We can’t be together. But does he secretly want more than friendship?

Question

We can’t be together, but I feel as though he sees me as more than a friend. He is 22 and kinda immature. Here’s why:

-Can be touchy
-Flirts
-Makes suggestive comments
-Pursues hanging out with me often. Alone.
-Stares at times
-Great body language
-Used to have a major crush on me 2 years ago.

However. He is very open with me about his sex life (noting major) and shows me girls he thinks are pretty and that he might pursue. Does he do this because we can’t be together? Or am I overthinking his friendship for me?

Answer 1

Browneye57 | 3K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Women over-think everything.
There's no such thing as a completely platonic man-woman friendship - one or the other will always want more. There's a reason they were attracted to each other in the first place.

Asker

28 d
That’s why I think he has to have feels. But talking about other girls all the time is typically a red flag of friendship
Browneye57

28 d
This all seems like a bunch of mental masturbation. Tell us why you 'can't be together', and what YOU want out of it.
Asker

28 d
I’m married to his uncle lol. Yes-I’m about 10yrs older than him. And I adore him as a close family member. But I get worried he’s into me sometimes. Just trying to clear my head. Lol
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Browneye57

28 d
Just keep it platonic then. It doesn't sound like anything that would or could be rationally pursued.
He's just a horny young guy. Period. Don't lead him on.

Answer 2

Asker

That’s why I think he has to have feels. But talking about other girls all the time is typically a red flag of friendship

Answer 3

Browneye57

This all seems like a bunch of mental masturbation. Tell us why you 'can't be together', and what YOU want out of it.

Answer 4

Asker

I’m married to his uncle lol. Yes-I’m about 10yrs older than him. And I adore him as a close family member. But I get worried he’s into me sometimes. Just trying to clear my head. Lol

Answer 5

Browneye57

Just keep it platonic then. It doesn't sound like anything that would or could be rationally pursued.
He's just a horny young guy. Period. Don't lead him on.

Answer 6

pigoat | 378 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

So you can't be friends with any horny guys because you're married

Ok

Answer 7

In_Trance | 2.2K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Guys never want to be friends

Asker

28 d
That’s why I think he has to have feels. But talking about other girls all the time is typically a red flag of friendship
In_Trance

28 d
agreed
Asker

28 d
Soooo you agree he may just see me as a close friend? Or regardless of talking about women-he likes me romantically?
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In_Trance

28 d
no i disagree with that. I agree with the red flag (talking about other girls) He doesn't like you romantically; he wants to smash
Asker

28 d
Damn. Then he’s been wanting to smash for over 3 years lol
In_Trance

28 d
Guys are dumb and will wait insane amounts of time if they believe they can convince you to smash. An open line of communication is the possibility of future sex

Answer 8

Asker

That’s why I think he has to have feels. But talking about other girls all the time is typically a red flag of friendship

Answer 9

In_Trance

agreed

Answer 10

Asker

Soooo you agree he may just see me as a close friend? Or regardless of talking about women-he likes me romantically?

Answer 11

In_Trance

no i disagree with that. I agree with the red flag (talking about other girls) He doesn't like you romantically; he wants to smash

Answer 12

Asker

Damn. Then he’s been wanting to smash for over 3 years lol

Answer 13

In_Trance

Guys are dumb and will wait insane amounts of time if they believe they can convince you to smash. An open line of communication is the possibility of future sex

We can’t be together. But does he secretly want more than friendship?

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