What can a good looking girl do to not make guys intimidated?

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Answer 1

Anonymous

I have this same issue too, the guy I am in love with is a larger male, and while I am certainly not Hollywood standards of beautiful, I certainly know I’m not too bad to look at either. I don’t think it’s my most important factor, I really want to try working on my soul as a person and how I treat people, but it’s hard because the guy I am in love is what I’m attracted too, he’s a bigger guy, balding, but I’ve fallen for him, he however, I think is intimated by me. I hate it!

Answer 2

SarahsSummer | 2.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Be friendly, social, kind and a be bit self deprecating.

Answer 3

ThisIsMyOpinion | 450 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Guys are not intimidated by you because you are good looking. Any guy that has any intentions with a girl, besides use for sex and then leave in that case he doesn't care, will be a little nervous of approaching her no matter what she looks like. The fear of not having your feelings met is the same.
So even if you suddenly because not so good looking the problem would still be there.

Asker

7 mo
i don't get the nervous part? Do you mean that if a guy has any intentions with a girl, he will be little nervous? And is the intentions a positive or negative ones?
ThisIsMyOpinion

7 mo
Positive. If his intentions are negative he will not be nervous at all.
Asker

7 mo
what does the nervousness indicate?
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ThisIsMyOpinion

7 mo
That they want you to like them.
Asker

7 mo
what can the girl do to help in the situation?
ThisIsMyOpinion

7 mo
You can try to start approaching them yourself.
Asker

7 mo
how about smiling at him? Would it be better? what effects would it have?
ThisIsMyOpinion

7 mo
That cold also work, yes. He might see it as an invitation to approach you.

Answer 4

Asker

i don't get the nervous part? Do you mean that if a guy has any intentions with a girl, he will be little nervous? And is the intentions a positive or negative ones?

Answer 5

ThisIsMyOpinion

Positive. If his intentions are negative he will not be nervous at all.

Answer 6

Asker

what does the nervousness indicate?

Answer 7

ThisIsMyOpinion

That they want you to like them.

Answer 8

Asker

what can the girl do to help in the situation?

Answer 9

ThisIsMyOpinion

You can try to start approaching them yourself.

Answer 10

Asker

how about smiling at him? Would it be better? what effects would it have?

Answer 11

ThisIsMyOpinion

That cold also work, yes. He might see it as an invitation to approach you.

Answer 12

Madhatter920 | 656 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Don't wait for them to come to you. Go to them. Be open, be friendly, show interest. Be persistent and direct. Don't hint, because they wouldn't in their wildest dreams presume you'd be interested. Spell it out. They won't believe it at first, so repeat it.

Answer 13

1CentWorth | 143 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

become a slut so others feel that you're within their possible grasp. This will lower you from a 10 to a 9 or an 8, or more if you really go nuts. And/Or publicly acknowledging that you have slept with fat guys, not so pretty guys, etc. Guys will be like, "I'm better than that! ... Maybe I got a chance."

Well, it seems that's what women do in such a condition. IMHO

1CentWorth

7 mo
awww someone doesn't like my opinion, but, prove me wrong.
jaybee281

7 mo
As much as i hate to say this but you're kinda right.. Like if she just starts laughing more and hugging every guy she sees she'll have a friendzone list and guys in love with me list like if she does what you're saying she'll have triple the chances
1CentWorth

7 mo
@jaybee281 Thank you for not taking the political-road on this!

Answer 14

1CentWorth

awww someone doesn't like my opinion, but, prove me wrong.

Answer 15

jaybee281

As much as i hate to say this but you're kinda right.. Like if she just starts laughing more and hugging every guy she sees she'll have a friendzone list and guys in love with me list like if she does what you're saying she'll have triple the chances

Answer 16

1CentWorth

@jaybee281 Thank you for not taking the political-road on this!

Answer 17

ChiTown33 | 861 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Not expect him to do all the work duh!
You know it's not a crime for a woman to show interest. And if he's nervous don't let on that you can tell. Positive feedback generally helps a guy relax and feel he's not out of his league.

Asker

7 mo
Why would he be nervous? And also how can I not make him nervous?
ChiTown33

7 mo
I would have to know him. Maybe he's a nervous guy that's had a lot of rejection. I'm that guy. Or maybe he just feels like she's out of his league even though he's got a healthy self esteem.
Like i said the best think you can do is provide a relaxed atmosphere. Don't expect him to carry the conversation. Don't make him do anymore of a dance for you than he has to. Some women get awkward when a guy is nervous and that only adds to the guys anxiety. Like i say just make it easier for him to talk to you smile and laugh at his jokes or funny stories. If he sees that things are going well (you're not running away lol) he should eventually relax.

Answer 18

Asker

Why would he be nervous? And also how can I not make him nervous?

Answer 19

ChiTown33

I would have to know him. Maybe he's a nervous guy that's had a lot of rejection. I'm that guy. Or maybe he just feels like she's out of his league even though he's got a healthy self esteem.
Like i said the best think you can do is provide a relaxed atmosphere. Don't expect him to carry the conversation. Don't make him do anymore of a dance for you than he has to. Some women get awkward when a guy is nervous and that only adds to the guys anxiety. Like i say just make it easier for him to talk to you smile and laugh at his jokes or funny stories. If he sees that things are going well (you're not running away lol) he should eventually relax.

Answer 20

pajamasam | 397 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Explorer

Smile, don't be afraid to make small talk. Dont be afraid to compliment guys (genuine compliments) guys rarely if ever get complimented by girls. A girl telling a guy she likes his hair, or he has nice eyes, will definitely catch his attention.

Answer 21

willisg

Xper 5

Ware coke bottle glasses, Jack up your hair. Ware baggy clothes and carry a bunch of books to make you look super smart.
Wait forget that, you would be attracting nerd/geek like me. Uh, listen to some of the other answers some are good.

Answer 22

Snakeyes7 | 394 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Keep a conversation going and not give one word answers or something of that caliber.

Asker

7 mo
how about smiling at you? which is better?
Snakeyes7

7 mo
Smiling definitely helps too but I think conversation speaks louder than the smile as anyone can fake it.

Answer 23

Asker

how about smiling at you? which is better?

Answer 24

Snakeyes7

Smiling definitely helps too but I think conversation speaks louder than the smile as anyone can fake it.

Answer 25

spartan55 | 13.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Be pleasant and learn some humility.

spartan55

7 mo
Pro tip: more than likely they aren't intimidated by you, they just aren't interested.

Answer 26

spartan55

Pro tip: more than likely they aren't intimidated by you, they just aren't interested.

Answer 27

NewZion

Xper 7

Nothing. Let your looks filter cowards.

pajamasam

7 mo
Lol. Gosh I hope not

Answer 28

pajamasam

Lol. Gosh I hope not

Answer 29

msc545 | 370 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Be friendly and initiate contact with us.

Answer 30

Anonymous

Initiate the conversation.

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