What's going on w/ this guy? What's his intent w/ me if he already has a girlfriend? Now we're stuck in the grey, what kind of situationship is this?

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Monkey in the Middle?
Monkey in the Middle?
Want a male perspective on this, but any's welcome. Been talking w/ this dude on/off 4 a year. Met through an online platform due 2 common interests. Never saw him in a romantic way @ 1st, just a cordial/platonic acquaintance.

Time went on &we started DM-ing each other, chatting over the phone and so on (not a catfish lol). Noteworthy, it was him who was asserting his wish 2 do previously mentioned interactions, which I allowed b/c he's a cool guy. Few more months in, noticed his convos started having heavy romantic undertones, which surprised me b/c he's got a girlfriend. Did develop feelings 4 him on the low/couldn't resist his magnetic personality (still I maintained respectful boundaries &kept my cool). Later grew out of said feelings cuz it's not worth it if he's not single. Several months in & a ghosting session later, I knew he came 2 the same conclusion cuz his behavior towards me changed.

Long story short, today I'm very confused by what this guy's after/his purpose. We're not dating, neither 1 of us confessed feelings, never gave a label 2 our weird relationship &he's pushed the envelope past the friend zone. We share eerily similar commonalities from opinions 2 personality 2 career (coincidently we're in the same field). We think alike, he's the male version of me. Scary sometimes b/c we project/mirror each other often. Intuitively, we know what's going on here, we both acknowledged this dynamic feels different. Whereas I'm trying 2 push away &let this die, he's trying 2 pull me back in the most platonic way possible. Why?

Fyi: I usually mind my business. If anything sparked w/ a guy in the past, he approached me first. Got lots going on especially in my professional life. But seeing how hard I fell for this guy has me curious as 2 what his motive is. This probably isn't rocket science but this is my 1st time experiencing such a deep emotional connection w/ a guy, in my 20s w/o much experience in the dating arena.
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Update: He doesn't seem to take it too well when I bring up my love life so there's likely jealousy at play?
What's going on w/ this guy? What's his intent w/ me if he already has a girlfriend? Now we're stuck in the grey, what kind of situationship is this?
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