Why do men these days lack so much self esteem?

[ShadezMcgee]

Lack of good fathers or masculine role models to help push them to be and act like men as they were growing up. Can add to being raised by single mothers.

Another one would be modern day feminism has pushed the idea that men are only as useful as their finances and jobs. If they do not rank up there in the top men, they aren't seen as shit. Anything that defined me as men back in the day is now seen as toxic masculinity that must be stopped and eradicated.

Social media and influence being push on it and just media in general. The best men or "Alpha" men are seen as these tall, muscular, well dressed men that are constantly surrounded by beautiful women that want everything about them. Sex, lifestyle, status. It paints an ugly perception of how men should be like in order to be accepted not just by fellow men, but women as well. They have this giant bar of standards placed above them that they can never stop pursuing, and even if they reach the pinnacle, it's never enough.

How much can you achieve before you die and does it hold any form of merit? Can you truly be seen as a man who contributed to this world and succeeded? Well loved by peers and will be missed when he departs? No? Well, sucks to be you.

That is the bad self-esteem/ pessimistic and toxic mindset men have.

[Don-__-Don]

Here's an question I'd be more than happy to answer since I've been dealing with this shit my entire life.


It's the environment, the peopoe that you're around.

All my life I've been surronded by people who like to shit talk me for no apparent reason. Disrepecful family members.

Other than a few friends and few people here like @lanadelrey25, I have had no positive influence in my life.

No one to hug me when I needed a hug
No one to tell me that I'm worth it
No one to tell me that I good
I've always been called ugly.
I've been called big head
Fat, skinny, and etc.

All I ever yet 90% of the time is negatively.

And let me tell you, that's shit takes a toll on a nigga when it's been happening for so damn long.

I'm serious, I've dealt with lack of self esteem my entire life, all the psychological abuse from a broken home, always being treated like an outcast, the bullying, people always treating you like you're shit.

It takes it's toll in many ways.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm always doing what I can to be better despite the set back, but it's overwhelming. I think about suicide at least every other day.

I'll leave it here, I don't want to say too much.

[EyeAmNiceGirl]

Environmental estrogen is part of it. That plastic lining on the inside of cans? Soy and soy byproducts in so many foods?

The equal rights push that constantly tells men to stamp down their testosterone and let women have "their share" of the jobs and opportunities. And more importantly, the ability for women to get a man fired from his job for making the tiniest of improper comments, etc en when an honest review couldn't really say it was that bad. Saying something like "That dress looks good on you," could get him into trouble.

So much has been done to build self-esteem in girls (which carries over into adulthood), but, at the same time, the boys have been given less encouragement and even seen things that legitimately should have been theirs given to a girl instead.

[Ally247]

I reckon it's because they compare themselves to the alpha model of what men are supposed to be. Having such expectations for themselves is bound to cause a lack of self esteem, because instead of being happy and confident in who they are, they focus on why they're not somebody else.

[Dongtai]

Men aren’t taught how to manage and navigate through there emotions. We’re taught to suppress them. For a child to have healthy self esteem they need to be comfortable with being vulnerable and great parents are supportive.


Self esteem is essentially how you feel about yourself. It’s the ability to love who you are while everyone is watching you be you. Most kids have this up until kindergarten where they’re surrounded by others kids.


What do you do when someone you really admire tells you you’re worthless? Kids are so impressionable. If they don’t have a great support system they will believe mean things people tell them. For boys it’s harder because when we cry or talk about what hurts us, we’re told to suck it up and stop being a crybaby.


So not only will a child feel worthless, they’ll feel even worse about feeling that way. People are telling them something is wrong with them because they’re hurting. Depending on the support system, boys will learn how to hide it, overcome it or not be able to handle. This carries into adulthood unless they learn healthy ways to protect their self esteem.


Instead of telling our boys to suck it up and be a man, we should be teaching them how to brush off the stupid things others may say or do. SHOW them how to be a man. Don’t leave it to trial and error. TEACH your boys how to suck it up. Show them they can take a hit and keep going. Nurture their strength so they CAN be a man in those hard moments. Don’t leave them their to suffer and figure it out on their own.


