My ex posted on instagram story song "(My name) where are you to calm my heart". I told him two weeks ago that I will not call him to see him again. We haven't heard from each other since. Once he said he doesn't like that song, and now he posted that song, with my name. Does he want us to be together again? What should I do? Wait for him to call me?
From your previous post, this situation reminds me of a certain behavior we're very used to see in very young people (might be a stupid comparison, but I think it's fitting): when two people keep arguing over something just because neither want to let the other have the "last word"; they both have forgotten what the point even was at this point and just keep firing answers back and forth to not let the other one win the argument (an argument that both don't even care about at this point) by having the last word. In other words... You are both trying to get the other one to "give up" and be the one who breaks the relationship so you keep this nearly "passive-aggressive" relationship where you poke each other while pretending not to care and try to get a reaction from one another. Despite not really DESIRING to be jn a relationship with the other one. That's how I see it If it's the case, I suggest you both take this whole story to the eyes of an expert who can help you correct these sort of behaviors as they will definetly NOT help you in any future romantic relationship
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@VIVANT thinks you both could work and I'm open to that
But you need to start being bold and assertive. I think you need to stop being along for the ride and start claiming things for the relationship. The trend I have seen is him bringing you on an indecisive confusing roller coaster ride. Do I love you, maybe... Do you want kids... Would you live with me... What do you think of my other girlfriends... Can you love me... no you can't love me... Maybe you can...
Help me out @VIVANT because I'm out of practical thoughts and advice about this 😞
It must have been a valid reason on to why he is your ex. Do you still have feelings for him despite breaking up? Do you think he is really worth it to reconcile? Are you sure, you are not making a mistake? If he had treated you badly or hurted you in the past, then don't think he is worth it. Moving on is the best option. Having said, even if you both consider to have something casual, that would hurt you even more because you were once in a relationship with him, and it takes time to heal. If he really wants you in his life, he should make the first move and resolve or rectify his mistakes, instead of posting cryptic a message.
If you want to be with him, why wait for him to make the first move. But if you seriously don't want to be serious with him, then don't contact him... If you both agree to a casual relationship that's one thing. But if one of you wants a more serious relationship, and the other wants just casual... It's not a good match and it's best not to keep wasting each other's time...
Lol the mystery that is Lucretia. She doesn't want him but she hopes he'll call her. You know men have dignity. He's done his part knowing you'll read his instagram story, no he won't reach out to you. If you want him you have to be the one to contact him.
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But how can I call him, I said to him last time that I will not call him anymore.
Depends on what the reason/s for the breakup was. Don't force it, but also don't wait too long. Only go back to eachother if both of you are ready to place the past behind you and wants to retry and improving the relationship. Very often, an ex is an ex for a reason. Figure out what ended it, really think through if It's worth another risk or not. Look if changes for the better are possible or not. I can't tell you what to do or what not to do, that is 100% only your and his descision only.
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OlderAndWiser | 3.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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No, you should never talk to him again. You two were awful together. Just absolutely awful! If you get together again, it will be just as bad as it was previously.
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No, the real question is if you want to get back together? Do you still like him? What made you guys break up and how would it affect your future life?
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He wants a serious relationahip, and thinks I don't want. I like him.
Then tell him that. He needs to know that from your own words.
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Yea he does. There was a song (I won’t let you go by rascal flats). That I posted a few months after we broke up we tried to get together again but she won’t give me a straight answer even though we would see and be our older selves again a few years after but it never worked out in the end we stil, talk her and there she now has a kid and a single mom I told her if would be a mistake for us to break up and yes I was right both our lives has been good but not great
All depends on what you want from him. I can tell you from personal experience that he may want you to call him because he doesn't want to have to call you. If he really truly wanted you in the manner you seem to want, I can tell you to hold off on messaging him and make him try harder if you don't want to get hurt.
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I can't remember details from your previous questions, but I wouldn't interpret too much into a song (with your name). Finding the point of no return is sometimes difficult if you love someone. People who gave their exes a chance after their ex wasted so many chances before, regret for the most part their decision.
Do nothing, just go on with your life, if he wants you he will give you a shout, but if you want to give him a shout too go for it, and see where that takes you. At least you both will know where you both stand in the relationship. Good luck.
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This has to reflect back to why you separated last time How was the relationship Were you enjoying more happy times than sad ones So be very careful in stepping backwards and putting your life on hold for him was he or is he worth your time
If you broke contact before, it's best to maintain, and he's trying to bait your comment, or cause a reaction favorable to him. It's an attempt at manipulation.
I suggest that cold, icy silence, and blocking him so you don't see it.
Well if you wanted to be with him then why break up? It could mean that, probably means it but thats not the part that matters, what matters is what caused the break up to begin with.
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