Do girls avoid dating good looking guys?

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Iam not talking about someone who's kind acute or above average iam talking really good looking the kind that make turn your head to look at them...

I used to think that being attractive means you can get anyone you want (assuming you have a decent personality) but its not working for me, i get stared at by girls (some are very hot) all the time, they tend to make eye contact and look at me in a seductive way and check me out (some girls i run into often ), female classmates say iam very good looking (one called me gorgeous), girls i know through mutual friends like me right away, older women told my mom iam really attractive, sisters friends told her iam very beautiful, even my parents notice that wherever i go girls tend to stare at me and smile even sometimes.

realistically speaking i should be dating someone but iam not, girls show interest but back off when i approach them, not to mention i was approached maybe 1-2 times in my entire life, i have a good personality, nice, respectful, stylish and have good tastes, fun but usually cool and laid back.

I just think about it sometimes and wonder why girls run away from me even without knowing what my personality is like, sometimes i tell myself" maybe iam not really attractive" but the way girls act and talk to me shows that to them iam highly attractive... i just can't figure this out and i just lost hope, i dont think iam gonna find a girlfriend ever, happened once before but not happening again from how girls treat me.

Answer 1

Anonymous

As i was reading this it sounded like me ik a good looking guy that i like and look at him when i could and hed stare right back but i would never talk and my friend told me to stay away from him cause he does bad things but when he was talking to his friend when we were in a group he saounded like a good guy he did smell like smoke though and thats what my friend was talking about

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Could it be that these girls are thinking the same as your friend? he's too good looking to be nice or have an interest in us? i dont smoke or drink in excess, i follow the law and usually people say iam a good guy, i smell really nice when i go out , maybe girls think iam really a bad guy
Opinion Owner

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Thats what i normally think like he's too out of my league but it sounds like they do maybe u should aproch someone that u like and tell them

Answer 2

Asker

Could it be that these girls are thinking the same as your friend? he's too good looking to be nice or have an interest in us? i dont smoke or drink in excess, i follow the law and usually people say iam a good guy, i smell really nice when i go out , maybe girls think iam really a bad guy

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

Thats what i normally think like he's too out of my league but it sounds like they do maybe u should aproch someone that u like and tell them

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kaylaS91 | 933 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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I don't know about ALL girls but..
For myself, I avoid dating guys who think they're entitled to receive attention based off of things like their looks alone. So guys who are narcissistic af, which coincidentally happens to occur more often in the more attractive bunch, are guys who I'd view to be a waste of my time.

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yes i understand that and i find girls who act in that manner equally repulsive , but i just can't figure out what makes girls run away from me when i try to get to know them its like in their head its " look at him but dont touch him" i dont show off , i dont act cocky, i treat everyone with respect and if iam drawn to a girl i try to show her that, iam very loyal to any woman i date but i just can't find one to date which baffles me, all these compliments, looks and everyone thinks iam dating 5 girls at the same time... and all i do is sit on my computer reading memes cause girls never show interest in dating me...
dieharder2k

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I actually feel like I am in exactly the same position. I get stared at all the time and told I'm gorgeous etc, and I actually do have a pretty awesome personality, super nice, charming, make girls laugh and like super super fun and people love my positivity and I bring smiles to peoples faces. I also am a extremely good dancer, like always the best dancer in the club or even festival which sounds totally conceited and ridiculous but everyone constantly stares like I end up being a spectacle and even recorded but dancing just makes me so happy that everyone I think feels my joy radiating and I am entertaining because I have very very fast feet and I just let the electronic music totally take over. Basically my guess is that my dancing ability makes me intimidating, also I am very straightforward (Aries). Is it possible that girls don't want a guy that gets so much attention, kinda think has some truth in that. Or perhaps I am just too energetic and intense for most. I don't drink.