Sorry that was long but yeah. Society has these weird expectations for men but rarely teachers them how to live up to them.

[Citizenkirk]

To have good self-esteem, a young man needs positive reinforcement, that is, acknowledgment of the things he accomplishes and is good at, "and" the occasional negative reinforcement of a boot up the rear when he's thoroughly screwing up. Especially when he knows better.
That is have the equation. The second part is he needs to be tested on those lessons, hard, by life's School of hard knocks.
The crucible of a man's self worth that is life who either crush him, or make him into a strong, confident, self-assured man.
Much of life's trials that I've had to endure, have been through tragedy and lost, and it has indeed made me stronger, but at great cost, and great risk, and no parent that is worth the name of being a parent, wants to see their children go through that.
But they do have to go through that one way or another, if you'r kid is fortunate enough to have the kind of situation where life isn't out to destroy him, then he needs to find ways to destroy himself, incrementally of course, to give himself challenges, to learn how to work as a team, and to work hard and learn how to survive as an individual, and just man up and endure those hard lessons in life. If the world outside of him isn't throwing that stuff at him, then he needs to throw that stuff at himself, but he needs to be tested.
Even though parents cannot do their kids any good by trying to shelter them from life they can afford to buy that young man but giving him words of encouragement and letting them him know that they care. He doesn't need his hand held, he just needs the occasional "good luck, you're doing good. We're here for you! We love you!" and all that good stuff. Tell him you're proud of him. It's like a shot of adrenaline right up the rear. It'll get his spirits up and give him strength.

[Wheeln247]

I'll insert my social situation that leads to easily losing self esteem in myself. I'm middle class and mainly all my friends are well off, some retired even at my age. Me almost living check to check as soon as a girl would realize time with me wouldn't be luxurious as it would be with any of the others in this group it's game over. It's to the point now that I question why I've stayed friends with these people, like I don't belong with these people now that were grown up and the answer to that is my friends and I have had some of the best times of our lives like all good friends. Been friends while growing up but only now they're on their own, some even married with kid but since I'm a working class citizen in some situations I'm the outcast to some. Not them, they've got my back and would make sure I wasn't left behind but to others, especially women it's a frustrating feeling of not belonging in this group. It's easy for me to feel like I shouldn't be there. That could be a problem with me though. Never really admitted this to anyone before

[Robertcw]

The group currently between the ages of 23 - 39, and to some (less) extent (some off) the 20-22 y/old's too, are sort of weirdos.

I see it in my peers everyday. People are getting hit by reality, paying bills, looking for affordable rent etc. Basically, getting shafted by capitalism. Combined with a decent increase in gang violence compared to their parents' generation (s), people get stressed out and high strung. And in all likelihood a good number of them had good lives as financial dependents, or at least loving families or optimistic feelings about a future, especially for first and second gen immigrants and those who grew up in red-lined neighborhoods in the 90's and early 2000's back when that was a thing.

But then reality hit. I say it light heartedly because I'm right there with them.

For younger guys in early 20's a rise in people of color in the US has led to a rise in hip-hop and street gangs (can't deny it) in popular culture, and with that cut throat male beauty standards. (Ever notice how street gangs recruit the most physically attractive young guys on the block? Typically unusually tall (5'10 - 6'5"), lean and taught to be cold/hard).

Combine that with feminism and dating apps and guys who don't measure up think they're missing out. Funny thing is the truth is more complicated.

I don't have time to write eight years of life experience here, but the irony is that regular guys have no (real) disadvantage. So the low self-esteem is unjustified and is probably a tactic employed by other aggressive men as a means of taking control over the supply of available young women (without them realizing it -- yes this is a real thing).

[Yaaten]

It isn't 5G, so you can rule that out right this moment. It's strange how people didn't seem to have such issues with 1G, 2G, 3G, or 4G, or T. V. sets before that, or radios, or radars, or light bulbs. Or the sun. You receive far more ionising radiation from being five minutes in the sun than you ever would from a 5G tower. People just do not seem to understand the basic - VERY basic - science behind all of this. Take off the tinfoil hats, and get some sunshine would be my advice for these people.

