Are shy guys shy on online too?

Question

I know shy guy that was giving me all the signs of him liking me in person.
then I decided to follow him on instagram.

I’m frustrated because I like him. Why would he watch ALL of my instagram story updates BUT not comment on them or interact with them?

Also he always texts me back when I reply to his stories and he seems to like talking to me BUT won’t contact me first.

Yes

No

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Answer 1

Anonymous

Just tell him what you want as he will never make a move first, could be that he was hurt before or doesn't have experience, or afraid to lose what he has now, if you not thinking about him same, just to mention few...

It is almost 2021 you can make first move too and it is legal to do so too...

Asker

16 d
Haven’t I already made the first move?

Asker
23 h
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
Opinion Owner

16 d
No, by first move I mean asking him out ( will be hard with all lock down nonsense) and telling him that you like him more then friends and want to take it further, don't talk about marriage or babies on first date as that will scare most man of quickly.

This part only obvious to women, not to men who are shy or not experienced.

No I don't know how to fix it as you haven't talked for a month...

I think, that he will still replay to your contact as in his silly mind he will still want to be around you, but will do nothing to take it further, just in his nature, he needs that kick in his back side...
Asker

16 d
Sho he’s probably too shy to do anything?
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Opinion Owner

15 d
That is what I think, but reality could be different...

Answer 2

Asker

Haven’t I already made the first move?

Asker
23 h
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

No, by first move I mean asking him out ( will be hard with all lock down nonsense) and telling him that you like him more then friends and want to take it further, don't talk about marriage or babies on first date as that will scare most man of quickly.

This part only obvious to women, not to men who are shy or not experienced.

No I don't know how to fix it as you haven't talked for a month...

I think, that he will still replay to your contact as in his silly mind he will still want to be around you, but will do nothing to take it further, just in his nature, he needs that kick in his back side...

Answer 4

Asker

Sho he’s probably too shy to do anything?

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

That is what I think, but reality could be different...

Answer 6

virgin20 | 80 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Sort of yes and no. If I know a girl I'm talking to or wanting to get with I'll lap it.
But when there's anonymity or not knowing each other then you've nothing to lose

Asker

17 d
He kinda knows me in person.
virgin20

17 d
It's really difficult to gage because if he wants something he would also maybe try especially after you have. Like are you sure he likes you that way? How many times have you started convos
Asker

17 d
The last 4 times. 2 times it was very short (I didn’t carry the conversation).
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virgin20

17 d
Your back hurting from carrying the conservation?
Asker

17 d
Lol what?
virgin20

17 d
if you're always starting conversions and leading then with questions etc then I'm sorry but he's just replying until you go away.
I'm shy right,, but if a girl I liked started talking to me I'd make an effort and make new conversations and start conversations and try make something happen
Asker

17 d
In total I’ve started 5 conversations and there were time between them...
virgin20

17 d
If you like the guy then ask him out, it's not just a guy thing to do. That gives you a definitive answer and you can either move on or start something with him

Answer 7

Asker

He kinda knows me in person.

Answer 8

virgin20

It's really difficult to gage because if he wants something he would also maybe try especially after you have. Like are you sure he likes you that way? How many times have you started convos

Answer 9

Asker

The last 4 times. 2 times it was very short (I didn’t carry the conversation).

Answer 10

virgin20

Your back hurting from carrying the conservation?

Answer 11

Asker

Lol what?

Answer 12

virgin20

if you're always starting conversions and leading then with questions etc then I'm sorry but he's just replying until you go away.
I'm shy right,, but if a girl I liked started talking to me I'd make an effort and make new conversations and start conversations and try make something happen

Answer 13

Asker

In total I’ve started 5 conversations and there were time between them...

Answer 14

virgin20

If you like the guy then ask him out, it's not just a guy thing to do. That gives you a definitive answer and you can either move on or start something with him

Answer 15

Phoenix_the_singer

Xper 2

No. Being online gives us a freedom to be more straightforward and honest with less risk of repercussions, so we're more open online. It's definitely possible for some people to be consistent with how shy they are, but that's not the case for most.

Asker

16 d
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
Phoenix_the_singer

14 d
That's unfornate. Based on what you're saying, it sounds like he either really likes you, or finds you to be a really good friend. I can relate to his not reaching out. In my experience, I can't ever find a good reason to start a conversation even when I want to, so I wait for people to talk to me. He probably just doesn't know how to approach you, or can't find a topic or reason that he thinks he could use to strike up a conversation without being awkward about it.
Asker

13 d
Why do u think really likes me? I don’t think that he considers me good friend since we barely know each other...

