Why don't guys like desperate girls?

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I hear this often

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DannyUk2017 | 115 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Thats totally your opinion, but are guys (like me 😁) that love desperate girls... i have soo much "love" that i feel like i'mma bout to "explode"... so depends from men to men, were not all the same... As it happened for you to "hear/see" just this type of men, then is a different story!

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Skankhunt | 82 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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If a girl is too clingy, that's a turn off. If she wants to have sex with me right of the bat, even though there is no attraction, that's a turn off for me. If she does everythign for me (kiss ass), just because she wants to be with me, even though I don't feel anything for her, that's a turn off. A girl who fights with another girl that likes me, just so she gets my attention and because she can be with me. That's what I see as a desperate girl/woman.

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Squirts93 | 56 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Guys think girls have all the options, so if theyre desperate then there's definitely something theyre hiding or something very wrong with her.

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Kaneki05 | 762 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

I wouldn't mind. Longs if there not desperate enough to cheat. And if your talking desperate as in they just keep single i am cool with that too

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spartan55 | 21.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

The problem is girls rarely have a clue what REALLY looks desperate to us. Instead they think stupid shit like texting first, or letting a guy know she is interested is desperate. Not true.

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So what is really desperate to guys, then?

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Asker

So what is really desperate to guys, then?

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magiusX26 | 929 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

brcause women already have wayyyyy more options in dating. if with that she is desperate then to her he must truly be bottom of the barrel.

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Yeah she may have many options but out of all she's choosing him... isn't that a valid reason for desperation?
magiusX26

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no. choosing him is an act of desperation. as to what makes her desoerate, no clue.
Asker

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Why is it desperation? So its desperate to show interest and Express love to someone?

Answer 8

Asker

Yeah she may have many options but out of all she's choosing him... isn't that a valid reason for desperation?

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magiusX26

no. choosing him is an act of desperation. as to what makes her desoerate, no clue.

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Asker

Why is it desperation? So its desperate to show interest and Express love to someone?

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ColHathi | 339 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Same reason girls don't like desperate guys, I figure. I don't mind them, personally.

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Answer 12

Anonymous

Because it makes you an object. Would you want to be with someone who is only with you because you're a human? It's not you who they love, it's the idea of being with a person.

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I think that's what I was doing actually... I was so in love with this guy but I don't know what about him.. I guess mainly his looks but charm too
Opinion Owner

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But I would say that isn't necessarily the same thing either. Being attracted to someone because they are good looking or charming isn't exactly the same as liking them because they happened to say hi before someone else. It becomes an issue when the personality of that person is removed from the equation, which is what happens when someone fetishizes a certain race, or fetishizes a certain characteristic of a certain group of people.
Asker

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Well I was desperate.. because he didn't feel the same but I really liked him so I was thinking about him all the time and fantasizing. It consumed me
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Opinion Owner

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But did you like him because he looks nice or because his personality was actually worth liking
Asker

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I dont think the personality is that great, he's like a womanizer/cheater. It was mostly cause of looks and charm
Opinion Owner

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So uh, yes you were objectifying. I'd try to move away from that line of thinking if I were you.
Asker

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Why? And what it means objectifying?
Opinion Owner

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Objectifying means you're looking at someone as more of a sexual object than a real person. I don't see a problem with liking attractive people, but when the personality becomes disconnected from the person, that's dangerous. Nobody wants to date someone who only likes them for their looks. You also will find that once the looks fade (from age), your attraction will also disappear. That just leads to a lifetime of absolutely nothing.
Asker

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No it wasn't really a sexual thing.. I would say more like romance/love fanitizings

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Asker

I think that's what I was doing actually... I was so in love with this guy but I don't know what about him.. I guess mainly his looks but charm too

Answer 14

Opinion Owner

But I would say that isn't necessarily the same thing either. Being attracted to someone because they are good looking or charming isn't exactly the same as liking them because they happened to say hi before someone else. It becomes an issue when the personality of that person is removed from the equation, which is what happens when someone fetishizes a certain race, or fetishizes a certain characteristic of a certain group of people.

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Asker

Well I was desperate.. because he didn't feel the same but I really liked him so I was thinking about him all the time and fantasizing. It consumed me

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Opinion Owner

But did you like him because he looks nice or because his personality was actually worth liking

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Asker

I dont think the personality is that great, he's like a womanizer/cheater. It was mostly cause of looks and charm

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Opinion Owner

So uh, yes you were objectifying. I'd try to move away from that line of thinking if I were you.

Answer 19

Asker

Why? And what it means objectifying?

Answer 20

Opinion Owner

Objectifying means you're looking at someone as more of a sexual object than a real person. I don't see a problem with liking attractive people, but when the personality becomes disconnected from the person, that's dangerous. Nobody wants to date someone who only likes them for their looks. You also will find that once the looks fade (from age), your attraction will also disappear. That just leads to a lifetime of absolutely nothing.

Answer 21

Asker

No it wasn't really a sexual thing.. I would say more like romance/love fanitizings

Answer 22

Roberto1965

Xper 3

I do love desperate girls.
Sometimes I exasperate them into desperation for the fun of it.
Gets me a boner.

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Answer 23

Iron_Man | 10.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

The sleep around too much

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NYlatefun | 146 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Well, I don’t dislike them... in certain occasions

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Gwenhwyfar

Master

They like to fuck them not date them

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Answer 26

Don-_-Don

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Desperation itself isn't attractive.

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