[ragequeen]

Modern feminism. Men think they are not good enough so women start taking over men`s jobs and duties. We live in a feminist society where women`s rights and feelings are everything. Men are put down. They think they are not good enough for women or the society they live in.

[PinkMichae]

I'm not sure it's just men today but humans today instead. As for men some reasons definitely could be extreme feminism. But I think today's generation are more introverted because of technology which can make them more insecure in real physical social situations. Also technology allows people to easily make up who they are instead of like my generation all we had was real life social situations. So we didn't have a choice but to be ourselves.

People seem a lot more hateful today then back in my day too. That could cause people today to have less self esteem when they are being criticized or judged more.

[DJB72]

There is a massive movement to firstly strip men of the things that make us men, then those same women who have stripped us of our masculinity complain there are no real men left.

There is a shortage of men, it's true. For a century now a generation of men at a time has been decimated. First in the 1914-18 war, then from 1939-45. Two consecutive generations of fathers killed literally or emotionally. The only option was for women to take over the civilian jobs they left - fair enough. The problem came when those who came back abdicated their responsibility to their sons to bestow masculinity to them. The result is consecutive generations of men where the number who are blessed enough to have had real fathers or father-figures to bestow real masculinity on them is dropping. The result is a toxic masculinity in social media that projects a lie telling them they aren't enough. Then they believe the lie because there's nobody to teach them how to reject it.

[Kiss_Me]

Many adult males have been raised by single mothers. They lack positive role models to teach them to be Men. The role models they do have are immoral, corrupt, or weak-willed. Over time, these men have grown into a social norm of apathy and weakness. The situation has become so bad that masculinity is considered a problem. People just don't know how to handle it. Men are portrayed in media as weak, incompetent, stupid.
In short, they have become second class citizens simply due to their gender. It is no wonder man men suffer from self-esteem problems.

[lordskull69]

Interesting question. I don't have an answer really. I can't say that when I was younger I had tons of confidence. These days not so much but just coming off a 30 year marriage where the last 10 years was me being basically blamed for every little fucking thing I ever did including breathing couldn't even do that right I've seen my self-esteem go quite far down. However I have met some girls that have made me see the I'm not as horrible as I might think these days and I'm coming around to getting my self-esteem back to some degree. I would add that why do girls have such crappy self-esteem or seemingly so. They will have the boat load of confidence but when you get to know them they constantly complain about their Dental in their thigh or their fat butt cheeks or their boobs are big enough for their hair is Curly and it should be straight or vice versa and I'm not sure if it's fishing for compliments or lack of self-esteem or a little of both depending on who were talking about

[AdithyaR]

Personally I've never had issues with self esteem.
I guess it's probably due to how much pressure they face from media. Both men and women are portrayed to act a certain way and look a certain way.
You have to have the big house and fancy car while not having a tiring job etc etc.

I've never felt the need to compare myself with others. Furthermore I sometimes have healthy competitions with my friends and myself to keep myself motivated and enthusiastic about studying and working and overall improving myself. And every person is different so judging them on the same basis is not good.
I'm a really good writer and have a good grasp on langauges but I'm horrible at stuff like economics. I'd measure myself based on my talents and abilities and not the stuff I'm bad at.
A lot of guys tend to do that and obsess over their flaws too much and obsess over perfection which causes self esteem issues.

[Anonymous]

We have so many standards to fill to be considered an ideal partner.
1. Height above 5ft 10in at least
2. The perfect penis size is around 6" when the average size is 5" in the USA
3. Financially must be able to provide.
4. Society tells us we can't be sad. Sometimes we have to hold in all our emotions to keep a manly status. It's not considered manly to cry. You have to do it in private alone to let your emotions out.
5. Girls are always looking to upgrade on us. There are too many thirsty guys so if you find a relationship with a good girl, just know she will always have multiple options to replace you with if any little mistake you make.
6. We are very easily replaceable.

