 y
No they don't. Any man who's worth is while is going to wait for you, if you choose not to have sex he won't care about that because he's not with you for sex, he's with you for you. Don't let any guy play you for a fool and take advantage, having sex is not a requirement to be someone's girlfriend.

Answer 5

Asker

But what I dont get is why I am not worth dating to him? I wouldn't date him now, but still I dont understand it makes me super depressed and stressed out, and he has his girlfriend after me too i dont understand

Answer 6

Cookies_AndMilk

Can I ask you a question, do you like this boy? When you think about it honestly do you like him?

Answer 7

Asker

Well... maybe not really... he didn't let me get to know him and i wasn't sooo physically attracted to him (he's conventionally attractive though) but not my personal attractive type i guess

Answer 8

Cookies_AndMilk

I think you might like this boy a little more than you'd like to admit but since he's in a relationship he's off limits so I wouldn't entertain those thoughts too much. Do some thinking for a little bit. You dressed up nicely, he thought it was sexy, you made out and he asked you to suck his thing. You said no and from that point he's been a jerk. Your whole encounter with this guy was purely sexual. You had no emotional connection nor did he get to know you any more than that encounter. Now he sees you again in some sexy heels and his friend takes notice and he's jealous. This guy only wants sex from people if he was half way decent he wouldn't even notice you now that he's got a girlfriend. He probably think you were a tease and honestly who cares. He just wanted a chance to do something sexual and he didn't have the opportunity. Don't stress over this man, he's just seeing you as an object and not a soul.

Answer 9

Asker

I see but I assure you, I like the idea of a relationship more than him... And honestly, I tried talking to him and getting to know him from the begginning but he seemed to objectify me and i ddidnt see the signe (asking me to hang out when school started the year before that, when i was talking about working asking me if i worked at a hooters (?) it seemed out of no where and I thought he was joking, I didn't post sexy pictures online on anything either... I also started a group at school as well that he wanted to be a part of and helped me with in the beginning. And it was more of a human rights thing and I took it seriously, so I think thats why i found it strang that he wasn't trying to get to know me. Also at a school party, he sort of followed me around because i looked nice. I guess he felt I was THAT attractive on te outside but not on the inside. So if i think far back i was trying to get to know him but he kept trying to make out with me, and a guy i liked turned me down so i did

Answer 10

Cookies_AndMilk

I think you've just answered your own question. Don't let the fact that you liked this guy blind you from what was so obvious. He only wanted to use you for sex. If someone is only after sex and they think it's easy to get from somebody then sure they'll pretend to take an interest in some of the things you like so they could get into your pants. If you mattered to him anymore than being a vagina he wouldn't have gotten mad and mistreated you after you told him know, if he liked you he would be understanding and patient with you not mean and pressuring. Men show their love and appreciation for a woman threw their actions and his actions only show he wanted to use you as a living sex doll. He has a girlfriend, why does it seem as though you're entertaining the possibility of a relationship with this guy? Your feelings doesn't provide leeway to intrude on that regardless of what their relationship is like. Honestly he sounds like he sucks as a person. Just avoid him and find a sweetheart

Answer 11

Asker

Ok I see and um, I told him to neer speak to e again so I dont know how that intervines with his relationship? I only bought this up because the girlfriend is very mean to me when I had NO IDEA who she was and had not talked to this guy in a year... I found it weird that he was still mad and that his girlfriend was talking about be when id never met her before and just started having classes with her. I dont care about them, especially her becaus ei nerver met her and she's just rude, I just wanted to know what made it OK for him to talk negatively about me to her and her friends so they treat me weirdly when I've never had anything to do with them AND cut ties with him... I completely forgot about him but all this negative energy and him paying attention to me was weird is all.

Answer 12

Cookies_AndMilk

Okay I didn't realize all of that. You probably bruised his ego and because of this he said some things to his current girlfriend and of course she'll believe it and be petty toward you. It honestly is all very childish but I wouldn't even worry about them. People only have so much power over you as you allow them to and if you remain unphased by both him and his girlfriend eventually the people around them will realize how childish they're being. Keep being happy on your own and honestly any bit of rudeness they present toward you you can just laugh it off, because from the girlfriend it's misguided jealousy and insecurity and from the guy it's his shattered ego and narcissistic attitude.

Answer 13

Asker

Thanks I won't allow then, but I do have a silly question, so do guys only date the girls who have sex with them when they want? I haven't had a boyfriend yet which hurts my ego, and I also have not had sex so i dont know if they are related... do the girls ask for a relationship with the boy after sex and tat is how it works, im just clueless on these things and i think thats why i was confused by this. And you know I actually hung out with him and his guy friends once, and I think one of the guys slighly said they thought i was atteactive in a rude way (like i'd do that) and i was so naive (a year ago) that i didn't know what he was saying. I don't know.

