“I’ll take care of you”?

Question

My car broke down and I phoned my casual (?) boyfriend who came to pick me up and took me to his house. I know I was very shook up and concerned about the car, and I went to bed early. I woke up to him leaning over me and putting the duvet right. He said: “I’m tucking you in like I do my kids”. A while later I woke up again as he was leaning over me, kissing my forehead and whispering: “I’ll take care of you”. Yet in our 10 months together he never said I love you, so I don’t think he does. How should I interpret his actions and behavior?

Answer 1

spartan55 | 13.7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

What do you mean by 'casual boyfriend'? I think it's pretty ridiculous to overanalyze what happened with your car. He was helping you out. Doesn't mean he wants to upgrade from casual to "I love you". You are projecting your feelings into this because obviously you want more.

Asker

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It wasn’t about the helping out, my question was about the tucking in, kissing and saying I’ll take care of you
spartan55

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I read your whole post, doesn't change my answer.

Answer 2

Asker

It wasn’t about the helping out, my question was about the tucking in, kissing and saying I’ll take care of you

Answer 3

spartan55

I read your whole post, doesn't change my answer.

Answer 4

CoolGuyJoe | 136 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Explorer

If I were you I would see that as him feeling some reason to avoid the traditional stages of developing a relationship. You feel like he skipped some steps, right?

Asker

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Yes, kind of. Please expand your thoughts.
CoolGuyJoe

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Desires and goals should be realized through action and, in the case of a relationship, emotional communication. Saying "I will take care of you" to someone who doesn't already know this about you is odd. A relationship founded on that statement is what we should accept. Words can mean "I want you to hear this from me because I don't want to show you my true nature. I find it easier to give that impression through my choice of words."

This situation brings proper boundaries into focus. Someone can express their thoughts through words if the situation requires it. You can be honest to someone you want to connect with. "Thank you for saying that, you brought it into my mind." Tucking someone into bed who you aren't in a relationship with leads me to believe he is not going about it properly.
Asker

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Well, we are in a relationship since 10 months
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CoolGuyJoe

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Are you happy with him?
Asker

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Yes, and I love him. I would want more of a conventional relationship ultimately leading to marriage tho

Answer 5

Asker

Yes, kind of. Please expand your thoughts.

Answer 6

CoolGuyJoe

Desires and goals should be realized through action and, in the case of a relationship, emotional communication. Saying "I will take care of you" to someone who doesn't already know this about you is odd. A relationship founded on that statement is what we should accept. Words can mean "I want you to hear this from me because I don't want to show you my true nature. I find it easier to give that impression through my choice of words."

This situation brings proper boundaries into focus. Someone can express their thoughts through words if the situation requires it. You can be honest to someone you want to connect with. "Thank you for saying that, you brought it into my mind." Tucking someone into bed who you aren't in a relationship with leads me to believe he is not going about it properly.

Answer 7

Asker

Well, we are in a relationship since 10 months

Answer 8

CoolGuyJoe

Are you happy with him?

Answer 9

Asker

Yes, and I love him. I would want more of a conventional relationship ultimately leading to marriage tho

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