My male coworker is nice and talkative to me one day, then acts like I don't exist the next. Why?

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same situation right now. My crush has been acting "hot and cold" for a month. She used to be "flirty" with me, then she started ignoring me... she reached out to me at work, started acting "flirty" again (like a week ago), and now she's ignoring me again for no reasons.

I'm not quite sure, but I think this type of behavior might be a sign of interest. Maybe your co-worker is just testing you? Like he wants to see how much you care about him? Or he may be trying to keep you interested (if you do have a crush on him).

That's how I see things in my situation. I'm not sure about how my crush feels about me... but acting "flirty" and "nice" one day then "cold" the other... sounds rather odd to me. Like in my case, my crush is now pretty much talking to everyone but me. This type of behavior suggests that she probably feels differently about me than she does about everyone else. But why is that? It might be love. She's recently displayed signs of interests (mostly in her body langage), so considering that she's ignoring me only, I do think that her "hot and cold" behavior might be linked to something deeper.

If you have a romantic interest for that person, try looking for signs that could indicate some sort of interest. I feel like he might actually be acting "hot and cold" in order to get you more interested and to make himself look more "mysterious".

[HorrorFan]

There could be a variety of reasons.

Most of which are hard to answer because we don't know his mental state or what he's going through in his life.

Maybe he has attempted to make progress with you in some fashion but you just aren't reciprocating the way he had hoped and he's now deterred.

[spartan55]

Because his whole world doesn't revolve around you maybe? Do you try to talk to him on his mute days?

[fueledbythc]

he likes you. he just is shy and the days he does talk to you he has confidence.

[IAMNathanael]

Maybe he's having a bad day. Sometimes my workmates go back and forth like that.

[bigboi85]

I have that issue, too, with co-workers. It’s annoying.

[Dave31989]

cause he's your coworker

he's allowed to be either

do you like him?

[In_Trance]

because he's pounding some other chick inconsistently

[legion6969]

Sounds like an idiot, get rid.

[Pistolpete90]

He's an immature bitch, that's why.

[havingfun101]

Ya boring?