This comment is partially true but there are a lot of untruths in it as well.The main one being that if a guy doesn't reach out to you than he isn't interested in you. That is completely false. They're have been many, many occasions when I was VERY interested in a girl but I never contacted her because I didn't want her to be bothered or offended.
The guy I’m talking with seems to like talking to me and is engaged in our conversation when we text but he never reaches out to me. Tbh he doesn’t know that I like him.Should I keep initiating texts?
The answer is yes, you should. If you ever want to find out the truth. Because the truth can only come through communication. And that's what you're doing now, right? So you're still on the right track.(But maybe you can speed up the process by talking about more important issues rather than just small talk.)
So he could very much be interested even if he doesn’t initiate texts?
Yes. He totally could.(Though a lot of times guys DO initiate texts and girls just don't seem to notice.)
Thanks for the MHO.
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I was being careful long before that happened.
The guy I’m talking with seems to like talking to me and is engaged in our conversation when we text but he never reaches out to me. Tbh he doesn’t know that I like him.
Should I keep initiating texts?
That makes it a little different. Guys can be dense, you may want to make your intentions a little more clear if that's your endgame.
What do u mean by that makes it a little different?
I was under the assumption that you were at least flirting. If he doesn't know then it could just be that he's not a texter and doesn't think about it until he gets a message.
You should if you want to but don't expect anything to change, if you want to date him and can't flat out say then you should probably be a little more aggressive about it.
He doesn’t know that I want him :D
You said that you’re messaging him first. He knows.
But not often...
You’re the one initiating contact? Every time? Yeah. He knows.
I disagree. He probably doesn't. We're a lot more clueless than you think.
@jamie05rhs Well there’s shy and then there’s plain dumb.
I know. But there's still a limit.
In my case the guy I’m talking with seems to like talking to me and is engaged in our conversation when we text but he never reaches out to me. Tbh he doesn’t know that I like him.Should I keep initiating texts?
Hmmm i've definitely dealt with this before, honestly a good relationship (even friendships), should be a two way thing, if he NEVER initiates, that might be a red flag but the choice is up to you
We barely know each other...
I mean you can tryyy to build a better relationship ig, never hurts to try, but he should definitely be putting in effort to reach out, if he never does then it's not worth it
This guy that I’m talking with is the opposite. When we text he’s engaged in our conversation but he just doesn’t initiate texts.
Should I just keep texting him first since we’re in really early phase of getting to know each other?
Sure, but make little breaks, so you don’t seem desperate
For example? Couple days? A week?
3-4 days would be perfect
Then he'll just assume you needed a break. His habits won't change. He'll just get used to talking less as the new normal.
Yeah but if he really cares he will start messaging her first
True. But after 3 days.
Why don't you tell him you like him?
Have to agree with pupin, just ask him out. He likes you, I can already tell.
How can u tell... tell me :D?
He’s talking to you. He’s just afraid to push it. Ask him out.
So he would just hope that the girl keeps texting him first?
Yes, that's possible. But he needs to know how much it would mean to you if he started texting you first.
If that was his issue, yes.