If a shy guy keeps hanging around a girl but isn't talking, does it mean he wants her attention?

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I’ve been in this situation. Usually yes, he probably does want your attention but is too shy.

If you’d like to get to know him you can probably initiate conversation, or maybe just smile and say hello. These little things may help him gain motivation and confidence to come up and chat with you as you will seem approachable.

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let's say if i'm not interested in him, what would he think if i smile at him?

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Sandy_C

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I think he’d think that you’re polite for sure. Smiling is not necessarily flirting so I think you’ll be okay. But to be safe, you can play it cool and not do anything lol. Treat him how you would another normal person I guess 🤔

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let's say if i'm not interested in him, what would he think if i smile at him?

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Sandy_C

I think he’d think that you’re polite for sure. Smiling is not necessarily flirting so I think you’ll be okay. But to be safe, you can play it cool and not do anything lol. Treat him how you would another normal person I guess 🤔

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I-have-a-biscuit | 112 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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It means he wants to play with her awesome gundam collection but doesn't know how to ask

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what do you mean 'awesome gundam'?

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I-have-a-biscuit

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It's a collection of gundams that inspire some awe

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what do you mean 'awesome gundam'?

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I-have-a-biscuit

It's a collection of gundams that inspire some awe

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bpowel

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Prob just likes the smell of her
The fucking wanker

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but how do you know he's a wanker?

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but how do you know he's a wanker?

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Anonymous

I did that with a girl I used to see whenever I ate. It was 50/50 subconscious and conscious. I liked her, and still do to this day.

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what about her makes you like her up till now?

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Opinion Owner

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I just really am attracted to her.

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what about her makes you like her up till now?

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Opinion Owner

I just really am attracted to her.

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hellionthesagereborn | 743 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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More then likely.

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like how does he get her attention if he isn't approaching her?

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hellionthesagereborn

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Well that depends on the guy but if he is shy he doesn't. In short he is caught in a circle of self doubt where he wants to get her attention but doesn't know how (he doesn't want to scare her off, he doesn't want to come off as creepy and he also doesn't want to risk rejection). So shy guys tend to linger around the girl he likes, find excuses to be near her, if he is a little less shy find excuses to talk to her but he will likely not give any other signs of interest (beyond maybe looking at a distance but try not to get caught doing so). You've got to keep in mind their is a lot of ways that approaching a woman can go and all but one of them are bad, shy guys are hyper aware of the bad possibilities and are not secure enough to risk those bad possibilities so they are pretty much deer in headlights, they just get caught in this limbo were they hang around but are afraid to make a move.

If this sounds like things this guy is doing with you, he probably likes you and is just stuck waiting for some kind of sign to make it okay to approach (and to be honest, for a lot of shy guys it takes a LOT of signs, some times her just outright asking him instead of waiting for him to make the move (especially if he is inexperienced/young)).

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like how does he get her attention if he isn't approaching her?

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hellionthesagereborn

Well that depends on the guy but if he is shy he doesn't. In short he is caught in a circle of self doubt where he wants to get her attention but doesn't know how (he doesn't want to scare her off, he doesn't want to come off as creepy and he also doesn't want to risk rejection). So shy guys tend to linger around the girl he likes, find excuses to be near her, if he is a little less shy find excuses to talk to her but he will likely not give any other signs of interest (beyond maybe looking at a distance but try not to get caught doing so). You've got to keep in mind their is a lot of ways that approaching a woman can go and all but one of them are bad, shy guys are hyper aware of the bad possibilities and are not secure enough to risk those bad possibilities so they are pretty much deer in headlights, they just get caught in this limbo were they hang around but are afraid to make a move.

If this sounds like things this guy is doing with you, he probably likes you and is just stuck waiting for some kind of sign to make it okay to approach (and to be honest, for a lot of shy guys it takes a LOT of signs, some times her just outright asking him instead of waiting for him to make the move (especially if he is inexperienced/young)).

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DKShaw48

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More than likely

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i mean like how does he get her attention when he isn't initiating a convo etc?

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DKShaw48

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Honestly he's expecting her to initiate the convo and keep it going

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lol, why is the girl supposed to be the one to do it?

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DKShaw48

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It usually isn't but some guys are just like that because of multiple reasons, one being that they try and try but it goes nowhere.

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i mean like how does he get her attention when he isn't initiating a convo etc?

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DKShaw48

Honestly he's expecting her to initiate the convo and keep it going

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lol, why is the girl supposed to be the one to do it?

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DKShaw48

It usually isn't but some guys are just like that because of multiple reasons, one being that they try and try but it goes nowhere.

If a shy guy keeps hanging around a girl but isn't talking, does it mean he wants her attention?

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