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ConfidenceI would want the girl to be confident. Both she and I should be able to start conversations without becoming a nervous wreck and we should trust each other enough to not live in fear of judgement all the time. Friendship would help with that. But as a general rule, people are more inclined to spend time with people who demonstrate that they want to spend time with them. That's not to say she can't have a bad day once in a while; being there for your partner is an important thing. But she should be able to stand on her own two legs in general.But to be clear, an attractive girl is confident in the sense that they don't feel limited and are able to stand on their own when they need to, but not to the extent that they are never able to let their guard down and be vulnerable with their partner or are so 'confident' that they don't listen to others and do whatever they want just because they can despite their peers' or their partner's protest (unless there's an actual reason.) In other words, they shouldn't let 'confidence' become arrogance and they should still be able to have a sensitive side; that's what makes people human. And in the relationship, vulnerability is just as important and confidence. I think if there's a solid foundation of trust, some vulnerability among partners goes a long way and can really solidify a bond.
ModestyI'd want her not to want to wear clothes that reveal to much, speak too sexually, or act too sexually. I understand that's too much to ask for some people, but it's a bit thing to people like me. Sexual stuff can wait until a few years of a relationship have passed in my book at least.And today's society leads to people spending a lot of time analyzing their appearance and trying to look attractive, which often gets mixed up with being as promiscuous as possible. People seem to associate beauty with the amount of cleavage shown sometimes, rather than an art in itself. I hate that, and while I know and like quite a few people who show more skin than I'd like ideally, I would strongly prefer that they didn't. I don't think it does much good except to attract people sexually, and I don't think that leads to much but attracting the kinds of people a lot of girls want to avoid anyway. Plus, it's also a peer pressure thing.
C'mon it could've been lower
@sensible27 Oh, I was just stating the base level. It does get lower. Much, much lower. Case in point, I had a guy right here on GaG offer me $500 to shit on his chest.