Will he ever come back around?

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I have been talking to this guy for a while. We became more passionate and sexual after a month of talking and finally met in person. The next thing I know... he's saying he wants to take it slow. Regardless things still get heated. We get to the point where we should have sex. He gets up and tells me he's assuming that I want more and that he wanted less. I'm baffled as he was the one to follow me into my house... despite him saying that he wasn't going in my house and put me in the sexual mood by his actions. Today he seems not 100% of himself through texts. When I say I'm better now that he's here... he usually likes it and doesn't correct his meaning. He also usually says good morning and good night. I don't understand the shift. We are obviously sexually attracted to each other. His reason he said for leaving is that he felt uncomfortable... I'm not sure what I did. He's the one who took my top off.

What happened? Why is he so distant? Its not like we actually had sex. If we did... I can see him being done with me. But we didn't. Why did he want to go slow? I miss him so much. I miss our passion. Will he ever be back to his old self with time?

Answer 1

Vulvalicker

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Probably not. It sounds like he has someone else and that relationship is on shaky ground so he’s keeping you lukewarm till something changes with his other relationship

Asker

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He's been honest with me. When we started talking there was someone else. We almost never met up because they were going to get serious. I got mad because we made plans. He said if they got serious he'd be respectful to her and never meet me. I don't think she's around anymore. Or else he'd not be flirting and going so far with me. I'm afraid to ask though... he does still text me. He did today just I'm not sure if work was just crazy busy or if he's really pulling back. I felt like he was fighting himself hard. When I hugged him for a long time, I moved my head over his heart and he seemed to be fighting what ever feeling it gave him. I know that he is divorced with 3 kids and older than me. I am childless. I know that was part of his concern with anything serious hence why we were going to be at most casual... I don't know why he'd fight anything if we are never going to be a thing... his reasoning for going slow is apparently for my sake. But I'd get attached more to him. I don't see the benefits of slow.

Answer 2

Asker

He's been honest with me. When we started talking there was someone else. We almost never met up because they were going to get serious. I got mad because we made plans. He said if they got serious he'd be respectful to her and never meet me. I don't think she's around anymore. Or else he'd not be flirting and going so far with me. I'm afraid to ask though... he does still text me. He did today just I'm not sure if work was just crazy busy or if he's really pulling back. I felt like he was fighting himself hard. When I hugged him for a long time, I moved my head over his heart and he seemed to be fighting what ever feeling it gave him. I know that he is divorced with 3 kids and older than me. I am childless. I know that was part of his concern with anything serious hence why we were going to be at most casual... I don't know why he'd fight anything if we are never going to be a thing... his reasoning for going slow is apparently for my sake. But I'd get attached more to him. I don't see the benefits of slow.

Answer 3

MissDawn7961 | 391 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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