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Asker

yes i understand that and i find girls who act in that manner equally repulsive , but i just can't figure out what makes girls run away from me when i try to get to know them its like in their head its " look at him but dont touch him" i dont show off , i dont act cocky, i treat everyone with respect and if iam drawn to a girl i try to show her that, iam very loyal to any woman i date but i just can't find one to date which baffles me, all these compliments, looks and everyone thinks iam dating 5 girls at the same time... and all i do is sit on my computer reading memes cause girls never show interest in dating me...

Answer 6

dieharder2k

I actually feel like I am in exactly the same position. I get stared at all the time and told I'm gorgeous etc, and I actually do have a pretty awesome personality, super nice, charming, make girls laugh and like super super fun and people love my positivity and I bring smiles to peoples faces. I also am a extremely good dancer, like always the best dancer in the club or even festival which sounds totally conceited and ridiculous but everyone constantly stares like I end up being a spectacle and even recorded but dancing just makes me so happy that everyone I think feels my joy radiating and I am entertaining because I have very very fast feet and I just let the electronic music totally take over. Basically my guess is that my dancing ability makes me intimidating, also I am very straightforward (Aries). Is it possible that girls don't want a guy that gets so much attention, kinda think has some truth in that. Or perhaps I am just too energetic and intense for most. I don't drink.

Answer 7

Draachen

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A lot of girls have low self-esteem, so when they see a guy who falls into above an 8 out of 10, they don't even bother approaching them due to figuring they'll probably get rejected anyway.

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over a year ago a girl rated me 8/10 but i changed my hair (its better now ) and my beard became much better and neater so i guess that pumped me another 0.2 or 0.3 points? lol I don't know , either way its frustrating to really be trying to find someone but everyone runs away from you , iam not sure what to do anymore, being sexual doesn't work, being nice doesn't work, taking it easy doesn't work, acting fast doesn't work either iam out of ideas

Answer 8

Asker

over a year ago a girl rated me 8/10 but i changed my hair (its better now ) and my beard became much better and neater so i guess that pumped me another 0.2 or 0.3 points? lol I don't know , either way its frustrating to really be trying to find someone but everyone runs away from you , iam not sure what to do anymore, being sexual doesn't work, being nice doesn't work, taking it easy doesn't work, acting fast doesn't work either iam out of ideas

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meatballs21

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Something about you or some aspect - personality, behaviour, body language, choice of words - is putting them off.

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iam trying to figure that out tbh, i have a good style, always look my best and smell nice, i never insult girls i dont know (unless they insult me, but that never happens), i usually stand straight, or lean back or whatever i am doing at that particular moment... as for personality I don't know i have no idea some say i have a good one , but girls dont even get to see what i am really like so i usually know it wasn't my personality
meatballs21

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Don't be so sure. You might need to ask one friends (especially female ones) for blunt honesty. Whatever you're doing now isn't working, so a fresh and frank analysis could give you some useful insight.
meatballs21

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*some friends

Answer 10

Asker

iam trying to figure that out tbh, i have a good style, always look my best and smell nice, i never insult girls i dont know (unless they insult me, but that never happens), i usually stand straight, or lean back or whatever i am doing at that particular moment... as for personality I don't know i have no idea some say i have a good one , but girls dont even get to see what i am really like so i usually know it wasn't my personality

Answer 11

meatballs21

Don't be so sure. You might need to ask one friends (especially female ones) for blunt honesty. Whatever you're doing now isn't working, so a fresh and frank analysis could give you some useful insight.

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meatballs21

*some friends

Answer 13

cjennaa

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If he is an arrogant jerk then yes it's definitely a dealbreaker. However if he has a good personality then it's a completely different story. Personality trumps looks --- whether the person is easy on he eyes or not

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Anonymous

I tend to just go for guys lower then my standards :/ I guess it's a self esteem thing :/ if the guys lucky enough to have u he wouldn't want to cheat kinda thing

