Talking to a guy and he went home with someone else?

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I’ve been seeing this guy for months and we’re always together and he was acting really sketchy. His roomate invited me to come out with them and the guy I’m talking to pulled him aside and told him he didn’t want me there. I pick up the roomate later to find out my guy went home with another girl. What do I do

Answer 1

Vviiccttoorr

Xper 4

Sounds like a jerk that was hiding something unless the roommate is lying to break you guys apart. Is there anything else to the story?

Asker

1 mo
Long story short we were friends first and he confessed he liked me then I caught feelings after a few weeks of hanging out. He tells me all the time drunkenly* that he wants to take me on dates, he loves me, he likes me too much and he isn’t hiding me from his friends or parents but he said he’s not ready for a relationship, not because of comittment issues but because he doesn’t want to ruin the best thing he’ll ever have
Asker

1 mo
Also the roomate isn’t lying because I dropped him off and walked inside and the guy I’m with wasn’t there and the bar had already closed so I know he wasn’t there either
Vviiccttoorr

1 mo
The reason as to why he doesn’t want to date is fishy. It comes off as he doesn’t want a relationship because, he still wants to go around with other women. He could just be saying all this stuff to you so you won’t leave him just in case in case it doesn’t work out with some other girl at least he has you kind of thing. Now maybe he’s a conflicted guy on who he likes more so that’s why he’s acting suspicious. I’m not entirely sure but, if he’s hiding a girl from you, saying how great you are, and still does not want a relationship then he’s not a good guy. Because, let’s say he is conflicted on if he likes you or the other girl more; if you’re the best thing that he could ever have then how would there be competition between you and that girl? he comes off as guy telling you lies so he doesn’t lose you while hanging around with someone else. I would move on
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Vviiccttoorr

1 mo
He just sounds like a guy who wants to have a good time with other girls but, will keep you around for when he is ready to settle. If that’s the case (which seems likely in my opinion) then that’s wrong and you should move on without him especially if he is an older guy who should be more mature than that.

Answer 2

Asker

Long story short we were friends first and he confessed he liked me then I caught feelings after a few weeks of hanging out. He tells me all the time drunkenly* that he wants to take me on dates, he loves me, he likes me too much and he isn’t hiding me from his friends or parents but he said he’s not ready for a relationship, not because of comittment issues but because he doesn’t want to ruin the best thing he’ll ever have

Answer 3

Asker

Also the roomate isn’t lying because I dropped him off and walked inside and the guy I’m with wasn’t there and the bar had already closed so I know he wasn’t there either

Answer 4

Vviiccttoorr

The reason as to why he doesn’t want to date is fishy. It comes off as he doesn’t want a relationship because, he still wants to go around with other women. He could just be saying all this stuff to you so you won’t leave him just in case in case it doesn’t work out with some other girl at least he has you kind of thing. Now maybe he’s a conflicted guy on who he likes more so that’s why he’s acting suspicious. I’m not entirely sure but, if he’s hiding a girl from you, saying how great you are, and still does not want a relationship then he’s not a good guy. Because, let’s say he is conflicted on if he likes you or the other girl more; if you’re the best thing that he could ever have then how would there be competition between you and that girl? he comes off as guy telling you lies so he doesn’t lose you while hanging around with someone else. I would move on

Answer 5

Vviiccttoorr

He just sounds like a guy who wants to have a good time with other girls but, will keep you around for when he is ready to settle. If that’s the case (which seems likely in my opinion) then that’s wrong and you should move on without him especially if he is an older guy who should be more mature than that.

Answer 6

Bad_Man55 | 806 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Tell him he is an ass clown and never talk to him again don't give him a chance to explain just move on. You're better off

Answer 7

Anonymous

Cut him off he's a player. Save yourself now before you invest your heart more and get hurt later.

Answer 8

guywithissues900

Xper 5

He’s playing you and you’re being a fool.

Answer 9

Avicenna | 3.9K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Cut off any contact with him

Answer 10

InferiorElegy | 51 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 5

Give up

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