I my wife was healthy and able to have kids there would need to be a major reason why she didn't want to have them naturally. One of the goals in my life is to get married and have kids. While I may be open to adoption at some point, right now my intention is to have my own kids. This is one reason to have serious talks and be on the same page before you get married. I have dated someone and when we first started dating she was 100% against having her own kids. Just was never going to happen and she didn't ever want to. Flash forward 14 years later and she was a happy mother of two kids with another dad. People change their minds for many reasons but being aligned on having kids or not before getting married is a major decision for the couple.
I wouldn't be interested in marrying her. If I'm going to raise children I would want at least one to be mine. It's just something about passing on my genes and knowing they are mine and stuff. So no if she doesn't want to have my biological children then I have no interest in marrying her.
I don’t think I’ll get married but whether I do or not, I don’t want biological children. I’d rather adopt. Some dudes may think “why wouldn’t she want to have MY baby?”. But my desires have nothing to do with the dude at all. If a dude can’t love an adoptive child just because they aren’t apart of his DNA, he’s got an ego problem.
My teacher (male) was a hopeless romantic towards his girlfriend.He wanted to marry her, proposed 3 fucking times, she said no.He wanted kids, she didn't, her body, so... They don't have kids.Together for over 30 years.I guess love needs some sacrifices sometimes?
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I wouldn't date someone who didn't want children at all because I would absolutely love to become a mother. However, if they didn't want to have children biologically, I'd be happy to adopt or use other fertility methods. As long as I get to have children in my life, I'm happy with whatever way we get them! :)
I would, most people don't like the idea of adopting because clearly they wanna spread their sperm everywhere in the world. There so many children in the world alone, without apeople to call familly being raised in orphanages, it really breaks my heart.
I am a muslim, so i can't raise a child that is not related to me, only my kids, my wifes kids, my brothers or sisters kids, otherwise i can't.Now from my own perspective religion aside, its a no as well to be honest ^^'. Whats the point of marrying someone if not to have her bare our kids otherwise if i can't have kids, i would be looking for a single mom (divorced or a widow).Sorry, i made it complicated ^^'
I'm not about marriage, but if the loved girl want to adopt instead of biological, it totally undersandableI mean the first month are ok for woman body, but from 6 to 9, I totally understand it so suffering, so why should I force her to do something hurting?
I'd marry a girl that didn't want children at all, because I don't want them either. However, no I would not date a girl that wanted to have kids either biologically or through adoption.
I don't want children period, so that parts ok. So that means I wouldn't want to adopt either. However there would be some guys that would be ok with that.
No. Never underestimate the connection you have with your own blood
Personally no. I want a biological child. I'd be happy to adopt, or take on step kids, but i would want at least 1 of my own
As long as she wants to be a mother and raise children yes. Sperm banks and surrogacy fixes that problem for me.
Of course. I wouldn't marry them if they do want kids.
I have done my bit for repopulating ther planet so more kids is strictly optional for me. so yes.
Sure. I dont want kids anyway, so adoption is great incase we start wanting them, but she gets too old
Depends on your desires, i wouldn't as i want kids now i won't let having kids keep me from being with her if i love her.
I don't know why it would be an issue, in my opinion it's being with them that's the most important part. There is ways to compromise not having kids specifically such as adoption.
I couldn't do so, that's something I desire and something that I must have in my life is kids. I can't do differently just because that "Spouse" doesn't want to or that person I'm interested in
Yes I would, because I can understand her reasons for doing so. It´s her Body, she would be out for her Job and stressed for Long time. I wouldn´t make do that.
I don't think I would ever marry but adoption sounds good.
I never saw myself as a mother anyways. But, maybe later in life, I'd be willing to adopt.
No because ill never get married in the first place
Back when I got married the first time I would because I didn't want to have chidren but now I would like to have a child that's hell isn't
Absolutely not. The reason we even marry in the first place is because it is intended to create and raise children.
I don't like kids. When I'm near them I don't know who cries louder, the baby or I
Yeah. I don't choose my kids. I just go with who ever it is.
I would.When we're both financially stable and know she's the one I want to be with forever
Yeah if she is willingly to adopt kids but if she doesn't want kids entirely then a no
Yup. (I would marry my boyfriend if he doesn't want kids)
No I wouldn't. A age gap wouldn't be a problem but that really would.
No I have been married, never again and wanting children would be a even bigger turn-off.
I'd say yes if I really loved her. But you would miss out on people saying he/she has your eyes and etc. So I don't know.
