Are shy guys shy on online too?

Question

I know shy guy that was giving me all the signs of him liking me in person.
then I decided to follow him on instagram.

I’m frustrated because I like him. Why would he watch ALL of my instagram story updates BUT not comment on them or interact with them?

Also he always texts me back when I reply to his stories and he seems to like talking to me BUT won’t contact me first.

Yes

No

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Answer 1

Anonymous

Just tell him what you want as he will never make a move first, could be that he was hurt before or doesn't have experience, or afraid to lose what he has now, if you not thinking about him same, just to mention few...

It is almost 2021 you can make first move too and it is legal to do so too...

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Asker

1 y
Haven’t I already made the first move?

Asker
23 h
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
Opinion Owner

1 y
No, by first move I mean asking him out ( will be hard with all lock down nonsense) and telling him that you like him more then friends and want to take it further, don't talk about marriage or babies on first date as that will scare most man of quickly.

This part only obvious to women, not to men who are shy or not experienced.

No I don't know how to fix it as you haven't talked for a month...

I think, that he will still replay to your contact as in his silly mind he will still want to be around you, but will do nothing to take it further, just in his nature, he needs that kick in his back side...
Asker

1 y
Sho he’s probably too shy to do anything?
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Opinion Owner

1 y
That is what I think, but reality could be different...

Answer 2

Asker

Haven’t I already made the first move?

Asker
23 h
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

No, by first move I mean asking him out ( will be hard with all lock down nonsense) and telling him that you like him more then friends and want to take it further, don't talk about marriage or babies on first date as that will scare most man of quickly.

This part only obvious to women, not to men who are shy or not experienced.

No I don't know how to fix it as you haven't talked for a month...

I think, that he will still replay to your contact as in his silly mind he will still want to be around you, but will do nothing to take it further, just in his nature, he needs that kick in his back side...

Answer 4

Asker

Sho he’s probably too shy to do anything?

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

That is what I think, but reality could be different...

Answer 6

virgin20

Yoda

Sort of yes and no. If I know a girl I'm talking to or wanting to get with I'll lap it.
But when there's anonymity or not knowing each other then you've nothing to lose

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Asker

1 y
He kinda knows me in person.
virgin20

1 y
It's really difficult to gage because if he wants something he would also maybe try especially after you have. Like are you sure he likes you that way? How many times have you started convos
Asker

1 y
The last 4 times. 2 times it was very short (I didn’t carry the conversation).
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virgin20

1 y
Your back hurting from carrying the conservation?
Asker

1 y
Lol what?
virgin20

1 y
if you're always starting conversions and leading then with questions etc then I'm sorry but he's just replying until you go away.
I'm shy right,, but if a girl I liked started talking to me I'd make an effort and make new conversations and start conversations and try make something happen
Asker

1 y
In total I’ve started 5 conversations and there were time between them...
virgin20

1 y
If you like the guy then ask him out, it's not just a guy thing to do. That gives you a definitive answer and you can either move on or start something with him

Answer 7

Asker

He kinda knows me in person.

Answer 8

virgin20

It's really difficult to gage because if he wants something he would also maybe try especially after you have. Like are you sure he likes you that way? How many times have you started convos

Answer 9

Asker

The last 4 times. 2 times it was very short (I didn’t carry the conversation).

Answer 10

virgin20

Your back hurting from carrying the conservation?

Answer 11

Asker

Lol what?

Answer 12

virgin20

if you're always starting conversions and leading then with questions etc then I'm sorry but he's just replying until you go away.
I'm shy right,, but if a girl I liked started talking to me I'd make an effort and make new conversations and start conversations and try make something happen

Answer 13

Asker

In total I’ve started 5 conversations and there were time between them...

Answer 14

virgin20

If you like the guy then ask him out, it's not just a guy thing to do. That gives you a definitive answer and you can either move on or start something with him

Answer 15

Phoenix_the_singer

Xper 1

No. Being online gives us a freedom to be more straightforward and honest with less risk of repercussions, so we're more open online. It's definitely possible for some people to be consistent with how shy they are, but that's not the case for most.

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Asker

1 y
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
Phoenix_the_singer

1 y
That's unfornate. Based on what you're saying, it sounds like he either really likes you, or finds you to be a really good friend. I can relate to his not reaching out. In my experience, I can't ever find a good reason to start a conversation even when I want to, so I wait for people to talk to me. He probably just doesn't know how to approach you, or can't find a topic or reason that he thinks he could use to strike up a conversation without being awkward about it.
Asker

1 y
Why do u think really likes me? I don’t think that he considers me good friend since we barely know each other...

Answer 16

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 17

Phoenix_the_singer

That's unfornate. Based on what you're saying, it sounds like he either really likes you, or finds you to be a really good friend. I can relate to his not reaching out. In my experience, I can't ever find a good reason to start a conversation even when I want to, so I wait for people to talk to me. He probably just doesn't know how to approach you, or can't find a topic or reason that he thinks he could use to strike up a conversation without being awkward about it.

