Thank you sooooooo MUCH for sharing your story!!! I appreciate it and the help
Me too. Very submissive
This was a GREAT answer. Well done 💓
Loveeeeeeee this post. Thanks for taking the time and sharing some feedback. You Rock
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Nice story, but girls will turn on u and side with who they are with, but being a white knight can get u hurt I seen it happen all to often.
Thanks so much for the feedback!!!
@stefan1985 Well believe or not it's true what I said and yes i've been hurt more then a few times both physically and emotionally, but I always bounce back a little wiser for my effort. i would still defend a woman who boyfriend or husband was getting a little to handsy. When I was growing up I was the blunt of being bullied by every guy that needed a patsy to make him look good. One day I had enough & I fought back, the bully was beat i did two weeks against the wall, but I was never bullied after that. Let me clear the dust here, i'm shy, but I know when to walk away, and when to play her game just a little to see what her game is, that's worked for me for 52 years. & I a firm believer if something works don't fix it.
I like your idea 🦋
Nothing but facts I like that☝️👌
Thanks for the feedback
I like that you broke it down! Thanks
well, like, i remember one time this girl came over (with my roommate)... I'm super stoned, and she sits down right next to me... FIRST THING SHE SAYS: "whenever i have sex with someone, i like to lick their butt!" I was like what in the actual fuck? how can you say that to someone first thing? hahaand ever after that she was always hitting on me... and even like asking me to get her pregnant... and she would get jealous of other girls... and i couldn't even figure out why...like all that together made me not want to be with her, because it was just too much and it made me uncomfortable (although i really love her otherwise).fortunately, she moved to india and got pregnant and found 2 lovers (a guy and a girl) and they all 3 got married together...pretty sure that's what she needed :D
yeah, my life is funny
Another time (this is an example of how to do it right):I was hitchiking down the mountain in Malibu because my car had broken down. This girl picked me up... first thing she says to me is "I just came from Santa Cruz and i got these strawberries. You want some fresh organic strawberries."(she feeds me strawberries)She gave me a ride to Santa Monica and we exchanged numbers, etc.My vehicle was broken down on the top of the mountain, so i couldn't get back to my place; so i got a motel room in Santa Monica a couple days. Couple days later: the girl was staying at her friends house in Malibu (near the beach), and she had taken the bus into Santa Monica (not realizing that the Malibu bus stops running super early). So, i was like, "come crash at my motel room in Santa Monica"She came over and we drank a couple of beers and watched "Jem and the Holograms" for a couple hours... nothing happens... we are just watchin cartoons.Then we step outside for a moment and the dude in the motel room next door starts talking to me... he's, like, really on one or been drinking a bunch of coffee or something, and we are having a long conversation about some nonsense...after a while the girl says "I hate to interrupt your bromance, but I'm getting ready to go to bed" (she pulls me in the room)I like to be forthright, so i say, "hey, do you like to cuddle when you sleep with someone?"In response, she pulls down her shorts and shows me her underwear which has printed on it:"Let's Cuddle!"right on the ass...we did more than cuddle :D
She was insecure? Like I said on my comment, a girl doing the first move is not a problem, however, perhaps it can be the mile sign of a problem.I think most girls can't handle that approach, and the ones who do perhaps have some controlling issues.
@DiegoO wait, who was insecure? the first girl? yeah, i'm not sure why she would have felt insecure tho. it wasn't like she had trouble hooking up with people whenever she wanted to. that's why i was confused all the time...like, she could get laid, no problem... and i mean, we are good friends too. that's why it was weird to me. if she hadn't been like that, i would have been MORE likely to sleep with her...oh yeah, and she ate hella garlic... like, i would throw up if i tried to have sex with someone with a current severe case of garlic breath :D
My perspective on this and I don't expect anyone to agree with me is that I cannot host life in my body. I do not pay these biological reproductive costs. I do not suffer menstrual cycles. I am built with higher bone density and muscle mass, on the average. I want to use this to protect her. To me, leading means to protect. This is why I walk on the side of oncoming traffic on dates. I protect her from oncoming traffic. It is a trivial gesture but I do not stop at the trivial. I don't want her to protect/lead mean. I do not need such protection. I want to protect/lead her.
* I don't want her to protect/lead [me].
So if she performs a dominant and, in my mind, "protective" gesture like asking me on a date, I am not going to take offense. But I will find a way to regain control and lead behind the situation if I'm up for it and shift the burden and responsibility to protect and lead her back to me.
And I see lots of people talk about double standards here between men and women. I don't care about them. I am not built like a woman, and a woman is not built like me. I embrace the differences in courtship contexts. I am not the type to think men can only work certain jobs -- I only want the best. It's in all of our interests to see the best hired whether the best is male or female. But for me, personally, I want to protect a woman. I don't want her to protect me. And I consider leading and protecting to be the same thing. If a building erupts on fire, and I am a decent leader and protector, I guide my loved ones to safety. I take responsibility. I protect. If someone is going to die, I want to die first.
