Will he ever come back around?

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I have been talking to this guy for a while. We became more passionate and sexual after a month of talking and finally met in person. The next thing I know... he's saying he wants to take it slow. Regardless things still get heated. We get to the point where we should have sex. He gets up and tells me he's assuming that I want more and that he wanted less. I'm baffled as he was the one to follow me into my house... despite him saying that he wasn't going in my house and put me in the sexual mood by his actions. Today he seems not 100% of himself through texts. When I say I'm better now that he's here... he usually likes it and doesn't correct his meaning. He also usually says good morning and good night. I don't understand the shift. We are obviously sexually attracted to each other. His reason he said for leaving is that he felt uncomfortable... I'm not sure what I did. He's the one who took my top off.

What happened? Why is he so distant? Its not like we actually had sex. If we did... I can see him being done with me. But we didn't. Why did he want to go slow? I miss him so much. I miss our passion. Will he ever be back to his old self with time?

Answer 1

Vulvalicker

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Probably not. It sounds like he has someone else and that relationship is on shaky ground so he’s keeping you lukewarm till something changes with his other relationship

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He's been honest with me. When we started talking there was someone else. We almost never met up because they were going to get serious. I got mad because we made plans. He said if they got serious he'd be respectful to her and never meet me. I don't think she's around anymore. Or else he'd not be flirting and going so far with me. I'm afraid to ask though... he does still text me. He did today just I'm not sure if work was just crazy busy or if he's really pulling back. I felt like he was fighting himself hard. When I hugged him for a long time, I moved my head over his heart and he seemed to be fighting what ever feeling it gave him. I know that he is divorced with 3 kids and older than me. I am childless. I know that was part of his concern with anything serious hence why we were going to be at most casual... I don't know why he'd fight anything if we are never going to be a thing... his reasoning for going slow is apparently for my sake. But I'd get attached more to him. I don't see the benefits of slow.

Answer 2

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He's been honest with me. When we started talking there was someone else. We almost never met up because they were going to get serious. I got mad because we made plans. He said if they got serious he'd be respectful to her and never meet me. I don't think she's around anymore. Or else he'd not be flirting and going so far with me. I'm afraid to ask though... he does still text me. He did today just I'm not sure if work was just crazy busy or if he's really pulling back. I felt like he was fighting himself hard. When I hugged him for a long time, I moved my head over his heart and he seemed to be fighting what ever feeling it gave him. I know that he is divorced with 3 kids and older than me. I am childless. I know that was part of his concern with anything serious hence why we were going to be at most casual... I don't know why he'd fight anything if we are never going to be a thing... his reasoning for going slow is apparently for my sake. But I'd get attached more to him. I don't see the benefits of slow.

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Jesssy

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A few months ago I found someone on tinder but I wasn't ready to go into a relationship with him then. He added me to his Instagram & Facebook ID. After 2 months, he proposed marriage to me. I agree. I rarely talked to him on the call because I had family problems. I talked to him on chat. We had a long distance relationship. We are from two different country. But he lived in my area for his study. We could not meet due to lockdown. Then, when the lockdown is over, his studies are over and he leaves for his country. He said he would come to see me in two months. He wanted physical intimacy in a video call with me. He would tell me to take off my clothes. I was not comfortable with it. Then I open another fake account on tinder and judge him. He matched my fake account. Then I gave him a message. He replied to the fake id message. She says he is not a virgin but he told me he is a virgin. Then I texted him from my Facebook ID and asked him why he was cheating on me. Then he said ,"I'm just flirting because I know it's fake id I didn't know it was you. You suspect me of breaking my trust. You will never text me again." Then I say sorry to him and have physical intimacy with him. After that he used to inquire about me every day and plan future with me but we never had a long time chat when his mind wanted he replied. He talked about physical intimacy most of the time. When we had physical intimacy, we had long time conversations. Then I tell him you only want physical intimacy and you do not show much interest in anything. He says then from now on I will only ask how are you, from now on we will talk weekly one day. Then I said sorry again and then again everything is fine. Then I had some family problems. I shared with him and said that sometimes I want to commit suicide. He told me everything will be fine. Then I got very sick. I called him. He said he was out and busy. When I called again later, he said that he was busy with study. I told him your girlfriend is sick she wants to talk to you and you are busy... can't you call back? Why? He says I don't want to see myself in trouble for you. You are an immature girl. Talking to you makes me think I'm talking to the baby. You have a suicidal tendency. If you ever commit suicide, what will happen to my respect in society? Then I will say how can you say all this? We are different types & our thinking are different. I think it would be nice if you could break up with me. He did not reply, then I ask again, did you take the decision? He said do whatever you want. Don't give me another call message else I'll block you. Then I angrily told him to be happy then blocked him. Then I shared a quotes on Instagram and he blocked me. Then I sent a message on WhatsApp, I wanted to show you the fear of breakup to fix everything, I did not really want to breakup. He blocked me again. Then I texted his friend and asked him how to break his anger? Her friend told him. Then he unblocked me and gave me a message. How did you give a message to my friend? I will also tell your relative now that you are disturbing me for no reason. Then I told him I'm sorry, I had no other option but I did not say anything bad in your name. Then he cursed in a vulgar language. After that I was silent. Then he said if you do this again, I will take action against you. Then he blocked me. After 1 month, I opened another fake account on tinder and gave him a message. He recognized me and said to sent him call or voice record. I say why? He said I will tell you something. I tell him I'm scared. He asked why are you doing the same thing again? I said , if I said it's me you would block me. Then he told me you are a psycho. Then blocked me. I cried a lot, I didn't feel like doing anything. I still love him very much. I can't forget him. I want to get him back. What can I do?

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MissDawn7961 | 417 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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read your bible and ask God

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