Many people mistake infatuation for love. Love is a long term and "more conscious" thing while infatuation is a limited time attraction that eventually fades away. For example, having a crush on someone is infatuation since you are just attracted to them without truly knowing them.
Awh I needed that thanks! I really need to understand true love, I don't want to waste my life with someone that just has feelings for me or lust!!
No problem! It's something that should honestly be taught in my opinion. I'm telling you this because I heard it from the mouth of a couple's therapist (No, I didn't go to couple's therapy, she just happens to have this job) and it really made me understand a lot of things about love and about my relationships. She would probably explain it better than I did but it's really something that you build over time. That's why it's important to get to know each other more, spend time together during the initial love hit because, when it goes away, you only have your love to rely on and, if you did not spend the time to build anything, you are going to feel empty for the other person, wondering why you are not happy, where are all these nice feelings that you used to feel and why you are still with that person. I went through that and I can tell you that it's really not pleasant. Get to know the person as much as you can, open up to your partner, be your true self and, that way, both of you will know if you accept the other as who they are and if you want to have a serious romantic relationship with them. If you don't accept the other as who they are or if they don't accept you as who you are, it's okay. Rejection hurts on the moment but, ultimately, you just found out that you're not a good fit for each other and it's better than being stuck with someone who is not a good fit for you. Furthermore, it makes you learn more about what you want and what you don't want in a person too so you learn new lessons to improve your ability to identify the right person for you.Anyway, I probably rambled a bit too much. I wish you the best in your quest for true love!
Oh and I forgot one crucial detail : love yourself before loving someone else. If you don't love yourself, no matter how much they compliment you or tell you they love you, it will not impact you (or barely). That or you could also constantly run after they approval, which would make you codependent and that's a very dangerous thing.See yourself as a vessel a vase : for love to go out of the vessel, it must be filled with love first. The most healthy way to love is when the vessel overflows from love. Have you ever felt so nice that you just had to share your happiness with someone? That's the same thing with love too (and that's why I mentioned that sharing things is important).
Oh my God thank u very very much! Ur right, I should build something with him or better say we should build something, before it's too late! Thank u for warning me
Exactly! I'm glad I could help and I wish you the best with your relationships!
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Not every girls nags lol. at least I wouldn’t over something silly like leaving the toilet seat up. It’s easier to just put it down when you notice it’s up instead of arguing.When you want something to eat it shouldn’t be a problem to make what you’re craving. But also know that girls shouldn’t always have to be the ones to do the cooking and cleaning. Work together. Also n out ever girl likes “the notebook”.You clearly haven’t found the right girl for you if all they do is nag and you try to avoid them by working more lol so just keep looking.
Jist give me a fancy ass studio apt with a view of the mountains... im good.
And i like cooking. But really appreciate when a woman does it
Thats so true. Im the same except im not a man hahha
Heller female version of myself. Pleasure to meet yer (while doing a curtsy bow)
Hhahaha that's sweet. Courteous manners.
Well from tiktok, a guy said that he's exposing boys secrets, and one of them was that!!!
One guy does not speak for all of us.He sounds like a child, tbh.
But only sometimes
Lol... That's a good one.
Nah thats just a human thing.
Does having sex too early cause him to lose interest?
@redvelvetcx No, but if he wants sex he won't usually stay 6 months.
@redvelvetcx Uh... this isn't accurate. Don't listen to him. Sorry dude, not true.
@Thatsamazing a guy who just wants sex will wait 6 months?
There is no such thing as "just wanting sex," dude, as like an ideal. It doesn't matter whether he "just wants sex" or not-- if she has sex with him, it's because she wants it too. Furthermore, males are allowed to want, and prioritize, sex. It isn't a negative aspect and needs to stop being treated as such. Unless females who want sex are whores or sluts, then males should not be viewed negatively for the same thing, especially when we biologically want it more.
@Thatsamazing I mean just want it and didn't want to date you. In other words, once he gets sex he splits. It happens, that's how my sister lost her virginity.
... Okay... and?
@Thatsamazing Most fuck and flee guys don't like waiting too long.
... I still fail to see a point. Of any kind. It doesn't *matter* if a guy is "fuck and flee"-- the female is a big girl in charge of her own body and she chose to have sex. He does not magically owe her something after they have sex, merely because of the act. No different than a female not owing a guy sex just because he's nice to her. No one owes anyone anything. They met as equals; had sex; one party (and it doesn't matter which one) decided afterward they were no longer interested in anything further. That is simply how it goes sometimes. Boohooing it because your feelings are hurt does not mean there is anything wrong with male sexuality just because many of us prioritize sex. Is there anything wrong with many females for NOT prioritizing sex?
@Thatsamazing so I take that the point you are trying to make is that just because a guy doesn’t want to wait that long doesn’t mean that he only wanted her for sex, it just means that he wasn’t willing to wait because he wants sex too much?
@redvelvetcx No... no. That's not the point at all. The point is it *doesn't matter.* Is a female a slut or a whore if she just has sex with a guy once, then decides she doesn't want a relationship with him? A guy does. not. owe. a girl anything after fucking her-- unless he knocks her up obviously, which is completely different. But in the absence of that, *neither of their motivations matter.* Again, they met as equals to do a thing, they did the thing, and if one of them is not interested after that in anything more, it does. not. matter. If one of the two parties is thinking "man, I really feel like this other person here should owe me something that I want from them after we're done doing this," and that's their mindset, guess what? They have the option of NOT HAVING SEX if they aren't sure they'll get what they want. What a concept!
Depends on a lot of factors really -- sometimes people don't just gel you know?
Yeah right right