would this put you off?
Is it too forward if a guy asks a girl early on if she likes spooning?

would this put you off?
Yeah I’d feel like it’s too forward if I’m not really comfortable with him cuz it has only been the first few days. It should be more about showing respect, earning trust, and getting to know each other appropriately. I mean he could be playful but not make a girl thinks he just want a cuddle buddy or casually if that’s where it’s heading... unless that’s what they’re both looking for.
I wouldn't be put off by that. Talking preferences is something that's normal and important. Plus, I do love spooning, so a dude who's into that is already in my good graces.
Only if you let it put you off. I asked a younger girl a few days ago if she liked oral in a texted me. She responded “No. Nobody likes giving head.” I then responded “I meant receiving”.
She then acted flirty but also stand offish after that. I didn’t push it. But there is something about she that makes my mouth water. But that is the first time I brought up anything sexual.
Any guy who asks that oral question just makes me think he is only thinking of sex. Spooning is different from a sex question
@fishlipsfriend really? Spooning is spooning. It’s penetration.
I guess it’s a softer entry because the guy is cuddling with you. I’ve never had a girl turn me down on that but I never texted about it either. I did when the girl was interested but stand offish.
Funny because many guys can accept a BJ and nada else like it’s no big deal. I wonder if some women feel the same vice versa. This girl is 15 years younger and I don’t see her immediately being gung ho straight penetration sex talk with a guy she met on bumble.
But there something about her that makes my mouth water. I definitely don’t do that on most girls but she looks yummy. But if that comes as too aggressive I’ll quit.
We talked about a lot of non sexual things but I want to drop a hint I’m interested. I learned my lesson years ago being too nice and platonic. But I also learned my lesson about being too aggressive which also scares women.
Always a tight rope.
Any guy who starts talking to me about bj on a date is a man who will never see me again. Its inappropriate
@fishlipsfriend well we had two different definitions of “spooning”. I always thought it was defined as a man who starts cuddling from behind and “spoons” you know what you know where. This other guy might have the same thing.
And no I did not ask her for a BJ. I don’t even want one tbh. I’m actually quite long down there and unfortunately when girls do that I don’t get enough sensation.
As for her I led into this. I first asked “do you mind if I ask you a sultry question?” She responded with “sultry? Lol sure” I then said “do you like oral?”. She thought I meant I wanted a BJ. But I explained it was about her receiving it.
We have been chatting for 3 weeks about other things. I never ever bring up sex in the first conversation. She acted excited but also stand offish
If its early on i wouldn't call it spooning, it sounds too much like sex. I would phrase it more like "do you like cuddles"
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I would take that as a red flag because he would be making me feel uncomfortable.
No way thts kl with me it seems fine it's not bad at all it feels nice nd good
No. It could have been way more personal or sexual of a question. Spooning is innocent enough. Maybe he loves it and his ex hated it. Nothing wrong with asking if you feel strongly about it.
Absolutely! Sort of creepy right off the bat but she made it sound as though they’ve been texting a bit. Just another question of getting to know someone.
It's too lame cause no one uses the word spooning anymore try cuddling lol more with the times
Yes, that's wayyy to soon, and he's making his intentions obvious.
What kind of a guy would ask that in the first place? 🤣🤣
Nah because I also ask that question lol... I want to know if he is affectionate and if he is that big soon. Its important to me
It's only as fast as you feel and as uncomfortable as you decide. I guess..
Well spooning isn't sex so I don't see an issue with it. It's like cuddling in a way
What is spooning anyway?
i only know spoon is being used when having a meal,
for example.. cereals..
What exactly is spooning anal sex
no it isn't
Not really
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