Why all of the guys I fall in love with are assholes and players?

you just maybe haven't met the right type of guy tbh
the players tend to mislead their intended victims into believing they are genuine, want to settle down, want to find love, want to... blah blah... when in reality they just want to get what they want from you and then dump you when they have...
genuine people won't just want one thing, genuine people actually want to share a life with someone special
pisses me off tbh that those arseholes are actually making women untrusting of genuine guys... they hurt them and move on, we tend to stay and end up having to reearn the trust and reassure them that we are there for the long haul not a couple of flings
I don't know, you didn't really provide many specifics.
Could be a variety of reasons, I'm sure. But if I had to take a guess, and this is just a guess knowing nothing about you or your situation, I would guess that you probably look for the wrong qualities in a guy. If you look for very handsame, very confident, very masculine guys, who are smooth talkers, extraverted, etc. then you're very likely to find a lot of assholes and players. If that is indeed the type of qualities you look for, and you want a serious relationship with someone who really loves you, then you might want to start prioritizing other qualities.
Handsome*
Oh, another theory: Could be the places you meet them. Probably a lot of guys you meet at clubs will be players, for example.
So normal guys can’t be handsome, confident and extroverted? Based on what you’re saying normal guys are ugly, shy and afraid of everything...
That's not what I said, no. I was talking about what qualities you might be prioritizing, not saying guys can't have some of those qualities. If you prioritize things like sweetness and attentiveness, for example, you might get fewer players. And someone who's sweet and attentive can also happen to be handsome. Also, I was talking about this specific combination of qualities (not just one or two). Someone who's not handsome also doesn't have to be ugly (someone can just be average for example), someone who's not particularly confident doesn't have to be afraid of everything, they can just be somewhat confident and somewhat insecure at different times. No need to paint this in extremes. And finally the fact is the more of these qualities someone has, the more likely they are to be a player. Because that's the type of guy that often becomes a player. On the flipside, you're not going to find many shy players.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!That's what your drawn to want to attract a better class if guys change your mind but and where you hang out but it's clear those are the guys you are attracted to a good guy would not you and you would wind up abusing him so readjust your mindset and stay away from bums and lowlifes and hope in the wall bars and pubs that have people sleeping on bar counter top and serves liquor from unlabeled bottles
You probably go for guys who are some combination of cocky and good looking.
Good looking young guys are likely to be players if not shy.
Guys who you can immediately tell are cocky are … often not worried about what other people think because they don't care about other people, period.
You only fall in love with outgoing, popular, highly socialized guys.
To guys who can get any pussy they want, your pussy isn't special.
Because you keep picking those guys intentionally and avoiding responsibility for your terrible taste in guys, work on that.
Guys over 30 are looking for commitment. Guys under 30 play games.
Because most girls your age like the "Bad Boys"!
After a few years and maybe a couple of babies you will learn that they really are Assholes and try to find someone more mature.
Simple. You have shit taste in men. Any other questions?
because you crave the self confident little assholes that they are and unconsciously ignore the red flags that their attitudes show
Becuase you have lowv standards duh.
You have bad taste in men. Isn't it obvious?
Cause they’re not boring.
Because you keep going after the same type
Because you invited assholes and players.
because they are young
@Aces404 most young men are like this. as I get older and I found older men. they are nicer. what I mean is that they are more mature and done with stupid
@Aces404 20 isn't old yet. most men in 20s are still immature no matter how nice they are. I have met someone like this when I was 20. and he was 20. I thought he would be a good man. in fact after a few years next, he was not really good one. so now I prefer older men. ♥️
miss with all do respect I'm mature enough to make it through this hell we call earth ok? and we all are either by hiding from truth or by facing life head on so its rude to say that even tho I may be young doesn't mean I dont know struggle or hardship so please dont try and mock anyone you dont know and maybe you weren't I can't tell so sorry if I seemed heated I just hate when people treat me like a kid
Also, I like how apparently 26 is too old but 20 is a young boy... you really need to be a bit more consistent. Just realize maybe, just maybe you're buying into a silly stereotype with this "because they're young "bullshit. All you've got is your anecdotal experience and you've got two guys proving ot you that it's wrong.
My point being, being too young is not an excuse. You've got young guys who are players and they make that choice, and you've got young guys who are not (like me and Aces) and never were. And not I've known many other guys who were friends who also were not. You've got older guys who are players, you've got older guys who are not. Maybe your conclusion comes either from buying into a baseless stereotype or because you also pick out the "players" without knowing it. Might wanna think about that. I'm out.
@Goma15 damn you popped off bro and yea just because theyre young doesn't mean that they aren't mature they can be playing and act childish yes but then again we young people get serious about certain things like me if you touch or put someone down I won't care if your a woman or a man I'll correct you if you're a kid I'll be gentle if your old enough to know better I'll be harsh it's just some and can't really understand the drawbacks of love its blinds us so it's up to them to make sure they dont get blinded like most it's a scary but heart warming thing we just need to know which love is meant for us which is hard and I've been like this since I was 14 I don't know why but it's just right to teach others about to accept others boundaries
@Aces404 Well you know, I'll admit to beeing somewhat annoyed at being called old just because I'm 26. Plus, I admit that I really hate people buying into stereotypes it rubs me the wrong way. Yeah, I think you're right that it's important to teach other people to look passed their biases. And yes, finding love is a harsh, long and arduous process.
@Goma15 bro you're old you're wise and you're not old until you get excited over a vacuum cleaner and yea stereotypes just ain't right like I look and sound like I'm from the hood right? but I still treat everyone the same and with respect as long as they respect me and my family and besides that im just a chill guy when you first come up to me and when you get to know me and still you're not old you just know a lot more than others while old people are more... riddle talkers like my pops he goes "I won't teach you you teach yourself* and I live by that
@Aces404 Well, my vaccuuum cleaner iiis very nice. I'm kidding. =p
But yeah, I agree. Treat people like fellow human beings with their own complexities, don't rely on stereotypes. And definitely don't rely on stereotypes to excuse shitty behaviour, I would say.
I get it "old and wise" is just kind of an idiom. So no worries, I get what you meant. >.<
Maybe you need to change your approach
Because were the most fun
You have bad taste
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