Guys, Why does it bother my guy when I say another guy is icky or disgusting?

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I work at a public service desk, and there's this neighborhood guy with missing teeth and a criminal record that comes in. This guy has made comments about my rear, such as "I'm enjoying the view" when I have my back turned, etc. He's done this about three times so far, and has commented on my lack of a wedding ring, etc. He makes me feel icky, because I know he's raking me over and thinking who knows what. He's just gross and really old too. All my female coworkers think this guy is nasty, too.

I was telling my boyfriend about this guy (he knows who he is) in the course of telling him about my day, and I said, "He's disgusting, and I wish he'd stop." My boyfriend acts like he thinks I'm being mean. He says, "how is he disgusting just for being attracted to you?" and "So if he were handsome, would it be okay for him to say that?"

I am not the kind of woman who can't take a compliment from a man at work. I don't think all men are rapists or harassers just because they say, "You look nice today." I like men and I enjoy compliments from them.

But there's a way to compliment that makes a woman feel like you're a really sweet guy, and that there's nothing to fear, and then there's a way to "compliment" that makes a woman feel like if you got a chance, you'd grab her and use her. That's the kind of attention that I don't want. Even if a guy is really good-looking, if he says something in a slimy way, it makes my skin crawl.

Why does it rub my boyfriend the wrong way when I say this other guy is icky and/or disgusting? I don't get it!

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MackToday | 651 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Sounds like he's virtue signaling. Could be he's a leftist cuck standing up for the "homeless" or some shit. That fucking moron should be arrested for harassing you and put away. Hopefully he'll die in jail and never fuck with anyone again.

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williael

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What is "virtue signaling?" I've never heard that phrase.
MackToday

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It's what leftists do. The put their "virtue" on display, they constantly make comments as to how anti racist they are or how much they are for the homeless. What he's saying is indicative of neo Marxist class struggle thinking. Oppressed class (the creep at your work because he's dirty and broke etc) vs oppressor class , in this case you for daring to speak out against him. By defending him, you boyfriend is showing he's a good leftist he tows the party line, defends the oppressed classes and oppresses the oppressor classes. If you want to know more about how it works here's a video that explains it pretty good. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MPojltjv4M0

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williael

What is "virtue signaling?" I've never heard that phrase.

Answer 3

MackToday

It's what leftists do. The put their "virtue" on display, they constantly make comments as to how anti racist they are or how much they are for the homeless. What he's saying is indicative of neo Marxist class struggle thinking. Oppressed class (the creep at your work because he's dirty and broke etc) vs oppressor class , in this case you for daring to speak out against him. By defending him, you boyfriend is showing he's a good leftist he tows the party line, defends the oppressed classes and oppresses the oppressor classes. If you want to know more about how it works here's a video that explains it pretty good. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MPojltjv4M0

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meesegoMoo

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Sounds like he's made those comments himself. Men who do so see nothing wrong with it. Men who don't (do that) think it disrespectful and a terrible way to catch the interest of a woman.

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