[glock33sig357]

It's because of the gynocentric society we're living in women are telling us how to eat, how to conduct ourselves in public, how to address them and it's backed up by the legal system which puts us to a large disadvantage so much that some of us find it easier to just transition our gender just to escape the pressures of our original birth gender. The way we explore to world and discover ourselves are deemed TOXIC by women's groups like the feminist movement & others like the LGBTQ+, compounded by being in a single parent house void of a man and told everything you do is wrong and made to feel that's your father's fault that you are being compared to him and just like him your not worth the time and attention that your sister will get.

[bolverk]

Its most likely because all the way through school & college/university they have faced a pro female atmosphere where nothing they did ever received any praise and constantly being told that they'd never amount to any thing, is it any wonder that the young men of today have low self esteem? Even the organisations that in the past supported young men Like The Boy Scouts for instance, have been systematically attacked and forced to accept female members, so the young men have nowhere to call their own.

[DeeToPlay]

I'm sure that all men are not lacking self confidence. Like anyone else men are completely different from each other and stereotypes that turn us into charictures and not just individuals keep the stereotyping up and going. I have emotions and I am not ashamed of showing my emotional reactions to the general public.

[pigoat]

True i say I'm ugly and people have told me I'm cute or good looking dude

But those people have been family, psychologists, and paid camgirls

Those opinions mean nothing to me

Also girls in the past who said i found them unattractive, those opinions mean nothing to me

I have been fully around females in my family all my life, i didn't know that estrogen could sink in but I'm no expert

[RingOfFire]

I can answer this in two words: "toxic masculinity"

But I'll add a few more. If you wanted to destroy a country, pussifying the men in the country would be a pretty good way to do it. It would decimate the killer instinct in their military and cause men to be impotent and the birth rate to fall reducing the population.

And that is EXACTLY what America's enemies have been trying to do for decades. Turn our men into crossdressers, transsexuals and wimps so they cannot defend our country. Essentially cut their dicks and balls off and give them pussies so they can't defend their country.

And there are all too many useful idiots in our country who gladly help them along. They'll be the first ones to go to the reeducation and concentration camps when our country is overrun by the communists and radical Islamists they are enabling.

[virtue2332]

Not just Men it is everywhere. We evolved with that drive to increase our chances for survival by finding more ideal situations that we could thrive in. Our society doesn't do a great job about communicating reality and explaining situations effectively. We are surrounded by facades that may be well intentioned but have obvious flaws. An example of this in my culture is how sex is taught. We grew up thinking this was done when married. Having urges self pleasure, lust all normal feelings and activites. Because of this some of us grow up feeling shame and guilt like there is something wrong with us for something that is normal part of development. This is just one of the many examples out there. That's why sites like this are important because it allows people to see different perspectives and ideas. We are all unique and similar in so many ways.

[NaultD]

People having a hard time finding meaning in a potentially meaningless world. Lets look at ancient greek mythology. Sisyphus was punished by the gods for his self-aggrandizing craftiness and deceitfulness to push a Boulder up a mountain and once it's at the top it falls to the bottom and to push it up to the top to fall again forever.

Kinda like todays horror like thishttps://www.youtube.com/embed/kfchvCyHmscLet's ignore the "late" part and focus on it's an all day agony. This is why sisyphus is called the "absurd hero" in existential philosophy. "How can you find meaning in life in this endless loop?" Depending on your answer you can follow a dozen different paths. This is a cross roads for young adults to cross through.

[Anonymous]

Incels have better life than me. So i can't understand why a western man should have a low self esteem. They should be happy that they dont get forced to marry, dont have to get humiliating fucking virgin bs test, can't divorce even when your spouse cheat since no man want non virgin/ex married woman and also societal pressure , can't leave your religion without getting disowned or even killed, can't complain about marital rape and so on.

[mobiusforniner]

Because most men these days aren't men. Men are mature, responsible, caring- yet know how to stand up for themselves and the ones they care about. Men can fix shit. They have goals and achieve them. Real men dont give up. They are quick to forgive and forget. Robert Lee said a gentleman himself is humbled when he can't help humbling others.

Yeah good luck finding one of those in mommys basement.

[jshm2]

They don't

You're still living in the 1950's is all.

Men are no longer the centre of the world, as they imagined it back then.

