It would take a certain kind of girl because being shy and quiet also means I’m observant to situations so I see what other people go through in terms of relationships I see games that are played.
That's true, But being quiet and shy means, you're also looking for something serious rather than also wanting to be a part of the games that are played in relationships. Many girls want a shy guy because from experience they tend to be more caring about the little things once you get comfortable in the relationship.
So why is it I haven’t dated then
So do I give up
No, but you may have to go to extreme measures (like travelling aboard) to get a girlfriend. Just know that most women won't be very forgiving of your social deficits. You should likely look for women who have suffered in life also, they tend to be less shallow and have more depth to their character.
Well if I just continue as I am and don’t pursue any women will I be judged poorly
Likely you will by some people. Being in a romantic relationship typically increases your social value and being seen as someone who finds it hard to initiate such relationships lowers it.
So the thing is not dating hasn’t stopped me from achieving my goals
That's excellent. Though you may find you begin to get lonelier as you get older. At least you have options, many in your situation don't.
Well what helps me block it out is the thought of not being wanted by women. You don’t chase what dosent want you
It's good to remove uncertainty, yes. Uncertainty typically creates distress. I'm in a somewhat similar situation to you currently, but I get mixed signals from women. This creates immense frustration. I would advise you the approach women you find attractive (not at your college, obviously) as this will help remove uncertainty. Either your advances are accepted and you get a girlfriend or they are rejected and you confirm the women in your current area don't find you attractive. That would be my advice, anyway
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So why can t people just keep to themselves why do they have to be judged
That's not true. Girls do look at a lot more than your friends circle and your looks. It's all about finding a personality that fits with her's.
So I have been told I have a flat personality
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