Me and him have been doing this for 3 years. Would you hang out with a guy that likes you?
If he said that he's okay when I said I just want to be friends, yes sure, why wouldn't I?
He could just be saying he is okay with it just to get close to you.
Even if he would, it would be one sides and he knows that. What's the worst that can happen? He makes a move and the friendship is over? Sounds to me like you are making excuses to already stop the friendship right now. So I don't see the big risk here
Utter than the upside and that you 2 can actually still be friends.
I wish I could’ve have did this from the start because I essentially made him out to be a creep because I wouldn’t go near him and I wouldn’t invite him anywhere. I understand his frustration. We don’t talk anymore because of a little argument. He feels I don’t really want him In my life and he serves the purpose of just providing emotional support and attention. He also feels I play games and send mixed signals because one time I texted him after midnight saying I’m thinking about you.
That last one was a serious bad move on your part... But if you really don't want to lose him as a friend I'd suggest you apologize to him bigtime and explain to him why you acted the way you did and what has changed, so he'll know you won't do that or act that way again. Or leave it as it is but then just end the friendship and let him move on.
It’s been 5 months since we talked, I’m unsure if I should text him or just leave it. My gut is telling me to do it but what’s the point if nothing will change. He will still want to hang out and if I don’t want to do that then the situation will go back to how it was
Like I said before, if you don't want to hang out because you can't handle the idea of him liking you, while you 2 are just friends, cut him loose.
Okay got it. Do you think it is immature if I can’t hang out because he may like me?
Yes and I'll explain to you why, you are avoiding a problem that isn't there. Avoidance is never the solution. When it does turn into a problem, deal with it, solve it. That would be the mature thing to do. I asked/stated before... What's the worst that can happen if you do hang out with him or if you would still be an actual friend to him while he likes you?
The only downsides is he invites me to his house or he invites me to get lunch and he think it is a date. What subliminal message am I sending him by basically avoiding him?
That you are a bad friend and that you only contact him when it's in your advantage.
Wow I see why he was upset and said I’m just using him when I’m bored or want attention. I never saw his side. However that doesn’t give him the right to argue with me about this. He brought how he was there for me and how he was only good enough for that:
I don't think he meant to argue with you but just wanted you to see his side of this on the idea of "friendship". But it escalated a bit with you only seeing your side. Glad you see his POV now and maybe it'll clear up the choice you need to make. Either be friends and BE A FRIEND. Or cut him loose and both go your separate ways.
I think I’ll give it a try. He apologized a week after everything happened but sadly I ignored it and 5 months has past. It’s on me to reach out but I haven’t yet
Why does he have a right to make a fuss?
Because he's a free agent and you don't control him, his emotions or how he gets to express them.
Okay but he isn’t entitled to anything and that involves hanging out
Never said he was.
Then I’m confused by what you’re saying
You asked if he had the right to make a fuss, I said yes, he does.You asked why, I told you why.You said he's not entitled to spend time with you. I agreed, because I never said he was.You seem to have a real problem with basic comprehension.
I know but why would I go near him if I know he likes me?
Because he's your friend
But once a friend admits they like you there is no more friendship
That's a weird way of looking at things
How so? If he likes me he doesn’t look at me as just a friend
Yeah there is no reason you can't just see him as a friend and carry on as if nothing has happened, the friendzone may be fake but the concept is solid.
I don’t know its just hard that if we hang out he might think it’s a date
If we hang out it is inevitable he will think it is a date.
If you really believe that, then cut him off completely
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I know he likes me so why would I go near him?
Because that won't change that he likes you or not
It’s best to just cut contact.
But you didn't cut contact
It doesn’t feel right doing that
Yet what your doing is also wrong
It’s not like i ignore him. I still text him and listen to him. I really care about him
No you care enough to hear from him even if that means more pain for him
He himself said he was okay being friends
But you don't treat him like a friend
I do treat him like a friend I just don’t hang out with him
Some friend you are then I guess meh
Then if I hang out with and I lead him on, I’m still a bad friend? See I can’t win
If u claimed he is fine with being a friend treat him like a friend past that its down to him thats not leading him on if u made it clear u are only friends but what u are doing here is some half asked shit
So if he invites me for lunch would be right to go if I’m available?
Yes aslong as u kept it as a friend
So do I say only as a friend?
If needed yes
I don’t know if he will do it. For the longest I have been doing this to him
Then thats it