Answer 16

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 17

Phoenix_the_singer

That's unfornate. Based on what you're saying, it sounds like he either really likes you, or finds you to be a really good friend. I can relate to his not reaching out. In my experience, I can't ever find a good reason to start a conversation even when I want to, so I wait for people to talk to me. He probably just doesn't know how to approach you, or can't find a topic or reason that he thinks he could use to strike up a conversation without being awkward about it.

Answer 18

Asker

Why do u think really likes me? I don’t think that he considers me good friend since we barely know each other...

Answer 19

NamerOfStars | 313 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

It sure sounds like this one is. Why don't you just ask him out?

Asker

17 d
If he can’t even reply to my stories and interact with them... is he even interested?
NamerOfStars

17 d
If he's crippled by shyness, he wouldn't be able to. Ask and find out.

Answer 20

Asker

If he can’t even reply to my stories and interact with them... is he even interested?

Answer 21

NamerOfStars

If he's crippled by shyness, he wouldn't be able to. Ask and find out.

Answer 22

Dinosaursandanime65 | 241 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

Ah I don't think so. Not that much. Confessions are more easy to confess.

Answer 23

igravenbunny

Xper 4

Depends on the guy... obviously.

Answer 24

magiusX26 | 601 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

yes we are. this is how i am less shy

magiusX26

17 d
but many are shy online too
Asker

17 d
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 25

magiusX26

but many are shy online too

Answer 26

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 27

Emanon_18 | 109 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 5

Some guys are but face to face more

Answer 28

moviedude714 | 1.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Yes they absolutely can

Asker

17 d
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
moviedude714

17 d
At the same time it's always enraged me that men are expected to be the ones to initiate an interaction
Asker

17 d
But in my case it mostly me who initiates contact...
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Asker

17 d
He on the other hand always watches my instagram stories...
moviedude714

17 d
Now you know what guys go through
Asker

17 d
Do you think he could be interested?

Answer 29

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 30

moviedude714

At the same time it's always enraged me that men are expected to be the ones to initiate an interaction

Answer 31

Asker

But in my case it mostly me who initiates contact...

Answer 32

Asker

He on the other hand always watches my instagram stories...

Answer 33

moviedude714

Now you know what guys go through

Answer 34

Asker

Do you think he could be interested?

Answer 35

LEADFOOTboi | 381 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

WE SHY GUYS ARE ONLINE... WE'RE EVERYWHERE

Answer 36

Anonymous

I hardly doubt about it.

Asker

17 d
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 37

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 38

jevvo

Xper 3

Yeah but mostly in person

Asker

17 d
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
jevvo

17 d
He doesn't know what to say
Been there
Asker

17 d
So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?
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jevvo

17 d
Yeah
Asker

17 d
Why isn’t he even perticipating my polls that I’ve put in my stories 😂😂
jevvo

17 d
Nervous I guess I did the same thing with a girl I like😂
Asker

17 d
Hhhhh that’s very frustrating. If guy is so nervous he must really like her?
by the way why were you so nervous with the girl u like?
jevvo

17 d
Most of the time
Am just shy around girls especially the ones I like
Asker

17 d
by the way why where u so nervous to even particate her polls?
jevvo

17 d
I don't know lol am just nervous around her

Answer 39

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 40

jevvo

He doesn't know what to say
Been there

Answer 41

Asker

So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?

Answer 42

Asker

Why isn’t he even perticipating my polls that I’ve put in my stories 😂😂

Answer 43

jevvo

Nervous I guess I did the same thing with a girl I like😂

Answer 44

Asker

Hhhhh that’s very frustrating. If guy is so nervous he must really like her?
by the way why were you so nervous with the girl u like?

Answer 45

jevvo

Most of the time
Am just shy around girls especially the ones I like

Answer 46

Asker

by the way why where u so nervous to even particate her polls?

Answer 47

jevvo

I don't know lol am just nervous around her

Answer 48

Anonymous

Yes we are.

Asker

17 d
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
Opinion Owner

17 d
He doesn't know how to talk to you.
Asker

17 d
So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?
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Opinion Owner

17 d
It seems that way; but he probably won't be any good at initiating conversations.

Answer 49

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 50

Opinion Owner

He doesn't know how to talk to you.

Answer 51

Asker

So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?

Answer 52

Opinion Owner

It seems that way; but he probably won't be any good at initiating conversations.

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