Would you forgive and forget a slap from your husband/wife?

[Jjpayne]

This is a hard place... I think it's more for a woman to be scared about because she mostly controls verbally and she might not have the strength to handle a physical confrontation.

But from my end. I'm first of all not sure if it would be a slap back if she slapped me. But I would hope in the moment that i would be strong enough to either accept the slap or walk out of the house until things cool down.

You know when you have earned a slap though, "your mother is a bit#h" "slap" you as a guy probably deserved that... It's knowing the moment, knowing when you have over stepped your bounds.

Usually a slap comes from a heated argument using hurtful words or swear words.

My thought would be how fast the slap happened in the relationship and the frequency of it after.

It's also about why the slap happened.

If you are clearly going for an emotional response and are fishing for one, it is a response. It might not be the right one but it is one. So if you say "you can keep your g dam trophies, your never loved me anyway you bast#rd!" That is clearly asking for an emotional response. And this could be one "oh, so that's what you are going to do walk away? Why don't you be a man and grow some balls"

These are arguments that can happen...

But here are two good red flag examples

"Look what you did to my clothes you "slap" look what you did to them, you ruined them" this is a bit extreme but it is and can be very real and that's clearly a red flag there.

Another could involve drug use and trying to help a drug user or simply having a very selfish and self centered attitude. Could be slap red flags.

It's always good to have a talk after and if "im sorry" is said then you wait to see if there is another time it happens. If it does not, then you have matured out if that but if it happens again then you need to be careful as to what you plan to do next especially if it's soon after.

But for me, a slap is forgivable if there is a sorry and there at least is a movement towards not allowing it to happen again

[TooDrunk4Sex]

put tarantula or centipede in her bed while she sleeping. then she scream and we havea laugh and now we r even

[Mia-Wallace]

I don't know. I don't think I'd be good at getting over that. I never got slapped growing up, and learned to solve problems by staying cool headed and using words and arguments.

I don't see how I would deserve a slap, unless I was being physically violent myself which will never happen. It's just not in my blood.

[Agape93]

Not in a sexual contact? No, I wouldn’t, and in the wrong place, they’ll be in deep shit. My dogs won’t like that.

[jakey70]

Hmmm... I know it's not right on both sides and sometimes people are provoked into doing things, but no matter what, a man should never lay hands on a woman. I grew up in a violent home and still don't understand how someone could hurt someone that they care about. A woman could slap me, claw me, spit in my face, but in the end... I'm still going to turn around and walk away.

[BeMuse]

People will remember it and speak ill about you even after you die if you hit them.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I will forgive her, but she better ever not put her hands on me ever again.

[Anonymous]

Fuck. No. Abuse starts with one action and doesn’t stop until you get away so if they truly love you they won’t hit you

[Quackthulu]

Are you fucking kidding me? That piece of shit is about to end up in the hospital if not the morgue.

[Dnice1]

I would but I would tearing up especially if he hit me hard but I know my man is too sweet to do that and I'd never do it to him either.

[jasco]

If she hit's me once, let it slide hits me twice let it slide hit's me again we bout to do a john cena slap back

[Anonymous]

Nope, the second he slaps me that’s it I don’t want nothing to do with him

[Anonymous]

Nope the first time you hit can lead to other problems

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

No. And i will slap back.

[lanadelrey25]

Forgive, but never forget.

[msc545]

I would not forgive or forget. It's a really good reason to get a divorce.

[nodnol32]

Yes. Don't think she'll ever slap me though.

[Anonymous]

Probably yes but I wish I was strong and determined not to accept such a manner.

[roody]

Nope.

[LEADFOOTboi]

yeee, i would

[Vulvalicker]

Nope

[OceanMelon]

What did I do?

[Anonymous]

Never.

[LLYN-95]

No lol