I want to break up with my boyfriend, is this a good reason?

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I dont trust him. We are a quarunteen couple. He hasn't met many of my friends but the one he did meet he flirted with her when we were just friends. I gotta admit I was pretty jealous. I'm still very jealous that this happened more than a year ago. He swears up and down he didn't stare at her but I was watching him do it and she was blushing as it was🤦🏾‍♀️... I don't know what to do. He won't let me break up with him. He wants to ALWAYS work it out

Answer 1

RemoErdosain

Yoda

If it was before the relationship started, then no, it isn't a good reason, I think. It's normal for him to be attracted to your friend and show that before the relationship. If she's hot, probably your next boyfriend will like her too, but that doesn't mean that he's going to do anything about it. If, however, you think you don't like this guy for any other reason, you just don't feel it for him, then you probably should break up. When you say that he "ALWAYS wants to work it out" that gives me the idea that you two are having lots of drama and trouble, and love isn't going both ways.

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Asker

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Weve had like 4 instances where I wanted to break up. But that's because I do have trust issues and I want to work through them am i doomed because of this
RemoErdosain

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You're not doomed as long as you work through them, if they're genuinely trust issues. Not everything is a "trust issue", sometimes people just want to get away with everything and they'll blame it on you. The situation you described, though, is, indeed, a trust issue.

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Asker

Weve had like 4 instances where I wanted to break up. But that's because I do have trust issues and I want to work through them am i doomed because of this

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RemoErdosain

You're not doomed as long as you work through them, if they're genuinely trust issues. Not everything is a "trust issue", sometimes people just want to get away with everything and they'll blame it on you. The situation you described, though, is, indeed, a trust issue.

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sensible27 | 524 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

If you're so so sure ask him and try to resolve it if he really has grown past it, if no it's your decision no

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Hangry22

Guru

Yes dump that guy rn. This will only eat you up. Flirting is cheating to me.

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Asker

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He did this before we were even official...
Hangry22

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Well anyway. If he saw your friend the next time, he would always feel that attraction towards her. If that picture bothers you so much, it's best to break up

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Asker

He did this before we were even official...

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Hangry22

Well anyway. If he saw your friend the next time, he would always feel that attraction towards her. If that picture bothers you so much, it's best to break up

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ItsTheNephilim | 1.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Yeah, dump him. He's being so disrespectful by doing that (flirting with your friends).

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FakeNIK | 109 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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You already have trust issues, Your relationship is not going to work... word of advice " discuss the matter with him see if this can be resolved"

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I did talk to him about it all he did was deny it... and he said he'll never do anything to hurt me. He said he was looking at me as well
FakeNIK

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Tell him how you exactly feel & ask him what is he going to do about it, if you feel confident then give it a go or else you're smart
Asker

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He asked what her name was when we were alone a while later :(
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FakeNIK

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Wow. I'm speechless 😶
FakeNIK

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Do you love him?
Asker

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Yea...
FakeNIK

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Then work on your relationship. Tell him that you don't like, when he mentions other girls & what are your insecurities.
FakeNIK

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Communicate with him & try to connect with him at a deeper level.
FakeNIK

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If he truly loves you he'll understand
Asker

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And he does just that. Thank you!
FakeNIK

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Give your 100 but if it doesn't work it's better to move on.
FakeNIK

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Sure miss