Answer 18

Asker

Why do u think really likes me? I don’t think that he considers me good friend since we barely know each other...

Answer 19

NamerOfStars | 796 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

It sure sounds like this one is. Why don't you just ask him out?

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Asker

1 y
If he can’t even reply to my stories and interact with them... is he even interested?
NamerOfStars

1 y
If he's crippled by shyness, he wouldn't be able to. Ask and find out.

Answer 20

Asker

If he can’t even reply to my stories and interact with them... is he even interested?

Answer 21

NamerOfStars

If he's crippled by shyness, he wouldn't be able to. Ask and find out.

Answer 22

Shy_Steve | 584 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

We can be a little bit, But most of us Guys usually don't comment as much as you Girls do on social media and we usually don't know how genuine you are unless you talk to us in person.

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Answer 23

Dinosaursandanime65 | 1.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Ah I don't think so. Not that much. Confessions are more easy to confess.

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Answer 24

igravenbunny

Xper 4

Depends on the guy... obviously.

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Answer 25

magiusX26 | 929 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

yes we are. this is how i am less shy

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magiusX26

1 y
but many are shy online too
Asker

1 y
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 26

magiusX26

but many are shy online too

Answer 27

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 28

Emanon_18

Xper 6

Some guys are but face to face more

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Answer 29

LEADFOOTboi | 403 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

WE SHY GUYS ARE ONLINE... WE'RE EVERYWHERE

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Answer 30

moviedude714 | 1.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Yes they absolutely can

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Asker

1 y
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
moviedude714

1 y
At the same time it's always enraged me that men are expected to be the ones to initiate an interaction
Asker

1 y
But in my case it mostly me who initiates contact...
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Asker

1 y
He on the other hand always watches my instagram stories...
moviedude714

1 y
Now you know what guys go through
Asker

1 y
Do you think he could be interested?

Answer 31

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 32

moviedude714

At the same time it's always enraged me that men are expected to be the ones to initiate an interaction

Answer 33

Asker

But in my case it mostly me who initiates contact...

Answer 34

Asker

He on the other hand always watches my instagram stories...

Answer 35

moviedude714

Now you know what guys go through

Answer 36

Asker

Do you think he could be interested?

Answer 37

Anonymous

I hardly doubt about it.

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Asker

1 y
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 38

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly ( his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms). One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 39

jevvo

Xper 5

Yeah but mostly in person

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Asker

1 y
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
jevvo

1 y
He doesn't know what to say
Been there
Asker

1 y
So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?
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jevvo

1 y
Yeah
Asker

1 y
Why isn’t he even perticipating my polls that I’ve put in my stories 😂😂
jevvo

1 y
Nervous I guess I did the same thing with a girl I like😂
Asker

1 y
Hhhhh that’s very frustrating. If guy is so nervous he must really like her?
by the way why were you so nervous with the girl u like?
jevvo

1 y
Most of the time
Am just shy around girls especially the ones I like
Asker

1 y
by the way why where u so nervous to even particate her polls?
jevvo

1 y
I don't know lol am just nervous around her

Answer 40

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 41

jevvo

He doesn't know what to say
Been there

Answer 42

Asker

So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?

Answer 43

Asker

Why isn’t he even perticipating my polls that I’ve put in my stories 😂😂

Answer 44

jevvo

Nervous I guess I did the same thing with a girl I like😂

Answer 45

Asker

Hhhhh that’s very frustrating. If guy is so nervous he must really like her?
by the way why were you so nervous with the girl u like?

Answer 46

jevvo

Most of the time
Am just shy around girls especially the ones I like

Answer 47

Asker

by the way why where u so nervous to even particate her polls?

Answer 48

jevvo

I don't know lol am just nervous around her

Answer 49

Anonymous

Yes we are.

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Asker

1 y
I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.
Opinion Owner

1 y
He doesn't know how to talk to you.
Asker

1 y
So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?
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Opinion Owner

1 y
It seems that way; but he probably won't be any good at initiating conversations.

Answer 50

Asker

I’ve replied few times to his instagram stories but he hasn’t done the same back to me lately altough he watches eagerly my stories. Our conversations have been very friendly and he has replied back to me promptly (usually within 10min, at most after 1h) . his replies are decent, he uses a lot of emojis and he heart react my messages when we talk in the dms. One time he even wrote me long paragraphs and also he one time sent me a short disappearing video. He has wished me goodnight when I told him that I’m going to bed. He’s complimented my hobby. He’s responsive when I contact him but he doesn’t contact me. Now we haven’t talked for a month since Iast time replied to his story.
I don't know what to do. I have started to ignore his story updates now and I won’t contact him again.

Answer 51

Opinion Owner

He doesn't know how to talk to you.

Answer 52

Asker

So he could be interested and I shouldn’t lose hope?

Answer 53

Opinion Owner

It seems that way; but he probably won't be any good at initiating conversations.

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