That's what im seeking... a girl who doesn't want kids... fuck kids
Definitely. I don't want kids they stress me out too much.
No.. I want my genes on my kids.. Then we can adopt..
Yes, either way there would be one less unfortunate child and one more upstanding citizen.
I feel you. I want like one child and others can be adopted
I'd only marry someone who doesn't want any children at all.
No. Although, I'd be okay with someone who wants kids but can't have them.
What makes it diffrence adopting or biologiaclly as in any situation children are there
I wouldn't have a problem with it, because we would still be starting a family.
Yes, though I think you would need to find someone opeb to that mindset.
Only if she worths. I would rather not have child than adopt
Both men and women who are afraid of parenthood are not worth marrying.
That’s a bit harsh, don’t you think? 🤭I don’t plan on have any children because of my genetics, family history and my own upbringing but I don’t think that should be any reason for a man not to marry me.
as long as she gives me the right to give them my last name. I dont care what she does with the kids, etc.. but, they MUST have my last name
Just curious.. why?
im an only child, male
What does that have to do with your requirement for the kids to have your last name
only child, malewomen will never understand
Sounds like an ego problem
sounds like a formality to me
A formality with no real purpose other than to make you feel better about yourself.
nopejust a formalitya long forsaken oneget over itfucktard
what if she was also an only child and wanted to continue her family's name as well?
Yes, and then I'd coerce him into having babies. Or I'd just stop taking birth control without him knowing. And I'd say, "Ha! You got me pregnant, motherfucker! No going back now!!"
This is horrible...
You know, what you’re thinking of doing can actually distort relationships. My step mom married my dad with the idea that she can change his mind about babies (which he has stood his ground and will not have one) It creates an unhealthy and untrustworthy relationship. This is just me talking from experience. Talk of divorce is in the air, one sleeps in the spare room and sometimes they don’t talk for days. Why? Because my step mom constantly tries to change my dads mind and he get mad because he’s told her from the beginning he doesn’t want any. Forcing someone into parenthood is awful and definitely untrustworthy.
So, you are pro abortion?
I’m COMPLETELY against abortion. It’s murder.
But you said forcing someone into parenthood is awful. What about a girl who has been raped and gets pregnant because of it? Is she not allowed to abort the child? Which is it? Abort the child or force her to carry it to term, completely change her body inside and out, and force her into parenthood? Which is the lesser evil?
I’m talking about what you’re wanting to do “stop taking birth control without him knowing” THAT IS WRONG AND IRRESPONSIBLE. If you do that then you clearly don’t respect this guys choice and quite frankly you should just leave him if you’re going to be irresponsible and spiteful. And girl both tings are evil. They are both bad. Rape is awful and so is you disrespecting your partners choice, going behind his back and stop taking birth control to trap him even though you know he doesn’t want kids. How the hell would you expect a guy to trust or respect you when you do or think of doing things like that? It’s absolutely messed up sorry to say. Personally people can do what they want, it’s not my life. If I were ever raped, which I nearly have been several times throughout my life, I would NEVER EVER abort the baby that’s in me because it’s a part of me and it has the right to a life. It’s a human in you after all.
No I wouldn't if something happend to her that she couldn't have kids I would stay with her but apart from that I would not start a relationship with someone that didn't want my kids
No I wouldn't. I only want to raise children that are biologically my own.
I'm not calling you out or anything, but can I ask why?
You're not the first person to say this. Just curious of your reasoning.
@AquaBoo because that's just what I want? I don't want to I vest time, resources and feelings in to a person who does not continue my genes.
Alright thnx :)
@ThisDudeHere I agree.
I doubt I would. I really want kids, to give birth to and to adopt, so someone not wanting children wouldn't be compatible with me.
Yes, If a woman can love another child as her own that is one of the most beautiful things in the world!
I don't think so. I want at least one child
No, why shouldn't someone want their own kids? Why shouldn't my wife want mine?
Without a doubt, I would. Having your own children would be nice, but adopting kids is just as nice. Family doesn't always mean blood.
Of course they'll be dudes out there who will say yes but this shouldve been a poll I wanna see what most dudes think.
Yes since I don't want children myself
Yep! I don't want kids either.
Aha... probably not. (;¬_¬)
Nope i want kids some day
i wouldn't marry anyone
I did, because I don’t want children either.
yes, but no children at all including adoptions
Nope i would not coz i adore kids
I dont wsnt children so yeah lol
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