Do I Have a Chance With Him?

Question

Childhood friends and talked/dated when we were 18. We had a really messy breakup, I *briefly* dated his friend after. I apologised a year later. I didn’t know he wanted a second chance when I apologised so told him I was seeing someone, he blocked me.

so now it’s 3 years later and I added him on social media again cause I missed him. He messaged me something from our childhood and held the convo for a few days. He messaged me again on my birthday, pretending he forgot and just saying he wasn’t ignoring me, he had exams. He didn’t ignore me lol I don’t know what he was referring to, but I put effort to carry on the conversation. Again only lasted for a couple of days.

He’s acting slightly formal and I know i hurt him in the past. But is he interested and do I have a chance?

Answer 1

Lov2PlezUgurl

Xper 6

If he wasn't interested he wouldn't be talking to you yes of course you got a chance but you got to play your cards... Lovingly I think showing how much you care starting now

Alyssa11

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I think so too! How can I show him I care?

Answer 2

Alyssa11

I think so too! How can I show him I care?

Answer 3

bklynbadboy1 | 1.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

Well that depends you said the break up was messy why did you break up with him

Alyssa11

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Because my cousin told me that he was a bad guy who was going to mess with me. I know he was trying to protect me but I’ve also known the guy since I was like 7, he’s a really good guy. I just trusted my cousin in the moment and it led to a big fight. I was insecure back then.

Answer 4

Alyssa11

Because my cousin told me that he was a bad guy who was going to mess with me. I know he was trying to protect me but I’ve also known the guy since I was like 7, he’s a really good guy. I just trusted my cousin in the moment and it led to a big fight. I was insecure back then.

Answer 5

belle_kai

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I would leave it well alone, it was a messy breakup and you were friends. I personally would not get involved with a childhood friend to begin with. I think if he was hurt, the ball is in his court. Build that trust but maybe just be friends for the time being.

Answer 6

Hangry22 | 317 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Seems like an on and off relation. You may have a chance. He is probably missing you too. But you should think about how to give him hints and be cautious about not messing it up with words or actions

Alyssa11

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Definitely - I feel like i have to be so careful. This time we’ve both grown so much and maybe we might have a chance... that’s what I keep telling myself. Just hope he’s interested too.
Hangry22

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Hold out some hope. It will happen if it's meant to be.
Alyssa11

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That’s so true! Thank you :)

Answer 7

Alyssa11

Definitely - I feel like i have to be so careful. This time we’ve both grown so much and maybe we might have a chance... that’s what I keep telling myself. Just hope he’s interested too.

Answer 8

Hangry22

Hold out some hope. It will happen if it's meant to be.

Answer 9

Alyssa11

That’s so true! Thank you :)

Answer 10

AlexanderAnttila | 80 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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You don't want to be getting back together with an ex just because you miss them. Any motive besides love doesn't build a good foundation, they're still an ex for a reason.

Answer 11

KingDio | 488 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Not too sure as mentioned previously, probably scared history will repeat itself when been hurt before... it kinda doesn't heal

Answer 12

mrgspoter | 264 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

It's the same question as before yeah or is it a diffrent one you cheated on this time?

Alyssa11

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Wait what I’ve never cheated on anyone. I’ve been cheated on but never cheated on anyone...
mrgspoter

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Oh whats the problem then
mrgspoter

12 d
Ye it's basically same thing I'd not be serious with a lady who did that I'd not want her to have been with anyone I know I'm not that desperate at all to have to be, I'd rather be single

Answer 13

Alyssa11

Wait what I’ve never cheated on anyone. I’ve been cheated on but never cheated on anyone...

Answer 14

mrgspoter

Oh whats the problem then

Answer 15

mrgspoter

Ye it's basically same thing I'd not be serious with a lady who did that I'd not want her to have been with anyone I know I'm not that desperate at all to have to be, I'd rather be single

Answer 16

dsrice1966

Xper 4

Yes, you for sure have a chance with him.

Answer 17

gandolph3 | 311 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Ask him if he would like to meet and talk

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