I have been called "simp" repeatedly here for my views and I can understand why. There is a new generation that has conflated being a gentle ass-kisser with being a gentleman. These are not the same things. If we conflated the two, then Maximus in Gladiator would be a "simp". Almost every man people idolize beyond the womanizing types who hold values that lead to families would be called "simp". There is a dominant approach to this. But it is the type where the leader is not a "taker". but a "protector".
LMBO I love the details. You give me something to do. Thanks Love
I'm pretty old school, perhaps. But I've analyzed the old school, new school, I've bounced between cultures where both of those ideas mean very different things. At the end of the day, I question right and wrong. I arrived at this thought. It is not to be cool (these days it is hardly cool). It is not to conform. I genuinely feel that it is right. And maybe that feeling is entirely subjective. I dunno. This feels right.With all the aggression I had growing up, I realized I might be able to channel it to good purpose... and in my mind this idea of protecting the woman and children or even men who cannot protect themselves -- it's not sexist. It's right. That's what I'm supposed to do. That's why I was born to do after exhaustively questioning it... even questionable women and questionable children. This seems right. It might be primitive -- like reinventing morality from our biological roots, and it's hardly original -- I looked for ideas of morality that seemed to make the most sense to me after exhaustive searches. I don't know. I don't care. I don't expect people to agree. It feels right to me.It's like a man should never run away from danger. That seemed instinctively right to me as a boy even when our teachers tried to teach otherwise. Why? Because a man who makes a habit of doing that may protect himself but he'll never be able others from the same dangers. To protect is the best thing a man can ever do. That's what I figured. That's how I wanna go down.
Thanks for sharing your experience! Super helpful
My guess is you had to make the first move on her
@moviedude714 usually that's what happens... Not sure why
I wanted to hear what he said, but more than likely you are right
@moviedude714 I know I was just trying to help. My bad
Interesting for sure
Well said. Thanks
You give great advice. Thanks
God, I hate when people run around the pot. I prefer when people are straightforward and say what they mean.
Oh nooooooo! So sorry to hear
fortunately i dont have issues with anxiety or depression so far. pretty happy otherwise :)
That's good then 💓
Thanks a bunch for your help
I hope you found it so. Your welcome
I shuddered... If a girl throws herself at you and you're actually uncomfortable!!! I see that happening when I go out all the time. It's crazy
Right.. I know what you mean.. Well that doesn't necessarily mean they aren't attracted to you or wouldn't be interested.. Just.. That you aren't looking at that time and it doesn't matter who or what you are.. You could be their perfect match but it doesn't matter because you aren't looking. And lack the confidence it would work because of.. Let's say lack of money.. There's no point of trying because you know it won't work out and it will end bad. So it's like.. What the hell is the point of even trying. There isn't one.
Most definitely will do. Thanks for the helpful feedback
That's awesome! Thanks for the help
You aren't alone in that... So no worries Love. Thanks for the helpful feedback! You ROCK 🌟
Anytime and u rock as well.
Thanks for the tips
Thanks for taking the time and sharing your thoughts. You ROCK
That's totally understandable. Thanks for your feedback
It would definitely make things easier for sure
Yes. And it does allow for clearer lines of communication. Especially if the girl does what she does in the picture above. I am all for that.
Ahahahaha that's perfect 🎀
That's pretty awesome
YAY! Thanks for the helpful feedback Love
lol, at "hungry beaver"
ALWAYS love your opinions!
Lovely! Thanks for the help
My pleasure as always
Okay! Thanks for the help
Thanks so much for the help and for sharing your experience
Great perspective! Thanks
That's totally understandable
am I right in the question I asked?
Sure it was a good question. Ask it public and send me and invite. I'll like and comment 💓
It could definitely be a huge red flag for sure
Lol, is that sarcasm?It could be or maybe I am just plain wrong. I wouldn't care to be approached again in the first place, but when I compare my personal experience, with other guys experience, I can't help to think there is maybe be something wrong (not in the act of making the first move), perhaps in the intentions behind it.
I'm not being sarcastic
Ah, my bad.
I think so too
care to pm over our "interesting"s sometime?
so is that a yes?
I'm sure it'll happen soon enough
Beautiful! Love the feedback. WOW haven't seen you in a while. Hope all is well.
Well said. Love this post! Thanks Love
Lol thanks for the reply. You're awesome
That's pretty awesome. Thanks
You're welcome, it's just my opinion, and what has happened to me in the past with an ex girlfriend
Thanks for the honesty. You ROCK
I wouldn’t be a hypocrite about it in shaming another person.
That's good. Thanks for the help
Awe don't forget the treat lol jk
That's good to know. Thanks for replying!
This was sooooooooo freaking beautiful and poetic. Well done
Haha.. Effect of watching romantic movies of Bollywood from childhood
You are quite gifted
Awesome! Thanks for the reply
I agree lol
Dude, seriously. Can we stop having the same views lol 😄😄🤣❤Jk
@ariadbeR You know what they say intelligent mines think alike
That's cool!!! Thanks for replying