What is a 15 messages a day rule?

[Jessicaml]

I was told by a guy that I was way past his 15 messages a day rule... what does that mean?

Updates:

[MrOracle]

It means that when he's away from you, he's busy with his other responsibilities, and he can't be constantly interrupted all day long as you share every thought that pops into your head. He's telling you that you either need to wait until he gets home/until you see him, or you need to prioritize your messages to things that are *really* important, and you need to be clear and concise and get straight to the point, so that he can answer you and get back to work or whatever else he's doing.

I am the same way. I own my own business, and I'm the primary worker, salesman, accountant, researcher, equipment & supply purchaser, vehicle loader, battery charger, advertiser, and appointment-maker. I'm BUSY.

I'm also a man, and like most men, my strength lies in being able to focus on a single task to the exclusion of everything else, which makes me a great problem-solver and system designer, even with very large and complex projects. However, like most men, I'm a LOUSY multi-tasker. If someone calls or messages me, I have to stop whatever else I'm doing, read the message, think about it, write out a reply, and then try to remember what it is I was doing and restart that process. If someone is trying to have a conversation with me, rather than getting directly to the point, then I'm literally going to get nothing else done, and that costs me in time, money, and customer satisfaction, because I'll fail to meet the customer's timeline, or be late to my next appointment.

When I'm at work, I'm also frequently on a ladder (holding a drill and a camera or speaker, precariously balanced), in an attic, or on the floor twisted under a counter to access the back of equipment, and I've often got a job where I need 3 hands and only have two, it's dark, I'm in a painful position, and I've got a customer breathing down my neck asking if I've fixed it yet. Try to imagine how frustrating it is to have to stop and check my phone every 2 minutes in that situation.

OR, I'm driving in heavy, dangerous traffic and trying to pay attention to crazy drivers and various objects in the road, in a windowless van with poor visibility, and trying to find a new customer location in an unfamiliar area. Again, try to imagine trying to carry on a text conversation and drive safely in already-crazy-dangerous driving conditions.

I don't know what your boyfriend's job is like, and it may not be as bad as mine, but either way, he's busy, and you need to have some discipline and prioritize what absolutely needs to be communicated now, and hold everything else for when you are face-to-face.

[Pistachiopie]

It means you are not worth more than that much time or attention from him. No matter what type of relationship you have with him, this is a red flag

[GraveDoll]

Never heard a rule for that. If someone like you they dont care if you send them a message like a 9-5 if you choose. They be more flatter than anything.

red flags either a control freak or really not that interested.

[Bee-Hatch]

It means he's made up some arbitrary bullshit rule. Now I get someone who texts a lot can get annoying. But it's possible to message them and tell them you're busy, can they get back to you.

[Uberknot]

Sounds like some bullshit. I'd be sending that guy essays 😂

[Lyndsielee666]

Sounds like a douchebag. Send multiple messages about How you’re done talking to him just to be annoying 🤷‍♀️😂

[JustJen]

It means he's a complete idiot and not worth your time.

[chriscdi]

it sounds like he is a coon and limits people on how many message people can send him

[reptocarl]

He’s saying you’re messaging him way too much

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a faggot I'd leave noway this would be a lasting relationship for life

[serious]

Never heard of such a rule as such.

[Anonymous]

Never heard of that rule.

[ChiTown33]

🤣🤣🤣

[Luxhian]

That means he’s in love with you