You have to share it with women, immigrants, and other races and nationalities.

There are only so many slices a pie can be cut to - someone's got to go without eventually.

[Slim57]

I think online dating is a good way for any average man to lose a lot of confidence levels, also when you're in your late 20s and any woman whos ever "loved" you cheated on you and any woman in public has never showed you any attention whatsoever it tends to get that way, just an idea. Also when any woman you've ever dated or talked to has never been serious about getting with you in the first place, just wanted attention

[MecheD]

So many things plague this generation of men and have been for a long time. From the wars, to the music , movies etc... it paints men without the bravado or the lack of it as weak. Music tells you that the “weak” man doesn’t get the girl of his dream , movies paint that same guy as a creepy/ stalker type of guy, the only time that guy gets painted in a great light is when the woman is fed up with mr. bravado , or loses self esteem with herself.

[Bandit74]

Not sure. I did have my estrogen come back kinda high on a blood test once but my doctor essentially said just the number alone is meaningless unless you have symptoms because it varies so much from person to person and even throughout the day within the same person.

Personally I think the competition is just so much higher. With online dating sites like tinder even average looking girls can easily get a tall, fit, attractive big dicked guy to fuck her brains out at a moment's notice. Seems like every girl is dating or has dated multiple guys who are 6ft tall, muscular, smart, charming and had a 7 + inch dick. So personally I just check myself out. I can't motivate myself to play in a competition I have zero chance of winning. Like the best outcome is I end up being the fallback plan they settle for after the more desirable guy on tinder cheated/didn't want to commit and then I'm stuck in a sexless marriage and/or end up divorce raped. Just seems like a fruitless endeavor.

[Browneye57]

Cuz feminism tells them they are worthless. And toxic. And they are raised in an increasingly toxic female-centric culture. They are EXPECTED to act just like girls - hell they even drug them in school if they don't.
We've raised a whole crop of girlie-men, and the women loathe them.

[SHEKNOWS]

Probably because men are rarely complimented, they get screwed it custody battles, alimony and on top of that expected to never show emotion. At least it's acceptable for women to cry but men just have it rough, man.

[Guy0nGaG]

Because men (especially white men) are constantly being beaten down by media and entertainment and we're being indoctrinated to put ourselves down. Just look at commercials and TV shows, they always show the men being, weak, dumb, and pathetic and the wife is the badass of the family, even the kids have their foot on their dad's neck. I like comedy as much as anyone else, but I'm starting to think that female and people of color empowerment is going too far when all the jokes are being directed towards one group of people. https://www.youtube.com/embed/XSMZhCCEFuAhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/UeUouZfV4O4https://www.youtube.com/embed/UFQn4hwwPNEhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/jgDoxWt5cZw

[Anonymous]

To be honest with you I feel so ugly and fat all the time I barely go out. I feel like strangers are going to be disgusted by how my hair and body looks. So I wish I could go out more but I feel like I'd anger people on the street because I'm hard on the eyes. I eat trash everyday, gained a bunch of weight but I don't care anymore. I'm just not pretty enough.

I had no idea guys actually felt like me. But I do wish that I could have friends, go to the store, go out, but I'm just too ugly. If it was up to me I don't think I'd ever leave the house again.

For guys who feel like me it must be even worse because men aren't expected to have issues like these.

[Guanfei]

Mostly because of modern feminism, that made women think it's ok to belittle guys, and that guys who aren't on the top 10% aren't worth looking at. That men are inherently evil and bad, and that everything is their fault. That cheating is "freedom" and shouldn't be a shame. That men are replaceable, optional and never needed.

When you're told constantly that you're worth nothing more than what you can financially provide and that you don't have a say on anything, even what directly concern you, you end up believing it, and of course, thinking you're nothing isn't exactly good for confidence.

[EssenceOfLight]

Lack of will to self-improvement especially on social level. Men need other men as competitor, friends, mentors... but most guys are socially isolated nowadays. Their entire life focuses on video games and porn, this doesn't offer any opportunity to prove themselves in real situations. This causes depression and lack of self-esteem.
In brief, men need social interaction with other man.

