Is this what you call clinginess?

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so my crush updated his description of IG about trying hard. I noticed it and tried to figure out what he meant. that was bothering me a lot instead of texting him in 3 days, i texted him the next day and told him that i hope for the best and told him that i love him as usual and I will impose a meeting since we have been talking since 1 year now. the next time I log in, I got blocked out of the blue. Turns out he was worried about his results so... I messaged him after 2 days. I kind of lose my temper and told him not to dare go cold and block me and i know he is disappointed with his results. I tried to be helpful as usual but got blocked again.
This time I did not try again and let it go. It's been 1+ month since i did not reach him and i have no intention in doing so. Because he hurt me and I am the sort of person out of sight, out of mind.
Do you see my behaviour as being clingy, please note that I was writing to him almost every day since 1 year and it was never an issue.

Answer 1

Anonymous

“I told him not to dare go cold and block me” Yeah, you’ve no right to dictate was someone else is entitled to do or how they should feel, it’s not surprising you got blocked in all honesty.

Opinion Owner

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Asker

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that was after he blocked me once when i least expected it, i kind of lose my temper.
I regret saying this but it's understandable
Opinion Owner

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If you were more understanding and patient he may have come around instead. Relationships are COMPROMISE and thinking about the other equal to ourselves, not less so. And that means understanding THEIR needs as well as your own. Not everyone responds in exactly the same ways or has exactly the same needs. You communicate those to each other and respect them.
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Opinion Owner

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Maybe he just needed a time out. I get that it seems extreme but something must have happened to trigger it. Some people just need space and that’s okay, it’s nothing personal.
Opinion Owner

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Women tend to like to gather and vent. Men tend to like to go away on their own to deal with things. We’re just different speaking in general terms, neither is wrong.
Asker

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well I was understanding since the very beginning. You can't judge our story from this small excerpt.
I am just asking based on what is written, does it reflect clinginess or not?
Opinion Owner

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I’m only going on what you’ve said.
Opinion Owner

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I’d say more controlling. He may have meant that by saying clingy. Or maybe it was clingy since like you say, I don’t know the whole vibe.
Asker

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sorry i just noticed your latest replies. Thanks for sharing your opinion :)
Opinion Owner

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It happens though, it’s a classic scenario when younger so don’t feel like it’s the worst thing to ever happen or anything because it’s not.
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No worries.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Asker

that was after he blocked me once when i least expected it, i kind of lose my temper.
I regret saying this but it's understandable

Answer 4

Opinion Owner

If you were more understanding and patient he may have come around instead. Relationships are COMPROMISE and thinking about the other equal to ourselves, not less so. And that means understanding THEIR needs as well as your own. Not everyone responds in exactly the same ways or has exactly the same needs. You communicate those to each other and respect them.

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

Maybe he just needed a time out. I get that it seems extreme but something must have happened to trigger it. Some people just need space and that’s okay, it’s nothing personal.

Answer 6

Opinion Owner

Women tend to like to gather and vent. Men tend to like to go away on their own to deal with things. We’re just different speaking in general terms, neither is wrong.

Answer 7

Asker

well I was understanding since the very beginning. You can't judge our story from this small excerpt.
I am just asking based on what is written, does it reflect clinginess or not?

Answer 8

Opinion Owner

I’m only going on what you’ve said.

Answer 9

Opinion Owner

I’d say more controlling. He may have meant that by saying clingy. Or maybe it was clingy since like you say, I don’t know the whole vibe.

Answer 10

Asker

sorry i just noticed your latest replies. Thanks for sharing your opinion :)

Answer 11

Opinion Owner

It happens though, it’s a classic scenario when younger so don’t feel like it’s the worst thing to ever happen or anything because it’s not.

Answer 12

Opinion Owner

No worries.

Is this what you call clinginess?

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