How to make my friend stop talking dirty to me when we aren’t even dating?

- By not having him as a friend. PERIOD. He is no friend, and anybody who talks so disrespectful sexually to you is no one who you should date or marry. He is not a FRIEND. Let that imbecile go! He has 0 respect for you. And watch him. Guys like him may end up raping you if not now in the future when you least expect it. Stay away from that guy and men like that. They will never respect you.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
You're very welcome. And please be safe. If he harasses you more, tell your family and other friends all of this your saying on here, have proof, and if he doesn't stop, report him. Don't tolerate that. They will victimize you like he's trying to do now.
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What you wrote here is evidence enough. Or maybe have him on speaker very low for everyone to hear it.
You have power and authority in the name of Jesus to rebuke and cast out devils! That is a lust spirit and you need to stop feeding it energy. Your a virgin and pure so it wants to feed on your energy. And wants to rob you of your innocence and create soul ties so even if your no longer physically with him, part of your soul is still in him and he's in you and they masturbate or create a spiritual link were in a way he can still have sex spiritually with you. And it may come in the form of what people call 'wet dreams', and it's not just 'dreams'. It's scary stuff. Stay away from him. Put your social media on private, don't post your pics, block and delete his number and infromation.
Very scary. Also to add, what he is doing is sexual harassment. So you are free to tell him if he doesn't stop, you're reporting him and won't blink an eye. Any guy did something like that to me, I'm hanging up right there, drop his number and block him. Try to contact them again, let him know we are not friends and the next time he tries to call and contact me, the police will be at his door with a restraining order.
Sex is that serious and nobody talks about it. You won't learn it in sex ed. Most churches won't get that deep either. You have to be aggressive with people like that and understand your authority. They do it to promote fear in you and gain power. Don't give it to him.
Yeah he did seem very commanding with orders and saying how I can only respond to his questions with yes or no answers. He was talking about maybe calling me again tomorrow so if it happens I will do everything you said!
He also kept saying how I was dumb, useless, and weak so that was putting me down... but he thinks I like it he thinks I’m into humiliation kink.
No. It's not a kink. Kinks are perversions, to begin with. Any form of humiliation is abuse. And what your dealing with is abuse. And you need to tell your friends and family what the hell this guy is doing and putting you through. Get some legal help and counseling with this so they can better give you the resources on what to do with guys like him. He says that because you lack healthy self-esteem and don't love yourself. So he preys on your insecurities and emotions knowing you deserve better. And he does it more because you let him. See he wouldn't get that far with me, and men like him hate me to begin with because they know they can't use me. I used to feel the same way, I know. Just know they're the ones who are all the things he said about you. Because you're the very opposite of that. Don't accept it. And don't let him curse you like that. You're wonderful. And you deserve to be with people who appreciate you. Not bring you down and treat you lower than dirt.
You are literally right on about the insecurities I do have them and he knows that too. I just never seen him like that before.. you know what his brother did somewhat the same thing to me. When I was 17 his older brother who was like 20 asked me for nudes. But I never knew the guy I worked with was like that too, he seemed too nice to me. I’m so gullible😑
If I just don’t expect a lot for me... I just see all these people in happy relationship and it makes me sad. So sometimes I just force to low my standards so I can have something too. But anytime I do that it never works out or something bad happens.
Lowering your standards NEVER works. You know why? Because you're a quality person. You're not low. And you're not meant to below. Quantity is low. Quality is high. And you're a quality person. Therefore you're worth more than you think. Your met to be with high-quality men. And guess what? High-quality men are far and few, and very rare to find.
"I just see all these people in happy relationship and it makes me sad. " That's fake. I'll tell you right now don't even envy what they have because most relationships aren't relationships, to begin with, and they don't last. We wouldn't be having a 70% divorce rate and many singles why record high #s of sex partners and many exes and ex maybes if that was true. Don't even let that fool you. It's a mask to cover up real problems. Relationships take work and you have to build on them. It doesn't come easy. Anything that comes easy like that, unless it was meant to be and God has written for it to happen, is not a relationship.Listen. When I made the decision to be celibate I knew what struggles I was going face. I face many backlash and many judgments because people wanted to force things on me. Including men. I had men use my emotions against me, people abuse me, used me, robbed from me, had my youth stolen, people trying to force me into relationships, taking my friendship, love, and kindness for granted. People lying to me and lying on me about things that were private and even to the point of baring false witness against me to others, mocking me for my choices, shaming me for being different, not respecting me, period. You get called a religious prude. They think Because you believe in God that I deserve to be miserable because most men don't believe in God, so it makes 'sense' why they treat me differently and poorly. How I would make a bad mom, bad girlfriend, bad wife, and how nobody would want me. And I deserve to be alone. I suffered domestic violence and abuse at home. Bullying, threats to be harmed, abused, some even made such sexual remarks and I went through what you went through with that guy even on here by random men treated to rape me on here. In public too. So sweety, don't think your the only one who wasn't sexually harrassed against your will.
I also experienced assault. Not rape, but assault in the past as some old man touched and grabbed my breast. I have been through it. It is not acceptable what you're going through. And you don't deserve the treatment.
Ooh ok. Ig I will just wait on god to send me the right man for me. Because I’m tired of lowering my standards for these guys that don’t even try or just want one thing... you have been very helpful to me! I’m now understanding more of what I need and not need to do. I’m so thankful that you gave up your time to give me advice because I was truly struggling and confused. But I’m soo sorry that stuff happened to you. You didn’t deserve that at all. You seem so kind and caring ! You literally helped me so much tonight and I’m glad god sent you to me so you could help me.
- You stand your ground and say it crystal clear "I don't feel comfortable you talking to me like that. I want you to stop it"
If he still continues, cut the call and ignore him1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- He's probably into, you and thinks getting you aroused is the way to it.
Just say the magic words, "I like you only as a friend" and friendzone him. If he spits back, then block him and stay away from him. He's an imposter friend, pretending to be nice and funny.1|10|0Is this still revelant?I did... he asked me out but I said “no I’m trying to work on myself and I’m not ready for a relationship” but that didn’t stop it. He just kept telling me how hot I was and how bad he wanted to fuck me.
- If you're not interested in him that way, just tell him that that conversation made you feel uncomfortable and you'd appreciate him not discussing that again in future.2|10|0Is this still revelant?
I would, but anytime I tried to change the subject he would go right back to it... he told me too that I will be hearing from him again...
Changing the subject isn't enough. You need to be more direct and tell him this conversation goes no further and you won't discuss it.
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I'm sure it'll work. And if he refuses to acknowledge your request, threaten to end your conversations with him and then be sure to do it if he crosses that line again.
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25- Anonymous10 dhe's just using you to get off to. he's yanking his crank while he says all that pervy shit to you and doesn't care if you want to hear it or not. Ultimate disrespect and you should tell him you don't appreciate it and want no part of it. IF he's really your friend he will respect what you want.4|10|0
- Have you dated before this same friend? This might be a boundary issue most people face. I wish we were more trained to set and accept boundaries.1|00|0
- You can tell him to ease up a little bit but there's a good chance he won't and if you tell him that if you hadn't he's up or stop. Seeing him that will probably work2|00|0
- Anonymous10 dBe honest with him and let him know this is not the type of conversation you want to be having because it is making you very uncomfortable especially considering you aren’t dating2|00|0
- Set boundaries for him that he needs to respect2|10|0
- doesn't sound like you want him to stop..0|00|1
Well, if that is what you really want you just have to shoot him straight. Stop or we can't talk.
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