[Anonymous]

my guess is missing parents and emotional abuse. maybe it's trauma. could be chemical in nature as people are more sensitive, or lack of training which builds self esteem.

i know a teen like this... it's not easy... father issues.

I had low self worth.

[locutus9999]

We live in a system that , first value the feminine over the masculine, many kids grow up without a father, most of men do depressing jobs, the divorce rate is high and is in around 80% started by the wife, family court is rigged against men, we are show the whole time we are expendable, and we do not receive any sort of tender treatment. if you fall everyone will say man up, if you cry not even your female friends will lend you a hand. so why is so hard to believe that many men have a self esteem problem? actually and i am part of this, many of us are embracing stoicism, accepting we are the punching ball of society, and do our best with it. But would harm anyone to receive a compliment one and then, we also care of how we loo and how we are perceived.

[007kingifrit]

everything in modern society especially entertainment and left wing politics driven things are specifically designed to hate men and put men down. and men have a much harder time than women finding work and getting into college

all while constantly hearing PRVILEGE PRIVILEGE PRIVILEGE!

[Paul09]

Well in my experience, I use to go on a lot of dates, and it never clicked. Or if I try to pick up a woman, some else swoops in. I've never really feel like I get checked out or anything. So I guess i just got more insecure about my looks, and have a low self esteem. I have no clue how to get someone's attention. I have no opener for conversations. So I wonder, am I just ugly, or is it just inside my head? Sometimes I look at myself, and I'm like dayum I look good. But doesn't matter in the end. Fml

[captain_voidwalker]

Well I'm sure it's because from the moment you are born feminism teaches that you are literal satan and responsible for all evil in the world. When you want to act like a little boy they drug you with Adderall or Ritalin. Then when you hit puberty your told finding girls attractive is sexual assault and your sexuality is rape. Then in adult hood even speaking to a woman can get you hauled in by HR. And cost you your entire career or literally your freedom. So yeah those are just some starters for why men tend to have low self esteem. But I'm sure I'll get the usual responses of thats not true or not all feminists are like that or the other standard hand wave bullshit that perpetuates the anti male bias in our society.

[DiegoO]

Selfsteem is not based on appearance, gender, or a specific generation. It's based on life experiences and how you deal with them, but we can agree that in these times men and women are more pressured with their looks, and ironically less pressured with societal moral codes. Thanks to very high expectations imposed by medias.

[InferiorElegy]

I'm 5'8" so I'm short. I've got a lot of mental disorders (nothing that makes me violent) but I'm broken beyond repair.
I'm not rich. I have never be a choice for any female ever. I only know rejection. I have never been good at making friends even with like minded people, I guess I'm just to weird and retarded for people to like being around me. There isn't anything about me that says I should have higher self esteem or confidence.

[Anonymous]

I am ugly and out of shape
People say otherwise but I refuse to believe them because I know the truth
I spend all my time working to earn enough to justify doing anything but then I spend money on myself which I know I shouldn't but I do it all the same

[BeefTarTar]

Everyone in here blaming feminists. I think it’s because kids have been so spoiled the last 30 years or so that once they get out in the real world they can’t adapt. Just like parents who stood up for their kid stealing in school when they knew what they did was wrong. Sometimes, if you’ve had a blessed childhood, it’s very hard to grow up.

[iFarted]

I think the day and age of social media such as Instagram has a huge role in that.
They show guys that are rich, tall and muscular with beautiful women around them. Rarely do you ever see a weak little man with a beautiful woman and most guys are rich tall and muscular.

[nycres]

You are not going to help any man's self-esteem by implying that "estrogen is sneaking its way into his DNA." (I'm not sure that's how it works, but that's beside the point)

Seriously, why say things like this? All this does is make men think they're supposed to be complete assholes at all times. Is that really what you want to see in the world?

[clashcity22]

Parents who don’t know how to handle raising their kids. My parents constantly set unrealistic goals for me and tried to control my life. When I failed to meet a goal, I was ridiculed. It developed into low self esteem for me over time.

