Why is he acting skittish?

Question

So... this guy and I both are attracted to each other but he doesn't want to meet outside of work because of our age difference and we kinda work together. Today I was walking around the corner just to see him down the hallway kinda jump to back away and I just pretend not to notice when I found the person I was looking for and just walked away. Why is he acting so weird if I'm not talking to him at work or texting the heck out of his phone or... ya know other crazy desperate things. I can see why to be afraid of me if I was acting crazy...

Answer 1

spartan55 | 13.7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

He's not afraid of you, he just wants to play it safe at work, which is smart if you enjoy being employed.

Asker

1 mo
I guess. But again, I've done nothing. I'm not sure why he seems to be so gosh darn worried... I'm assuming. Agreeing to never meet outside of work seems like it would imply limited communication at work, correct? It seems like common sense. Either way... I felt like it implies that he doesn't want to see me, there for us talking never existed...
spartan55

1 mo
Huh? When do you actually talk? All I see here is you assuming and assigning your own meanings to the situation without actually knowing.
If you aren't going to meet outside of work then what's the point here? Why does your age difference mean you can't be seen together outside of work? Is that his reasoning or yours?
It doesn't sound like you are talking at work much either.
I'm thinking he is married or is in a relationship.
Asker

1 mo
Working together (ish) and our age difference was his reasoning. He's afraid things would get awkward at work. I know that he says that he's been going on dates. I simply suggested that we hang out in person as a friendly jester since he claims that dating has sucked for him. He thinks we'd get physical. I don't know. He's strange and from what I hear from other coworkers, can be moody.
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spartan55

1 mo
Yeah, he sounds like a waste of time. His excuses make no sense. Age difference? Very weird. What does, him saying he is going out on dates have to do with anything? He just sound really sketchy, which usually means married.

Answer 2

Asker

I guess. But again, I've done nothing. I'm not sure why he seems to be so gosh darn worried... I'm assuming. Agreeing to never meet outside of work seems like it would imply limited communication at work, correct? It seems like common sense. Either way... I felt like it implies that he doesn't want to see me, there for us talking never existed...

Answer 3

spartan55

Huh? When do you actually talk? All I see here is you assuming and assigning your own meanings to the situation without actually knowing.
If you aren't going to meet outside of work then what's the point here? Why does your age difference mean you can't be seen together outside of work? Is that his reasoning or yours?
It doesn't sound like you are talking at work much either.
I'm thinking he is married or is in a relationship.

Answer 4

Asker

Working together (ish) and our age difference was his reasoning. He's afraid things would get awkward at work. I know that he says that he's been going on dates. I simply suggested that we hang out in person as a friendly jester since he claims that dating has sucked for him. He thinks we'd get physical. I don't know. He's strange and from what I hear from other coworkers, can be moody.

Answer 5

spartan55

Yeah, he sounds like a waste of time. His excuses make no sense. Age difference? Very weird. What does, him saying he is going out on dates have to do with anything? He just sound really sketchy, which usually means married.

Answer 6

Anonymous

Maybe he forgot who you were

Asker

1 mo
I guess. Who knows. Probably talks to a ton of girls. I'm not really sure how many as young as me, given that was one of the reasons he turned me down.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
yeah

Answer 7

Asker

I guess. Who knows. Probably talks to a ton of girls. I'm not really sure how many as young as me, given that was one of the reasons he turned me down.

Answer 8

Opinion Owner

yeah

Why is he acting skittish?

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