Girls, is it frustrating/insulting for you if a guy stops being friendly with you upon finding out you aren't interested in him?

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I'm not saying that he starts being bitter or giving the cold shoulder, as that obviously is frustrating. The scenario I am talking about is if he stops making an effort to socialize with you after he finds out you don't wanna be more than friends. Does that make you feel like he viewed you as a means to an end?

Yes, that's frustrating

No, I would understand

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Answer 1

Anonymous

Yeah kinda because why would someone not be interested in friendship if it wasn’t just sex they wanted from you? Unless they’re in love and need space to heal, which isn’t typical if you haven’t been together. I suppose that could depend on age though, younger egos are more fragile usually.

geonator

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So you're saying that if they stop talking to you after they find out you don't want to be more than friends, it seems they just wanted sex and nothing else?
Opinion Owner

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Yeah it can absolutely 100% come across that way. Why wouldn’t it? It’s just like a girlfriend asking you to buy her something and when you refuse she wants nothing to do with you, you’d just feel used for your money wouldn’t you?
geonator

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I would point out though that it is kind of an awkward situation to have shown feelings to someone and they don't reciprocate them, it might seem best to try to move on from them. But you already said that
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geonator

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I've had girls avoid me after it seemed obvious to them that I didn't share the same feelings they had for me. One of these girls really didn't know me at all
Opinion Owner

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Yeah but girls tend to want a relationship, not use guys for something. If you had genuine feelings for her then that's totally fair enough an dunderstandable. I'm just saying it's not always that obvious to girls because a lot of guys want juts sex from them so it can easily be interpreted that way too.
geonator

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So just given any random interaction where a guy tries to talk to you, is it sometimes hard to know if he just wants sex or if he's actually trying to get to know you?
Opinion Owner

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Oh 100% that's pretty normal.

Answer 2

geonator

So you're saying that if they stop talking to you after they find out you don't want to be more than friends, it seems they just wanted sex and nothing else?

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

Yeah it can absolutely 100% come across that way. Why wouldn’t it? It’s just like a girlfriend asking you to buy her something and when you refuse she wants nothing to do with you, you’d just feel used for your money wouldn’t you?

Answer 4

geonator

I would point out though that it is kind of an awkward situation to have shown feelings to someone and they don't reciprocate them, it might seem best to try to move on from them. But you already said that

Answer 5

geonator

I've had girls avoid me after it seemed obvious to them that I didn't share the same feelings they had for me. One of these girls really didn't know me at all

Answer 6

Opinion Owner

Yeah but girls tend to want a relationship, not use guys for something. If you had genuine feelings for her then that's totally fair enough an dunderstandable. I'm just saying it's not always that obvious to girls because a lot of guys want juts sex from them so it can easily be interpreted that way too.

Answer 7

geonator

So just given any random interaction where a guy tries to talk to you, is it sometimes hard to know if he just wants sex or if he's actually trying to get to know you?

Answer 8

Opinion Owner

Oh 100% that's pretty normal.

Answer 9

kate52

Xper 5

It's frustrating, but I understand why he is not as interested in spending time with me.

geonator

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So you're more frustrated at the situation than at him?

Answer 10

geonator

So you're more frustrated at the situation than at him?

Answer 11

SSam23

Xper 7

Yes and no. It depends. I’d say frustrating but not insulting. It also might be understandable

Answer 12

AshleyZendinsky0Love

Xper 4

Of course! Rejection never feels good

geonator

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I guess you mean "rejection" meaning the fact that now he doesn't put effort into interacting with you?

Answer 13

geonator

I guess you mean "rejection" meaning the fact that now he doesn't put effort into interacting with you?

Answer 14

Anonymous

Yeah because I don’t like losing friends

geonator

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Would you be frustrated at him, or just at the situation?
Opinion Owner

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A little bit of both I think

Answer 15

geonator

Would you be frustrated at him, or just at the situation?

Answer 16

Opinion Owner

A little bit of both I think

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