My Boyfriend Behavior?

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He updated a status saying "From today Onward" With a sad crying and miserable emoji. I was concern and asked him what had happened to him and asked him very politely what happened? He said my name and texted me nothing is wrong and that he's in work place. I said again that it's okay for him to tell me when he calm down later and again push me off saying nothing's wrong. Then I said, " please continue with your work and please take care". He updated his status clearly showing he wants to be asked what's wrong, but why is he saying nothing is wrong? I've been in relationship for just 2 weeks with him. He's been ghosting me lately. I don't know what to do

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Tstrbrainer | 529 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Maybe it is not a serious problem and he might think that it is too silly to share with you.

Maybe he had to update it as a part of a challenge from friends.

I'm stating this opinion because recently, I saw that my friend had updated a similar kind of status and I asked him what happened and then he forwarded me a message saying that I accepted the challenge by asking him and now I have to update any one of the phrases or emotions stated in the message. 😅.
Well no one asked me what happened when I posted it.

So, it's probably something trivial, or it's something really related to his work so that he thinks it's better not to bother you with his problems.

It's just 2 weeks, it's generally too early to ghost👻

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
I texted him this.
I know you don't trust me enough to tell me about your problems but at least it's the least I expected from you. I'm sorry I was too close at you when you clearly wanted to be left alone. You updated that status, that meant you needed to be asked, I tried to know what is it but you don't trust me. Intimate oinadri ngaidagi dada ba haikhibado, "I don't want to serious in relationship right now".
Well you aren't ready still.

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
The part in other language is, "Before we got intimate, you said "... "

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
Asking your love one what happened is crucial, you telling me what's wrong would have been a little comforting. You are a busy man I know, I understand. You need your space, I give you plenty of space. But leaving me wonder just like that when I'm clearly just genuinely concerned is so cruel. I'm sorry I can't do this. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't trust me. It's okay, let's be honest. I may be younger than you and you may take me for granted for I'm stupid and too attentive at you because I'm like that, I'm naive and sometimes stupid. It's better I back off from you completely. Take care. I will never disturb you.

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Tstrbrainer

1 y
It is normal that you felt concerned about his well being , hopefully he will give you an explanation.

Did he replied to your last text?

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
No he hasn't. He was online 25 minutes ago. It's 12:40 am now. Midnight. Yesterday he tagged his two ex, with 4 of his male friends. The song was about a lover who is saying, "You were the only one that I will ever love, and no one will be as beautiful as you, no one will be as lovely as you" He didn't tagged me.

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Tstrbrainer

1 y
Give more time. Probably he'll text you, trying to explain things.

Did he posted that song before your last text to him?

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
No it's before the status

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Tstrbrainer

1 y
Oh. Is there any chance that the statu was related to something internal in his friend circle?

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
He still didn't talk about it and told me not to think about it and he's still ghosting me. Leaving a goodnight message wouldn't hurt him ain't it? I'm burning with anger inside but I can't say anything. I'm so frustrated by the way he's treating me but I can't blame him. I just wanna shut myself and like to feel nothing. What I'm feeling is so much pain inside, it's burning me from inside. I have been crying a lot.

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Tstrbrainer

1 y
I did learn a few things about the importance of communication in a relationship after interacting with you.

Yeah a good night message won't hurt unless he is in such serious situations.

If you want to feel better, why don't you turn to music?
Do you write songs?

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
Yes, I'm a musician and singer too. He used to until he was betrayed by his own music teacher in his youth and lost his voice for 6 month and decided never to sing again. So after I met him, he told me about this incident and I begin to encourage him to begin singing and he did. After that we got close.
And today...

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
Yes, I'm a musician and singer too. He used to until he was betrayed by his own music teacher in his youth and lost his voice for 6 month and decided never to sing again. So after I met him, he told me about this incident and I begin to encourage him to begin singing and he did. After that we got close.
And today...

After two days, he's sorry he's not able to spent any time with me and asked me if I'm feeling betrayed by his action. I said I understand that you need to do your job, it's important. And I said I just miss him and miss his voice so much. He's saying he's travelling back home and the area is bit dangerous because a landslide just happened. I told him to be carefull. He said he'll call me after he come back.

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Tstrbrainer

1 y
So he did get back to you.
That's a good news 😃

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
He's getting on my head too much, I'll take break from him

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Tstrbrainer

1 y
Wouldn't that end your relationship?

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BhaniLovesMusic

1 y
Taking break in way which I won't text until he text me

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Tstrbrainer

1 y
Okay, that's better

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