Nothing I was just curious because something my dad said long ago lol
maybe #metoo knows more? 🤔
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Nah I absolutely hate that the first thing I look for are for guys that are super sweet and that’s what my boyfriend is
I think that only applies to girls that have daddy issues because your relationship with your dad determines the kind of guys that you like. I like guys that are sweet and treat me well because I have a sweet dad so the relationship with your dad is important for a girl.
I hadn't considered, thanks for the insight - it makes sense actually :)
I honestly don’t know what me and my boyfriend have been doing lol
I guess we’ve been open to each other since the beginning?
Well it has been a bit of push and pull hasn't it? How many times have you poored your heart out here because he didn't answer or didn't say goodnight or good morning. That's my point. When you push he pulls and and you pull he pushes, keep that in mind
I remember in the beginning my anxiety was crazy I would worry about every little thing and cry a lot because I was scared to lose him but as time has passed by I’m calmer now.
And trust me as time goes on you'll worry less and less. But it's bette this way, if a relationship is gonna givd you nothing but worrying and sleepless nights then what's the point of having it
Lol well now I still cry a lot because I miss him and I haven’t seen him for almost two weeks because I went to New York to visit my family and now his parents won’t let him see me until I get my Covid results
If you’re in a relationship you have to avoid other women lol unless it’s for work
@pink_and_inlove Oh I do. It's a matter of respect towards my partner when I am with them. I don't believe that it's right for someone in a relationship to be hanging out one on one with the opposite gender without my partner there. I also try and show the same respect with female friends in relationships. We still communicate but it's not like your every day all day kind of talking. I also leave my phone and accounts open to anyone I am dating as a show of trust.
A lot of men do take a longer time to mature lol well I’m talking based on my father whose 44 and like a kid in a good way though 😂
I was talking about head games. I hope your father is not doing that to the people around him.
Lmao not what I had in mind but okay
There's a difference between hard to get sex and hard to get a date.
What exactly is the difference?
You can still hang out with guys while keeping your legs closed. :)
Hanging out is different to dating. Why should I be easy to date?
I mean hanging out romantically. Which is slightly different from hanging out as friends. (But not that much different, as many people believe in being friends first anyway.)
And why should you be easy to date? I'll tell you why. It's not about making it easier for him. It's about making it easier for yourself. The more barriers you put up, the longer it will take you to find the person you are meant to be with.
Obviously don't date someone if you don't like them.
You're right by saying the more barriers I put up, the longer it will take to find someone but I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing. I'd rather have my barriers and meet someone who is willing enough to take the time and show me I don't need to have barriers with him. My personal preference is to just take it slow. I don't want to be easy to date, that's opening myself up and letting myself be vulnerable with multiple people, and some won't deserve to know me the way they'll end up knowing me. I reserve that privilege to those who have earned it, I don't meaninglessly extend it.
Fair enough. What you said does make sense.I guess my point of view is just a little different. I'm okay with giving anyone a chance as long as they 1) are a decent person, 2) meet my standards, and 3) I am attracted to them.
Number two is quite tricky for me lol
I do the same. I initiate our texts some days and other days I just wait for him to text me first. It it felt like I had to start all our convos I would feel pretty sad and unwanted
Most guys have to start all conversations as a simple matter of course. A whole lot of women just straight up won’t put effort into relationships (or at least dating) with guys.
That’s a big mistake it should be 50/50 or at least close to it. That’s why our relationship has lasted for a while because both of us put in efforts it’s never just one person. We also reply to each other’s text about an hour or so so there’s not as much anxiety and it’s a pretty chill relationship
I personally can’t do it. Like I could take 3 hours to respond like once a month max and that’s hard to get to me lol
That last part is your problem. What you see on the TV has always been bullshit. Girls don’t want you to chase them. It’s super weak.
Yeah hollywood got it wrong lol. I watched spiderman try and with a very nervous voice talk to the girl. Reality is, Even if you manage to approach a girl, if your voice is timid, game over.
@warrenstone that’s odd, the last time things ended between me and a girl, one of her complaints was that she didn’t feel pursued. Maybe that’s more of a teenager thing, I don’t know.my nature is more quiet and reserved, but nervous depending on the situation, and I’m awkward as hell. I’d like to improve not only with women but just socially in general as well. At the same time I don’t want to be an arrogant and pompous turd.It’s weird how I still feel like an awkward, nervous, shy 12 year old at his first school dance, while my best friend from middle school was the weird awkward kid and he’s already engaged.
Why do guys think that lol. I’m with my boyfriend now for 8 months and what made me fall in love with him was how sweet he is and his beautiful soul this is the first guy that I see a future with and I have never been this in love before.
The other guys that I had crushes on back then was because they came off as nice too but the difference between them was that they turned out to be someone else.