[Puppies1234]

Because guys have feelings too they think that they should bottle up their feelings because they don't wanna get made fun of because they are men people think they should be strong but guys can cry to they are people too.

[CaptainOverthink]

Social media, apps and its algorythms built to keep your attention plays a big part in a lot of todays weird trends, I think. The view of reality is so twisted when looking at the world through a screen.

[Avicenna]

Maybe it’s the constant anti-masculine messages they’re sent.

[Not_Average]

People in general do. I think it's the result of how progressivism has turned toxic resulting in the diminishing of gender roles and monogamy. Men definitely receive the lesser end of this societal shift, and it shows.

[Brian___1731]

Probably because they're taught to respect people and always be nice when it shouldn't be the case. One must focus on self until they understand who they are and then look after others. Because of this people lose their interests to make others happy which isn't very good always. Reasons like porn and depression could also be reasons for this

[slatyb]

Same as it ever was. There have always been young people with an unrealistically poor self image. I did and my wife did. Neither of us thought we were attractive but looking back I see two very attractive people. My wife was most likely the beauty of her high school class but so shy that she got no invitations.

[Mynameisdom7]

i guess that there are some guys (myself included) who don’t look like most other men. i for instance have more feminine features (not too much tho). this has made me and a lot of other guys i assume feel insecure. another thing is that some guys have been bullied in the past (me also) about their looks and pretty much everything about them... and that probably made them insecure.

[Murad_ABK]

Depends on the culture and society I guess and maybe the effect of social media has a role in that equation, since guys see some attractive guys getting plenty of compliments online while they still remember last compliment they got 6 months ago.
Yet if u don't give a damn you don't give a damn, someone will find you acceptable at least 💀

[Jjpayne]

It's harder to find a partner and it's harder to have confidence in the male gender, especially with the me too movement. Not a lot of guys are looking too good right now...

[Givemore]

Well for years we had pussy on tap. Then the left got hold of all socialising platforms and shamed women for anything sexual, so now, no pussy. I'm depressed asf😡😠🤬☹️😩😵🤤😖😫🥵 the thirst is so real🥵
Bloody leftist cock blocking biarches🖕

[askmeaskyou]

Personally speaking for me it was being a foreigner and being hated on by both sexes growing up. I had a full beard by 13 years old and I use to get hated on it so much by everyone.

It could be our past but we can't open up to others about it since we are seen as strong.

[RSav4013]

I think this is a problem for the younger generation because I don't feel this way at all. It could be because there's such an anti-male stigma right now on most of the major social media outlets.

[FatherJack]

Being constantly portrayed as innately evil & defective & inferior to girls / women , whereas girls / women are elevated. My own daughter pointed this out to me aged just 8 , stating how unfair it is on boys !! She is now 14 , and totally without my input , mocks modern feminism , which is basically a misandrist hate group now. If it wasn't a hate group , then why are the rank & file feminists never calling out their leaders hate filled misandrist rhetoric?

[Deathly_Pheonix]

It may just be mental health issues alongside societal ideas. And a man who lacks confidence may find it hard to make a first move with a potential partner, but when they dont make the first move either, it kinda lands a blow on the man's self esteem. There are plenty of factors, but a lot of it has to do with how they perceive the world and even things that have been said/showed to them.

[Anonymous]

because women made them lack self esteem by the constant rejections, the constant accusations of false rape allegations, the uncertainty of who the baby daddy is (ie another round of playing guess who the baby daddy game is), the amount of std's running rampant in a woman's vagina, the constant cheating and screwing around (ie dick hopping), the gender biased laws in our fucked up society, having to pay child support to a kid that's not even his

[Unit1]

Likely for the most part society doesn't really care about men. That must made the men think, that they are worthless.
And then there's us being told bullsh like "focus on getting rich" and how "beauty is for the women".

Some of them went rogue. Some of them became simps. And some of them went MGTOW.

[Liam_Hayden]

Beaten down by banshee-like Femi-Nazis, Femi-socialist indoctrination in the schools, music that glorifies being a coward who SIMPs after low-quality bimbos, and movies and television shows that ridicule masculinity or stereotype masculine guys as brainless losers.