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Not gonna lie when i heard this the first time i was like "what a load of Bull, if the guy is hot he will be wanted" then it happened to me, i get complimented often, looked at, eye contact, checked out... etc even friend who are guys admit iam a pretty hot guy but girls dont seem as enthusiast in dating me... so i think it has some basis , not to mention that i see really hot girls who can easily score a model kind of guy but their bfs are average at best which baffles me, what makes young (18-24) women choose to get with guys that aren't particulary rich or special and dont have the looks... but as you put it i guess its a self esteem thing they hate competition
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yeah I think self esteem has a huge part to do w it
Most of my friends and I usually go for guys in relationships and all that (I guess it's just funner to get something you shouldn't have?) so if we're willing to do that other girls are too
We're all on our own out here lol
Honestly tho just put yourself out there and flirt
I always try to lower my standards when I'm dating but reality is if ur hot you've got my attention so maybe your just not being straight forward I usually wait for guys to make the first move

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Asker

Not gonna lie when i heard this the first time i was like "what a load of Bull, if the guy is hot he will be wanted" then it happened to me, i get complimented often, looked at, eye contact, checked out... etc even friend who are guys admit iam a pretty hot guy but girls dont seem as enthusiast in dating me... so i think it has some basis , not to mention that i see really hot girls who can easily score a model kind of guy but their bfs are average at best which baffles me, what makes young (18-24) women choose to get with guys that aren't particulary rich or special and dont have the looks... but as you put it i guess its a self esteem thing they hate competition

Answer 16

Opinion Owner

yeah I think self esteem has a huge part to do w it
Most of my friends and I usually go for guys in relationships and all that (I guess it's just funner to get something you shouldn't have?) so if we're willing to do that other girls are too
We're all on our own out here lol
Honestly tho just put yourself out there and flirt
I always try to lower my standards when I'm dating but reality is if ur hot you've got my attention so maybe your just not being straight forward I usually wait for guys to make the first move

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IHaveLists

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I never avoid good looking guys. They're the only ones I would date. Insecure girls avoid them.

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not avoid as in avoid, they stare, check me out and hold eye contact but once i actually approach they usually run away, i dont say anything literally nothing that is bad or insulting just hi, whats up, i've seen you around , what you study, just normal things, they respond for few days and usually i try to meet them after few days (Face to face) but before i get to ask they just ghost me...

So far 2-3 girls who did that turned out to be taken, others just stare the shit out of me but won't take it any further , its frustrating they just act like they know something about me i dont know.

Answer 18

Asker

not avoid as in avoid, they stare, check me out and hold eye contact but once i actually approach they usually run away, i dont say anything literally nothing that is bad or insulting just hi, whats up, i've seen you around , what you study, just normal things, they respond for few days and usually i try to meet them after few days (Face to face) but before i get to ask they just ghost me...

So far 2-3 girls who did that turned out to be taken, others just stare the shit out of me but won't take it any further , its frustrating they just act like they know something about me i dont know.

Answer 19

Anonymous

Nah you are probably just not that good-looking.

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maybe , as i said i sit home sometimes thinking maybe iam that attractive to women... but then again guys tell me iam hot, women tell me iam really hot, i get stared at often, girls smile at me, chick me out, been called gorgeous more than few times, everyone wonders how i have no girlfriend, and one friend told me once " you're not like the rest of us, you're the kind of guy who girls throw themselves at" ... plus 90% of guys who i talk to dont get the same treatment i get from women (Looks, smiles... etc ) ... maybe you're right I don't know i really dont anymore, either way women just dont seem interested enough to date me

Answer 20

Asker

maybe , as i said i sit home sometimes thinking maybe iam that attractive to women... but then again guys tell me iam hot, women tell me iam really hot, i get stared at often, girls smile at me, chick me out, been called gorgeous more than few times, everyone wonders how i have no girlfriend, and one friend told me once " you're not like the rest of us, you're the kind of guy who girls throw themselves at" ... plus 90% of guys who i talk to dont get the same treatment i get from women (Looks, smiles... etc ) ... maybe you're right I don't know i really dont anymore, either way women just dont seem interested enough to date me

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