Answer 14

Cookies_AndMilk

No they don't. Any man who's worth is while is going to wait for you, if you choose not to have sex he won't care about that because he's not with you for sex, he's with you for you. Don't let any guy play you for a fool and take advantage, having sex is not a requirement to be someone's girlfriend.

Answer 15

Shaft50

Guru

It shouldn't be that serious... to be honest, I think he's acting like a sulky child...

Asker

+1 y
Same a very sulky child.
Shaft50

+1 y
It's guys like that, who feel like they are victims, when they are the masters of their own designs

Answer 16

Asker

Same a very sulky child.

Answer 17

Shaft50

It's guys like that, who feel like they are victims, when they are the masters of their own designs

Answer 18

PrincessTashaaaa

Xper 6

He had another girlfriend while he was asking you for something? You should have said yes and bit it off.

Answer 19

Anonymous

You are surprised that his girlfriend was mad at you for making out with her boyfriend
You are joking right

Asker

+1 y
He wasn't dating her, that was a year ago, , and I told no one about that. It wasn't even a known thing at school and I'm surprised he would tell her if we werent serious and I never spoke to her before or met her. That's what surprises me and I asked him to never talk to me again not too long after that, she shouldn't be mad about that.

Answer 20

Asker

He wasn't dating her, that was a year ago, , and I told no one about that. It wasn't even a known thing at school and I'm surprised he would tell her if we werent serious and I never spoke to her before or met her. That's what surprises me and I asked him to never talk to me again not too long after that, she shouldn't be mad about that.

Answer 21

Nathand

Explorer

because for once, he's surprised a lady isn't getting jealous.

Asker

+1 y
I didn't think he would try and make me jealouse, if so that would explain the girls insecurity. I feel bad for her then. I can't handle his childishness and he's about 4 years older than me too so i doubt itll change.

Answer 22

Asker

I didn't think he would try and make me jealouse, if so that would explain the girls insecurity. I feel bad for her then. I can't handle his childishness and he's about 4 years older than me too so i doubt itll change.

Answer 23

Calex | 124 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Explorer

Well, my question is, why do you care?

Asker

+1 y
I really didn't, but I just transferred to his department at school and as a transfer his girlfriend has ben there longer so her friends are giving me looks. There are many group projects so her playing victim to me when i JUST got there and have to make friends and stuff makes it a little tough for me because a majority have some idea about me. Its a small area of study so it litterally messes with my possible relationships. In all honesy I do not care but it traveled into my classes at school! fing jerk.
Asker

+1 y
not you the guy

Answer 24

Asker

I really didn't, but I just transferred to his department at school and as a transfer his girlfriend has ben there longer so her friends are giving me looks. There are many group projects so her playing victim to me when i JUST got there and have to make friends and stuff makes it a little tough for me because a majority have some idea about me. Its a small area of study so it litterally messes with my possible relationships. In all honesy I do not care but it traveled into my classes at school! fing jerk.

Answer 25

Asker

not you the guy

Answer 26

Anonymous

he's mad that he didn't screw you.

Asker

+1 y
but is it that serious? When he didn't put in any effort and I haven't been with anyone? How can it be that upsetting, does he only see me in that way? Im not a 10 hot person or anything, and there are prettier girls.

Answer 27

Asker

but is it that serious? When he didn't put in any effort and I haven't been with anyone? How can it be that upsetting, does he only see me in that way? Im not a 10 hot person or anything, and there are prettier girls.

Answer 28

babu_001

Xper 6

Are you sure that girl is his GF?

Asker

+1 y
That's such a good point. My friend actually just bought up that she felt that they were not official or that the girl wanted to date him. Someone told me they thought they were together because they saw them cuddling at a party
babu_001

+1 y
So you should not take her as his girlfriend for sure. There may be still a chance with him.
Asker

+1 y
I dont want him. he's such a jerk. he gave me a mean look today for no reason and I've not said a word about this to anyone at school
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babu_001

+1 y
Then try to forget him.

Answer 29

Asker

That's such a good point. My friend actually just bought up that she felt that they were not official or that the girl wanted to date him. Someone told me they thought they were together because they saw them cuddling at a party

Answer 30

babu_001

So you should not take her as his girlfriend for sure. There may be still a chance with him.

Answer 31

Asker

I dont want him. he's such a jerk. he gave me a mean look today for no reason and I've not said a word about this to anyone at school

Answer 32

babu_001

Then try to forget him.

Why would he be mad or care if he has a girlfriend now?

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