My boyfriend who loves to write has always written me long paragraphs on how much he loves me and never fails to say that he loves me not even for a day this even made me fall more in love with him.
I always believe that a girl’s relationship with her father is crucial to who she will choose in a relationship which is why a lot of girls that have toxic relationships with their father end up with toxic men. I’m proof in that because me and my dad have a good relationship he is often sweet and the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with is also sweet and always makes me feel special.
I know there are girls like you and for that I am grateful. I believe you are right about how a girl's relationship with her father affects her relationships with other men. But today a lot of kids are raised without a father, more than half of marriages end in divorce and the vast majority of those divorces are filed by women, and in those instances the fathers usually don't get fair custody rights and their relationships with their kids are often strained as a result. And there are a lot of shitty dads out there too who choose not to be active in their children's lives as well.Long story short, a lot of girls, perhaps a majority, do not have the benefit of a great relationship with their fathers like you have. And the reality is that guys being nice is often perceived as unattractive by girls. It's just a fact.
It definitely depends on the girl. Just be you. I think it’s important to be kind to everyone also if you have a daughter in the future you want her to see you as an example of how a man should be.
Most divorces happen because of toxic relationships meaning if a guy is an asshole or the woman it won’t be long lasting it’s not the 50s anymore where women depend on men so once they realize their worth they’ll leave those kinds of guys eventually
Definitely agree on that.
I also agree with what you said about why divorce happens, but I disagree with your underlying assumption that men being assholes is why most divorces are filed by women. That is certainly true in some cases but it certainly doesn't explain all of why 80% of divorces are filed by women. Often it is just a lack of commitment and is fueled by a legal system that is very biased against fathers in divorce and custody cases.
www.insider.com/why-people-get-divorced-2019-11. Lack of commitment — 75%Even though some would say that marriage is the ultimate commitment, 75% of the people surveyed said a lack of commitment played a part in the demise of their marriage."I realized it was the lack of commitment on my part because I didn't really feel romantic towards him. I always had felt more still like he was a friend to me," explained one participant.
That’s basically another example of a man not treating a woman well enough lol. (lack of commitment) it makes a woman not feel wanted or appreciated it’s kind of harsh too
That is just an assumption on your part. Statistics show that the reality of many divorces is very different and there is fault on both sides.
Just to clarify. Do you distinguish between 'playing' hard to get and 'being' hard to get?
@J2ohhhhh I’m 💯 sure she does. She is one of the most astute people I’ve ever met let alone on gag. Just saying 😊😊
@J2ohhhhhYes, because im that "hard" to get woman. That's why I never dated. Why do you think people say there are leagues for a reason? Whatever those leagues are, you tend to spiritually feel it if not notice it. You don't always have to be spiritually open to things to be able to tell the difference between what separates you and another person. A person that plays hard to get doesn't care about your emotions. They care about what they can get out of here most of the time. The only problem is that you got two types of people that plays hard to get. The ones that actually don't know that it's toxic to not be honest about what they want because they've been brainwashed to think that is normal. Versus people who are literally like players and pimps and know exactly what they're doing. They don't just play with your emotions, they make you insecure about yourself. It's done deliberately it as I said before.Those who are hard to get like myself are naturally intimidating because we usually are born with a lot of things to offer in the world. However because a lot of people don't tend to put much importance on it, they begin to naturally feel unworthy or even intimidated. If they weren't already insecure about themselves before. The problem is is that it doesn't just make them insecure, it may make us a bit insecure because in the end, we are human too. The problem is that the insecure person tends to not care about how we feel. To summarize understand this. Those who play hard to get don't feel responsible for what they do. Those that are hard to get already feel responsible and have already a nurse responsibilities and unrealistic expectations to uphold as is. It's damned if we do, damned if we don't
Already have more responsibilities and unrealistic expectations*
Who hurt you?
Hahhaha dont kid yourself no such pussy hurt me but I see it being done all the time and I laugh because it only makes them less of a man if they are being chased by a woman because a real man comes along and sweeps the girl off her feet and they are with their finger in their ear wondering to fuck just happened. A. k. a they're left like a wet fucked pussy.
That’s understandable what I do though is that some days I initiate the texting other days I wait for him to that way it’s closer to 50/50
Fair enough and I like jumping through hoops, some girls are just worth it.
Just curious lol. I think it’s because something my dad said because on September I would complain about how my boyfriend wouldn’t answer my good morning text until like 3pm and he said that guys played tricks too and that that was a trick. After that I took 3 hours to respond lol
And he actually got worried and asked me if everything was okay that was in September though. I was just watching my turkish drama for those 3 hours 😂
No! I DON’T think your boyfriend is doing that. Don’t listen to your dad.
you are childish tho 😂
Thats why your short; 😂
No I'm not :/
I'm sorry your really tall