Why don't guys like desperate girls?

Question

I hear this often

Answer 1

DannyUk2017 | 104 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Thats totally your opinion, but are guys (like me 😁) that love desperate girls... i have soo much "love" that i feel like i'mma bout to "explode"... so depends from men to men, were not all the same... As it happened for you to "hear/see" just this type of men, then is a different story!

Answer 2

Skankhunt | 52 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 5

If a girl is too clingy, that's a turn off. If she wants to have sex with me right of the bat, even though there is no attraction, that's a turn off for me. If she does everythign for me (kiss ass), just because she wants to be with me, even though I don't feel anything for her, that's a turn off. A girl who fights with another girl that likes me, just so she gets my attention and because she can be with me. That's what I see as a desperate girl/woman.

Answer 3

Squirts93 | 56 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 5

Guys think girls have all the options, so if theyre desperate then there's definitely something theyre hiding or something very wrong with her.

Answer 4

Kaneki05 | 418 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

I wouldn't mind. Longs if there not desperate enough to cheat. And if your talking desperate as in they just keep single i am cool with that too

Answer 5

spartan55 | 13.7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

The problem is girls rarely have a clue what REALLY looks desperate to us. Instead they think stupid shit like texting first, or letting a guy know she is interested is desperate. Not true.

Asker

21 d
So what is really desperate to guys, then?

Answer 6

Asker

So what is really desperate to guys, then?

Answer 7

Bruhbois

Xper 4

Because it makes you an object. Would you want to be with someone who is only with you because you're a human? It's not you who they love, it's the idea of being with a person.

Asker

22 d
I think that's what I was doing actually... I was so in love with this guy but I don't know what about him.. I guess mainly his looks but charm too
Bruhbois

22 d
But I would say that isn't necessarily the same thing either. Being attracted to someone because they are good looking or charming isn't exactly the same as liking them because they happened to say hi before someone else. It becomes an issue when the personality of that person is removed from the equation, which is what happens when someone fetishizes a certain race, or fetishizes a certain characteristic of a certain group of people.
Asker

22 d
Well I was desperate.. because he didn't feel the same but I really liked him so I was thinking about him all the time and fantasizing. It consumed me
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Bruhbois

22 d
But did you like him because he looks nice or because his personality was actually worth liking
Asker

22 d
I dont think the personality is that great, he's like a womanizer/cheater. It was mostly cause of looks and charm
Bruhbois

22 d
So uh, yes you were objectifying. I'd try to move away from that line of thinking if I were you.
Asker

22 d
Why? And what it means objectifying?
Bruhbois

22 d
Objectifying means you're looking at someone as more of a sexual object than a real person. I don't see a problem with liking attractive people, but when the personality becomes disconnected from the person, that's dangerous. Nobody wants to date someone who only likes them for their looks. You also will find that once the looks fade (from age), your attraction will also disappear. That just leads to a lifetime of absolutely nothing.
Asker

21 d
No it wasn't really a sexual thing.. I would say more like romance/love fanitizings

Answer 8

Asker

I think that's what I was doing actually... I was so in love with this guy but I don't know what about him.. I guess mainly his looks but charm too

Answer 9

Bruhbois

But I would say that isn't necessarily the same thing either. Being attracted to someone because they are good looking or charming isn't exactly the same as liking them because they happened to say hi before someone else. It becomes an issue when the personality of that person is removed from the equation, which is what happens when someone fetishizes a certain race, or fetishizes a certain characteristic of a certain group of people.

Answer 10

Asker

Well I was desperate.. because he didn't feel the same but I really liked him so I was thinking about him all the time and fantasizing. It consumed me

Answer 11

Bruhbois

But did you like him because he looks nice or because his personality was actually worth liking

Answer 12

Asker

I dont think the personality is that great, he's like a womanizer/cheater. It was mostly cause of looks and charm

Answer 13

Bruhbois

So uh, yes you were objectifying. I'd try to move away from that line of thinking if I were you.

Answer 14

Asker

Why? And what it means objectifying?

Answer 15

Bruhbois

Objectifying means you're looking at someone as more of a sexual object than a real person. I don't see a problem with liking attractive people, but when the personality becomes disconnected from the person, that's dangerous. Nobody wants to date someone who only likes them for their looks. You also will find that once the looks fade (from age), your attraction will also disappear. That just leads to a lifetime of absolutely nothing.

Answer 16

Asker

No it wasn't really a sexual thing.. I would say more like romance/love fanitizings

Answer 17

magiusX26 | 598 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

brcause women already have wayyyyy more options in dating. if with that she is desperate then to her he must truly be bottom of the barrel.

Asker

19 d
Yeah she may have many options but out of all she's choosing him... isn't that a valid reason for desperation?
magiusX26

19 d
no. choosing him is an act of desperation. as to what makes her desoerate, no clue.
Asker

18 d
Why is it desperation? So its desperate to show interest and Express love to someone?

Answer 18

Asker

Yeah she may have many options but out of all she's choosing him... isn't that a valid reason for desperation?

Answer 19

magiusX26

no. choosing him is an act of desperation. as to what makes her desoerate, no clue.

Answer 20

Asker

Why is it desperation? So its desperate to show interest and Express love to someone?

Answer 21

ColHathi | 310 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Explorer

Same reason girls don't like desperate guys, I figure. I don't mind them, personally.

Answer 22

Roberto1965

Xper 2

I do love desperate girls.
Sometimes I exasperate them into desperation for the fun of it.
Gets me a boner.

Answer 23

Iron_Man | 6.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

The sleep around too much

Answer 24

Gwenhwyfar | 436 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

They like to fuck them not date them

Answer 25

NYlatefun

Xper 5

Well, I don’t dislike them... in certain occasions

Answer 26

Don-_-Don

Explorer

Desperation itself isn't attractive.

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