What can I do about a guy who sends mixed signals?

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so we’ve been talking to each other through whatsapp since like may (we never saw each other in person cause covid) So, he asked me out (when all of this ends) but then started calling me “friend” (but in a cute way we have in our language). He would send me pics of him all the time but when i complimented him, he didn’t do it back. Then he started sending me pics with some girl (just like chilling) and i know he has a lot of female friends, but after a while i got tired and stopped talking to him. A few days later he talked to me again and then i did the same cause i didn’t want to get deeper into him. But then he answered a story i posted of me and then said “i’ll text you”. Since that we’ve been talking a lot and getting to know each other more, he would send pics of him 24/7, and with his male friends too, and talks to me even when he’s partying with them, but i'm honestly so confused about the fact that he won’t do something to show what intentions he has. Any ideas of what i should do for him to just tell me or do something more direct? tx

Answer 1

Alyssa11 | 86 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

To be honest with you...

1 - fact you haven't met yet is a red flag (I know it's out of your control).
2 - Pics with a girl is a red flag (a female friend is alwaaaaays more).
3 - Lots of female friends is a red flag - like why? What do you think he needs them for?
4 - If a guy has an intention with you he will tell you and make it VERY clear.

I would say if you're interested, don't let go just yet. But beware that there are a few red flags. Put him to the side right now and don't invest anymore time. Don't tell him you like him or what your intention is before he does (guys may use that against you). Talk to different guys, find someone else and focus on them. If he likes you, he will realise your energy had been directed elsewhere and he will step in and make his intentions clear. If not, you're better off because he's wasting your time.

Trust me on this one! I've been through it too many times. Good luck love x

user72837382929292

1 mo
on point 4 i so agree with you, but on the others I don't know, i mean, i got male friends and its all okay, i don’t think any guy should be judged by that. but yeah, i agree
Alyssa11

1 mo
Guys are different than girls. I guess I would just say beware of these points.
spartan55

1 mo
@Alyssa11
Hold on, so it's a red 🚩 flag if a guy has female friends, but not if a girl has guy friends? Bullshit..."guys are different than girls" is your reasoning? Let's say you are a hypocrite and leave it at that.
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Alyssa11

1 mo
@spartan55 Sorry you're offended :). This is just from my personal experience, doesn't mean it applies to you. Also, I don't have many guy friends and whenever I do, it alwaaaays turns into drama.
spartan55

1 mo
@Alyssa11
Wasn't offended at all. The 'just friends' dynamic is usually a charade. It goes both ways though.

Answer 2

user72837382929292

on point 4 i so agree with you, but on the others I don't know, i mean, i got male friends and its all okay, i don’t think any guy should be judged by that. but yeah, i agree

Answer 3

Alyssa11

Guys are different than girls. I guess I would just say beware of these points.

Answer 4

spartan55

@Alyssa11
Hold on, so it's a red 🚩 flag if a guy has female friends, but not if a girl has guy friends? Bullshit..."guys are different than girls" is your reasoning? Let's say you are a hypocrite and leave it at that.

Answer 5

Alyssa11

@spartan55 Sorry you're offended :). This is just from my personal experience, doesn't mean it applies to you. Also, I don't have many guy friends and whenever I do, it alwaaaays turns into drama.

Answer 6

spartan55

@Alyssa11
Wasn't offended at all. The 'just friends' dynamic is usually a charade. It goes both ways though.

Answer 7

bobalife

Xper 6

Definitely mixed signals. He treated you as a “friend” and then when you pulled away, he tried to come back to you. Guys and girls can be friends unless it looks like he’s sending you pics that he seems flirty with them... that’s a turned off. The best thing you can do is let it play out to see his real intention towards you, it does not hurt to be honest if it has been a while and you just wanna know (but you gotta be confident and grounded if it’s not what you wanna hear), and definitely keep your options opennnn as he’s not making it clear it’s just about you and him yet. However, if you ever feel like moving on... it’s okay too :) do what feels right for you! So far it does sound like things are slowly picking up better and hopefully it continue to progress that way.

Answer 8

JamesTara

Xper 3

Straight guys dont become friends with a girl unless she is good looking or a possible future partner. Guys can talk in a normal way to girls or women but believe me a guy will never become friends with a girl/woman unless he wants to get more out of it or if he is g@y..

user72837382929292

1 mo
honestly: wtf
JamesTara

1 mo
@user72837382929292 Its the truth though guys dont tell it but it is the truth. Maybe a girl/guy friendship can occur if theyre friends since they were little kids. Most of time they just trynna get closer and get to know you because they like you but dont want to confess or ask you out.
iseekpinetrees

29 d
Yup agreed

Answer 9

user72837382929292

honestly: wtf

Answer 10

JamesTara

@user72837382929292 Its the truth though guys dont tell it but it is the truth. Maybe a girl/guy friendship can occur if theyre friends since they were little kids. Most of time they just trynna get closer and get to know you because they like you but dont want to confess or ask you out.

Answer 11

iseekpinetrees

Yup agreed

Answer 12

spartan55 | 13.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Why are inentions important right now? You haven't met him yet, and until you just know you won't know each other too well until you meet and spend time together in person. Then you will have a clearer understanding of your compatibility.

spartan55

1 mo
*intentions
spartan55

28 d
Thanks for the MHO!

Answer 13

spartan55

*intentions

Answer 14

spartan55

Thanks for the MHO!

Answer 15

Anonymous

Tell him to that you'll contact him after this is all over and you can meet. Then let him guess

Answer 16

Bidensucks2020

Xper 6

not trust worthy

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